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Hello, i am new here, so, heres the thing, i am going to Japan i about 2 months, i will stay near Tokio, and i will stay in Japan for 2 weeks, i dont speak japanese, but i can speak english relativity fine, so, i was searching for datings sites in the internet but i couldnt find a trusty one, maybe you can help m e with that or gave me some ideas how i can meet a Japanese girle in my Trip


Thanks for the Help!!!!!
 
Japan cupid is legit site for traditional online dating. If you want to meet a girl who speaks English, go to Meetup, search Tokyo there are lots of "International Friendship Parties" where girls go to meet guys and vise versa. Lots of english club meetups. May be a good way to meet some one.
 
Or, go hang out a Hub bar in some in the major city areas. http://www.pub-hub.com/ -- Usually a mixed environment. ;)

But, as @impish mentioned, Japan Cupid is the best way to try and find someone before you arrive.l

It's all about your motivation :)
 
Any thoughts on particular Hub bars that are consistently fertile territory? (There are so many of them, some must be better than others…)

That's a good question... I'm honestly not completely sure which exact branch is better.

But you are right, some are better than others!
 
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Japan cupid is legit site for traditional online dating. If you want to meet a girl who speaks English, go to Meetup, search Tokyo there are lots of "International Friendship Parties" where girls go to meet guys and vise versa. Lots of english club meetups. May be a good way to meet some one.


thanks for the help!!!!
 
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There's a few ways. Perhaps the easiest use to be using Tinder. I used it quite a bit for a few months with some success. Especially being a foreigner, there's a high chance you'll get a match depending on how you look and present yourself. I think Tinder has changed since then (a couple years ago) maybe.

Another option: check the international meetups (stated above). Meetup.com hosts a lot of events, including dating ones and so on. They do some bar-hopping events which should obviously make it a lot easier. Try to check Facebook and Google if there's any big events happening and definitely join them. There's always girls who speak English at these events (maybe not a lot), but to be honest you don't need to know much Japanese to have a good time at these places.

As the posters above said, check out HUB for sure. I had no success there when I was single but I never really tried but I see a lot of Japanese girls and foreign guys. Just be warned though, there's a lot of foreign guys at these places so there's some competition for sure. All of them are alright but stick to central locations such as the ones in Shibuya. Machida, which is a bit further west, is usually busy too on weekend nights.

And if all of that fails... well.. there's always a lot of places you can pay some cash to screw around haha.

Good luck!
 
There's a few ways. Perhaps the easiest use to be using Tinder. I used it quite a bit for a few months with some success. Especially being a foreigner, there's a high chance you'll get a match depending on how you look and present yourself. I think Tinder has changed since then (a couple years ago) maybe.

Another option: check the international meetups (stated above). Meetup.com hosts a lot of events, including dating ones and so on. They do some bar-hopping events which should obviously make it a lot easier. Try to check Facebook and Google if there's any big events happening and definitely join them. There's always girls who speak English at these events (maybe not a lot), but to be honest you don't need to know much Japanese to have a good time at these places.

As the posters above said, check out HUB for sure. I had no success there when I was single but I never really tried but I see a lot of Japanese girls and foreign guys. Just be warned though, there's a lot of foreign guys at these places so there's some competition for sure. All of them are alright but stick to central locations such as the ones in Shibuya. Machida, which is a bit further west, is usually busy too on weekend nights.

And if all of that fails... well.. there's always a lot of places you can pay some cash to screw around haha.

Good luck!


Thanks man!!!!!
 
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Before you come, pipeline and try to set up as many dates as possible from online. Tinder plus and swipe in Japan from home, other dating sites, set up a bunch of dates.

If you still have free days:
IPs
HUB
Rigoletto/R2
Clubs in roppongi
 
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Tinder is a fail in my experience. I've been swiping for a month every day and had a total of 6-7 matches. I'm fairly handsome which has been confirmed by (japanese) females. So either they don't like foreigners or I'm unlucky.
Those matches either don't answer at all, answer with one word or stop answering after 3-4 messages of small talk. If you mention meeting them, they also stop answering. I've even tried talking to them in japanese.

Haven't been to a HUB yet but if there are so many other foreigners, the competition is too high and everything boils down to pure luck.
Any suggestions for bars in roppongi?
 
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You don't need to worry so much about so many other foreigners and competition IMO. If Japanese Women are calling you handsome then go anyway.. I've been there and girls were being chatted up by some guys and when they look my way I just smile, then they will come over to talk... It's like saving them from the dudes that are pestering them. I'm not Brad Pitt either LOL Blue Eyes definitely are nice to have in Japan ;) Don't seem desperate, or too eager, keep your words brief - no slang, dress properly - usually dress shirt that's been ironed, and slacks... or trend T-Shirt and Jeans.. Be confident - not a dish rag, and just say hello. If a girl makes eye contact with you and doesn't divert her gaze in 2 nanoseconds - and smiles when you do... then you have to make the move to say hello. Japanese women are very shy usually, so this little bit of eye contact and smile is her "aggressive" way to show she is interested - usually, not 100% of the time of course. It's a fine line of being polite and gentlemanly and leading the girl.. to being a creeper McCreaper as long as you can get her LINE ID or e-mail, or other contact details, then you can follow up later. When she is not with friends and more relaxed.. have a much better chance of leading the evening your way. If you want "Catch & Release" same night, then it's more of a challenge but this is not new... no matter where you are.
I've also been hit on when out with another girl.. I met one of my FWB this way... so if you have a Japanese friend that is a girl and she is cool with that - you can get some major game... it's like a competition thing to see if they can get your attention away from the woman you are with.. be careful tho... some will call you out as playboy...my reply usually is , "you saw I was with another woman - but that didn't stop you so how would you call that in Nihongo ?" :happy: If they get miffed and walk away, let them go... If they smile and tell you then it's going to be much more interesting.

Anyway - those are my 2 cents...

Gone are the days of Heartland...:( That used to be THE place to find Japanese Women, and you didn't need any game. It was like an unwritten rule, you go get a 500JPY beer and just wait.. the girls would come to you. At least that was my experience on several occasions. It has since closed and is now called TUSK - but it's not the same, beers are 1,000JPY/ea I don't mind paying that for beer, but not when there are more guys than girls... I wish there was a replacement of Heartland, but sadly have not been able to find one. Rigoletto is probably closest but it's usually a sausage fest.. I guess HUB has somewhat replaced Heartland, the Ebisu location... Ebisu seems to be more happening of late... but I don't know where everyone is going... Do any TAG members know of nice meet spots in Ebisu ?
 
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Went to HUB several times, bought a beer and waited. Nothing happened. There are too many foreigners and digsusting japanese guys. Of course you can be lucky and find a girls there but the chances are low. You can find one in any other bar too. Probably your chances are elsewhere because there are less foreigners and women are not constantly pestered by them.
 
Went to HUB several times, bought a beer and waited. Nothing happened. There are too many foreigners and digsusting japanese guys. Of course you can be lucky and find a girls there but the chances are low. You can find one in any other bar too. Probably your chances are elsewhere because there are less foreigners and women are not constantly pestered by them.

AFAIK there is nowhere in Japan (with the possible exception of IPs) where you can sit and wait and Japanese girls will come talk to you. Especially cute ones.

Take yourself by the balls and approach
 
Take yourself by the balls and approach

Tried that but as I said there are too many guys for too few girls and the girls get pestered constantly. Even if you catch one by herself, she already has developed a "shield" or she just gives everyone her LINE and thus competition is too high. It's a bad enviroment and mood there.
 
Japanese girls are not looking to meet anyone. They may conversate with you in a social setting or they may even hook up for a one night stand. These girls are to busy trying to become idols and live life better than their parents. Now, if you approach the older women then your chances are better.
 
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Tried that but as I said there are too many guys for too few girls and the girls get pestered constantly. Even if you catch one by herself, she already has developed a "shield" or she just gives everyone her LINE and thus competition is too high. It's a bad enviroment and mood there.

People get laid from hub every single night. Competition shouldn't mean anything if you've got skill & ability to get in there and game them

Japanese girls are not looking to meet anyone. They may conversate with you in a social setting or they may even hook up for a one night stand. These girls are to busy trying to become idols and live life better than their parents. Now, if you approach the older women then your chances are better.

...what? This is just so inaccurate it's ridiculous. They are happy to meet someone cool & fun. Agreed that older girls are easier though! But less... Tight ;)
 
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People get laid from hub every single night.

So true - just have enough beers for a bit of Dutch courage but not sloppy drunk and work the room, talk to guys too and you'll find a like-minded wingman very quickly.

The Hub by Shibuya Crossing is especially good for this. Keep an open mind and you'll have all sorts of adventures
 
I don't understand those concerned by the number of foreigner guys in Japan because it's actually a good thing.
The more gaijin guys there is here the more normal it will be for a girl to date a gaijin and the more they will be able to adapt to the difference (including language).
 
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Tried that but as I said there are too many guys for too few girls and the girls get pestered constantly. Even if you catch one by herself, she already has developed a "shield" or she just gives everyone her LINE and thus competition is too high. It's a bad enviroment and mood there.
competition is even higher in tinder but it doesn't mean you can't get laid on it.
 
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competition is even higher in tinder but it doesn't mean you can't get laid on it.

True, but I find that the competition is generally quite passive. There's competition but it's behind a phone screen so not as daunting for a lot of people. A lot of my friends have had zero luck with Tinder. When I used it I met up with two girls. One went great. Other one I had no interest in.
 
True, but I find that the competition is generally quite passive. There's competition but it's behind a phone screen so not as daunting for a lot of people. A lot of my friends have had zero luck with Tinder. When I used it I met up with two girls. One went great. Other one I had no interest in.

In my experience Tinder has been too much effort for the results. I think I hooked up with three girls from there; one ended up being very memorable occasion. Even after couple of years it's still my worst session ever!
 
In my experience Tinder has been too much effort for the results. I think I hooked up with three girls from there; one ended up being very memorable occasion. Even after couple of years it's still my worst session ever!

Really? That sucks. I met up with a girl who was in an on-and-off relationship. Had a lot of fun with her but I never pushed it too much. The first girl I met on there was a total no-go. We got drunk at the Golden Gai and she tried to make out with me and I ended up ignoring her on LINE haha.