Recent content by sxian

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    Cost Performance Of Rough-looking 40 Year Olds.

    Just to bring a little perspective to the table, I'm 54, so a 40 year old is young in my book. If I was 24, I'd probably feel differently. I have numerous posts in the other thread describing my various encounters with three 40+ year old women (one never married, one divorced, and one...
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    Japanese Dating Websites

    I'm going to add my thoughts here about JapanCupid.com, which I've used for the past month or so in anticipation of my trip to Japan. 1. A lot (all?) of women on the site are looking for long-term relationships. It's not great for short-term hookups unless the woman believes you might be a...
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    Marriage, a bad idea

    One additional note: I don't know if I mentioned that I'm married. 20+ years, although the last few have been somewhat rocky. On the day I returned from Japan, I was exhausted after the 10+ hour flight. I slept for a few hours, then awoke to find my wife in a particularly bad mood. We had a...
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    Marriage, a bad idea

    Yeah, it was nuts. She told me I was a liar and called me "zurui," which I found offensive in light of the fact that (1) she has a husband, (2) she has another boyfriend, and (3) she has two kids who live with her and who thought she was in Hakone with "some girls from the office." How's that...
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    Marriage, a bad idea

    Solong, about that "sixth sense," yeah, I think I have to agree. The married woman asked how many girls I had (she used the term "shower asobi" which I had not heard before), and I did my best to try to convince her that while I had many friends, she was the only one I was having sex with. I...
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    Marriage, a bad idea

    The best advice is not to get overextended. My date with the married woman in Hakone ended on a bad note when I told her I had to go to meet a friend Saturday night. We'd just spent 30 hours together so I figured she would understand. Wrong. She started crying on the train and I had to sit...
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    Using Friends Cell Phone For Reservation.

    I've rented from these guys many times. http://www.rentafonejapan.com/ Pick up the phone at the airport post office, use it while you're in Japan, drop it off at the airport on return. It's easy and not too expensive. The phones are not that great (no iPhone or Galaxy), but they do allow...
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    Sm Bars

    The apartment I rented in Roppongi was right next door to this place, so I walked by it every day. Never ventured in.
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    Marriage, a bad idea

    My last 3 days were somewhat of a blur. The married woman and I went to Hakone. Of course, it rained from almost the time we got on the train until we returned to Tokyo without pause. The onsen she booked was really nice (and expensive) though, with an in room bath (actually on the patio) so...
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    Marriage, a bad idea

    Solong, I take conversation classes at a school here in Tokyo and had a conversation with a teacher there about this subject just today. She explained that while Japanese study English in school, they are taught English by Japanese teachers who are not fluent in English. They mostly focus on...
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    Marriage, a bad idea

    My last three days in Tokyo. The never married woman met me in Ginza last night (2 beers). We started with drinks, then had dinner at one of those stand up places. It was surprisingly good and inexpensive (1 bottle of wine). Then to a small bar where she keeps a bottle (3-4 more drinks)...
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    Marriage, a bad idea

    Of the three women I've been fortunate to meet, two were through in person nampa and the other was through Japan Cupid. I did have a lot of opportunities to meet others through Japan Cupid, but just not enough time to follow up. I can see how majimekun's strategy might work well on that site...
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    Marriage, a bad idea

    Solong, I'll give you credit for not bailing on that date from hell earlier. The idea of sharing costs is a bit foreign to me. In America, the guy almost always pays, the exceptions being where the woman makes more money or if the guy is just flat out poor. I've paid for all my dates so far...
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    Mourning ... And After

    majimekun, I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. In my line of work, I deal with a lot of people who suffer similar losses, and as someone else mentioned, there is about a year's worth of grieving in front of you before the ghost begins to fade. I have no personal experience to share on this, but...
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    Marriage, a bad idea

    After Friday night's date with the divorced woman, I cancelled a date with the never been married woman on Saturday. I was too tired. I was supposed to go to a party with her that started at 2:00 in the afternoon but the idea of drinking so early after having drunk so much the night before was...