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Has any of you gentlemen (and gentlewomen) ever had any luck with Tinder? I see lots of mature women, and they all look lonely...
 
We've talked about Tinder at length a few different times. If you search 'Tinder' from the top of the page, you'll get a lot of results.
 
Ok, sorry. Remove the thread if you want it please.
No need to be sorry. :)

If you still can't find an answer, let us know. :)

Tinder though, it's a very mixed bag and takes a fair amount of work. TInder also doesn't work the same in Japan as it does in other countries. People have different ideas of what it's used for.
 
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There are some similar threads that would be good to review *but* I'm just going to jump in real quick and mention that in Japan, people also look for platonic friends, hangouts and English lessons, etc. on Tinder. So you don't know what you're going to get until you actually talk to these people.
 
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Tinder though, it's a very mixed bag and takes a fair amount of work.

I have had good, bad and terrible encounters through Tinder in Japan but all in all in my opinion it takes far too much work to get anything out of it to be considered a good venue for hook-ups.

Basically you can get results with anything, like standing in the taxi queues, but I would not want to rely solely on either that or Tinder for my fun. Way too uncertain and risky to bet my mental health on those. :confused::D
 
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I’ve been wondering if Tinder would be a good resource to find models to work with, since sites like Model Mayhem aren’t worth much these days (except for getting hundreds of friend requests from retouchers) ;)
 
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I’ve been wondering if Tinder would be a good resource to find models to work with, since sites like Model Mayhem aren’t worth much these days (except for getting hundreds of friend requests from retouchers) ;)

Depends on what your actual real goals are. If you are legitimately looking for models to shoot quality photos with (not just a creep with a camera) and your photos are actually good then call agencies and ask them
if you can test shoot with their girls. You wont be able to use the really top level agencies, but a lot of lower level ones have a ton of fresh/new faces that need pictures for their portfolio so they will let you shoot them for free
with the condition that you will give them good quality photos that they can use in their portfolio (which will help the girls get work).

Obv if you just want an excuse to shoot hot girls and arent actually serious about photography then ignore what I said.
 
Thing is, I don’t know which agencies to contact as most of the commercial clients I photograph for are in fields other than the model industry.

Years ago when I would come to Tokyo, it was easier to contact models and set up teams for shoots in Japan via Model Mayhem, but lately MM seems to only have GWCs, cellphone “models”, and TONS of retouchers.
 
I have had good, bad and terrible encounters through Tinder in Japan but all in all in my opinion it takes far too much work to get anything out of it to be considered a good venue for hook-ups.

Basically you can get results with anything, like standing in the taxi queues, but I would not want to rely solely on either that or Tinder for my fun. Way too uncertain and risky to bet my mental health on those. :confused::D

This is my take as well. I woke up this morning to a tinder match from a women who wanted foreigners to learn about and rent kimonos. Too much work to turn her to the dark side.
 
I'm a decent looking Asian guy and don't have shit for luck on tinder or okc. I really feel it's just full of gaijin hunters, anecdotally of course

I actually had "better" luck with online dating in the usa....but only among weird white otaku girls with yellow fever :(
 
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I was just in japan
I set up three tindr dates for when arrived. One was awesome.. cute classy funny office worker who spoke great english originally from okinawa. We drank all night went karaoke then banged till the sun cameup. I met her three times in two weeks. She Wasnt an easy hookup... she was super reluctant to come back to my hotel... it took booze and a lot of convincing. We're really cool now... shes visiting me in canada in Feb. The second tindr date didnt go as well. Girl was kind..but quiet... wouldnt do more than makeout. But i cant hold it against her.... nice gal really...we still chat here and there. Girl three was heavy makeup, cake face party girl. Hot.... but.... worn out? Lol she looked 25ish.. fun...but she had expensive tastes. Wasted 200 bucks on her... but i collected on my investment in the bedroom
She was kinky! But i wouldnt wanna meet her again.

I swipped maybe 300 woman and ended up meeting 3. Thats 1% conversion! Im white, friendly and better than average looking, those were my experiences... tindr sucks in japan...
 
I was just in japan
I set up three tindr dates for when arrived. One was awesome.. cute classy funny office worker who spoke great english originally from okinawa. We drank all night went karaoke then banged till the sun cameup. I met her three times in two weeks. She Wasnt an easy hookup... she was super reluctant to come back to my hotel... it took booze and a lot of convincing. We're really cool now... shes visiting me in canada in Feb. The second tindr date didnt go as well. Girl was kind..but quiet... wouldnt do more than makeout. But i cant hold it against her.... nice gal really...we still chat here and there. Girl three was heavy makeup, cake face party girl. Hot.... but.... worn out? Lol she looked 25ish.. fun...but she had expensive tastes. Wasted 200 bucks on her... but i collected on my investment in the bedroom
She was kinky! But i wouldnt wanna meet her again.

I swipped maybe 300 woman and ended up meeting 3. Thats 1% conversion! Im white, friendly and better than average looking, those were my experiences... tindr sucks in japan...
Good summary... Tinder in Japan is a big opposite when coming from a country that knows how to use it.
 
Good summary... Tinder in Japan is a big opposite when coming from a country that knows how to use it.
I discovered tinder in Japan last year so I didn't have any basis of comparison. it worked well but it bored me pretty fast, I tried OKcupid too and it worked even better but bored me as well. I think I'm old school and I prefer to have the meeting before the talks. I don't enjoy texting with someone I haven't even met before.
 
Tinder is too broad a net in my opinion as you can't refine your search beyond age.
But I'd be curious to know what others think is better. OKC and Happn are just not as effective imho.
 
But I'd be curious to know what others think is better.
tbh, there is a large population on Tinder, at least around Tokyo. The question is about quality and who's actually willing to meet vs. just chatting.
I did not have much success when I tried it but I just didn't try that hard either. Someone told me that Tinder was more useful when you bought the upgrade or at least it made it easier to connect with more people at a faster pace. Time vs. Money vs. Investment, it could be a expensive waste of time.
 
I'm trying Tinder now and agree it takes a lot of effort with little results. That being said, I may make it happen with a Brazilian cougar I've been chatting with every day. She speaks little English so we converse in Japanese. Pics, flirts, etc... last night we talked on the phone for the first time after a few hours of pretty steamy Line chat. I was quite surprised after about 30 minutes when it became obvious that she wanted ramp up the conversation. Damn, it turned into full-on phone sex with both of us talking each other to very happy endings. I have a reasonable amount of experience, but that was a first! I hope to meet her soon. Her last text was "good night. When we really meet it will set the hotel on fire."
I guess I'm a Tinder fan at the moment.
 
So, I had my two dates: first one with a Brazilian-Japanese and second with an Ukrainian. First was nice (she looks decent, a little on the chubby side, but takes care of herself and has a good personality), we went to an expat bar in Ebisu and had a good time. She was chatty and fun, music in the bar was great and in the end we got to know each other a little bit more. We are still in touch and chat regularly. No sex happened that night, but my gut feeling tells me she could become a good friend.
Second date, Ukrainian woman, was as pleasant and fun as a cock punch. She is definitively not great looking and doesn't know how to dress (she was looking like her clothes have been chosen by someone drunk and daltonic). Not a great conversationalist and we went around Ikebukuro for a couple of hours, whereas all I wanted was to sit down and have a coffee.
So, that's it. Tinder is a lot of work and patience for a tiny outcome. I'm currently chatting with other ten ladies and have no idea whether I will have a date in the future or not.
 
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So, I had my two dates: first one with a Brazilian-Japanese and second with an Ukrainian. First was nice, (she looks decent, a little on the chubby side, but takes care of herself and has a good personality) we went to an expat bar in Ebisu and had a good time. She was chatty and fun, music in the bar was great and in the end we got to know each other a little bit more. We are still in touch and chat regularly. No sex happened that night, but my gut feeling tells me she could become a good friend.
Second date, Ukrainian woman, was as pleasant and fun as a cock punch. She is definitively not great looking and doesn't know how to dress (she was looking like her clothes have been chosen by someone drunk and daltonic). Not a great conversationalist and we went around Ikebukuro for a couple of hours, whereas all I wanted was to sit down and have a coffee.
So, that's it. Tinder is a lot of work and patience for a tiny outcome. I'm currently chatting with other ten ladies and have no ideas whether I will have a date in the future or not.
Thanks for the report, seems about average... definitely takes a lot of work with not much reward.
 
I have said this on a few of the other Tinder discussions so I will say it here too: Tinder works best if you get some really good photos of yourself to post and it's probably a waste of time without that one important step. Understand that the picture you post is going to be the make-or-break decision for the first few seconds somebody is reviewing your profile.

I had a buddy who is a good photographer take about 70 shots of me and then sorted out three good ones from that.

I'm about 60, am totally up front about being married with kids, and have had a couple dates (one leading to a night of sex) and a good number of solid prospects that I am only limited by my work schedule to hook up with - 3 others have agreed to meet as soon as we can find time that matches our schedules.
 
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I have said this on a few of the other Tinder discussions so I will say it here too: Tinder works best if you get some really good photos of yourself to post and it's probably a waste of time without that one important step. Understand that the picture you post is going to be the make-or-break decision for the first few seconds somebody is reviewing your profile.

I had a buddy who is a good photographer take about 70 shots of me and then sorted out three good ones from that.

I'm about 60, am totally up front about being married with kids, and have had a couple dates (one leading to a night of sex) and a good number of solid prospects that I am only limited by my work schedule to hook up with - 3 others have agreed to meet as soon as we can find time that matches our schedules.
How do your potential dates look?
 
I've had a relatively better experience but maybe it's just beginners luck.
I met a Japanese woman who I 'matched with' on Tinder. As soon as I matched with her, I sent her a message and quickly moved the conversation to Line (taking a cue from some of the seniors here). After that it was a week of conversations with a few suggestive messages. Came to know she's married 6 years with no kids and husband works in metropolitan tokyo govt, so hasn't got time for her. Met her in a park yesterday evening and after a couple of hours of walking, exclaimed how many hotels there are around this park. She told me most of them are LH; taking that cue I manouvered her to a LH, she followed smiling. The sex was better than meh, but she's not so young and we couldn't go in the bathtub the second time. Hope for a better next time!

There's two more ladies I'm speaking to on Line (after meeting on Tinder), hope they turn up when I ask to meet. They're all above 35 though, haven't had luck with younger girls. Most of them don't even reply despite 'matching' with them. But I agree with ShowaJiDai, put up your best pics and dress well, be a gentleman (I guess that goes for any date)