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totally astonished me. I mean...seriously?! "Universal"...really?? Are you joking? Or, since you mention definitions, maybe you are using one or more of the key words with some unconventional or unfamiliar meaning?

If you are interested in this, you might want to read some articles by Sam Harris, who is often confronted by dimwit religionists who claim that it takes a god to give us "morals". Because without Yahwe or Allah we could never figure out what is right or wrong.

Nonsense. In fact we can. We don´t even need much more than Kant`s categorial imperative, or the golden rule. Everything else flows from that. Harming others for your own benefit is not ethical in any system.... if it is in any of your high-falluting ethicist friends, they need to start over.
 
Based on literally decades of experience in Internet forums of many many sorts (anyone recall the heyday of network news groups...well before the web came along?), I am dead certain that posting negative and disrespectful evaluations/judgements of other participants and/or their actions, opinions or whatever (e.g., such as calling them disgusting or stupid or immoral or whatever) is useless and counterproductive in the extreme almost

So if a child molester pops up here and brags about his "preference", you remain tolerant and unjudgemental? Really?
Somehow I doubt that you follow your own ethical multiculturalism...
 
For what it's worth, I'm squarely in the Sam Harris camp on this one. But that conversation should probably move to a new thread, agreed?
 
If you are interested in this, you might want to read some articles by Sam Harris, who is often confronted by dimwit religionists who claim that it takes a god to give us "morals". Because without Yahwe or Allah we could never figure out what is right or wrong.

I am not particularly interested (these days) in the role of religion in morality, said nothing about it in my post you quote (except to compare the normative values on which ethical systems are based to religious imperatives...but I was saying something about the former, not the latter) and have nothing to say about it now. If you want joust with straw men religious moralists, please go ahead, but it has nothing to do with my points about why ethical systems are not even remotely universal.

Nonsense. In fact we can. We don´t even need much more than Kant`s categorial imperative, or the golden rule. Everything else flows from that. Harming others for your own benefit is not ethical in any system.... if it is in any of your high-falluting ethicist friends, they need to start over.

First of all, there ARE *logical* ethical systems in which, for example, violent self-defense is consider proper/acceptable behavior. In what way is that not harming others for one's own benefit? And, there are other *logical* ethical systems in which violent self-defense is improper/unacceptable behavior.

Second and more fundamentally, the reason that Kant's categorical imperative is an insufficient basis for a complete ethical system is that very few ethical issues/distinctions (either in theory or real life) are as simple as something like, "Should I hit this man over the head with something heavy so that I may take his money?" On things that simple, maybe there is close to a universal answer (although there are systems of ethics which would take into account how badly and for what purpose you needed his money and others that would not). Rather, the vast majority of ethical dilemmas are much more complicated. They could be something like, "Should I do A or B or do nothing?" where all three options have some mixture of harmful and beneficial consequences, including different types of harm and benefit, for various people involved in the situation, often but not always including oneself. Sometimes the same people may receive both harm and benefits of different sorts and in different amounts based on which option is selected. If you want some real world examples, you can easily find extensive ethical debates on, say, the testing of drugs and medical procedures on human and non-human subjects or on the use of drones in warfare or on balancing property rights against human rights or on balancing the general public good against individual political or personal liberty...on and on. Or, to get back closer to the matter at hand, on the trade-off between harming one's spouse with lies vs harming her/him with hurtful truths... And then there are issues of what constitutes harm; for example, does euthanasia harm someone or benefit them and in what circumstances?

Anyway and fwiiw, all of this appears to me to be both so blindingly obvious and so extremely tangential to both the purposes of this board and this thread, that I don't propose to pursue the matter further. If you really believe that all of the ethical conundrums of the sort I listed above can be resolved in some universal way with nothing more than the golden rule and a bit of logic, I'll just disagree and pass on to other matters. However, I do think you would be doing humanity a great service by writing a few books (or blogs or whatever) to put an end to all the discord and distress that people experience when confronting difficult ethical choices. If it is also easy and logical in your perspective, please share your wisdom. Surely it is the ethical thing to do! :D

-Ww
 
So if a child molester pops up here and brags about his "preference", you remain tolerant and unjudgemental? Really?
Somehow I doubt that you follow your own ethical multiculturalism...

Reductio ad absurdum doesn't play here, since I already allowed that there are rare exceptions in extreme cases. See the bit of my post below which I have made bold and which you edited out of the quote in your post. In other words, just because there may be some few cases where, say, calling another participant or his/her actions disgusting is warranted, it does not follow that it is a productive thing to do on a regular basis.

Based on literally decades of experience in Internet forums of many many sorts (anyone recall the heyday of network news groups...well before the web came along?), I am dead certain that posting negative and disrespectful evaluations/judgements of other participants and/or their actions, opinions or whatever (e.g., such as calling them disgusting or stupid or immoral or whatever) is useless and counterproductive in the extreme almost (but not quite) always.

Beyond that, note that I did not claim that I personally am nonjudgmental but only that it is rarely useful and often harmful (to the online community in question) to post such judgements, especially in derogatory and personal language. And even in the extreme pedophile case you posit, it is very unlikely that taking the person to task online will accomplish anything positive, isn't it? If it has any effect at all, the most likely one is that it will convince the person to hide their sexual predations more carefully. Would that be a positive outcome in your opinion?

-Ww
 
Second and more fundamentally, the reason that Kant's categorical imperative is an insufficient basis for a complete ethical system is that very few ethical issues/distinctions (either in theory or real life) are as simple as something like, "Should I hit this man over the head with something heavy so that I may take his money?" On things that simple, maybe there is close to a universal answer

Fine. Point taken. Lets keep it simple. Do you like to get lied to in order to get taken advantage off? So the Nigerian spammer/scammer who sends you an mail claiming to be a bank official who wants to give you a 15 million dollar inheritance, if you just send him all sorts of personal details is an open ethical question to you? It is a complicated, multi-facetted answer to say if what he is doing is OK or not? Fine! In that case, just say the people who lie to girls in order to get laid are OK with you. It is really the same thing.

I don´t respect the Nigerian scammers, and I don´t respect the people who lie to girls in order to get laid. They are really doing the same thing. But then again, my ethical system is blissfully simple.... I guess I am just a simpleton.

Enjoy your multi-ethical complexity....

Sorry if I sound rude--- bit drunk right now. Yasumi
 
Just for clarity and accuracy, note that I have said nothing at all about what I personally think of "people who lie to girls in order to get laid" nor about whether I myself do so (I don't, fwiiw). In this thread the ONLY thing I was trying to discuss was the (bogus, imo) claim that ethics is "universal" because it is a matter of simple logic.

Actually, to correct myself, I also briefly discussed one other topic - namely the likely practical consequences of expressing harsh negative judgements of other participants on internet forums, based on my own long experiences online.

That's all.

-Ww
 
Actually, to correct myself, I also briefly discussed one other topic - namely the likely practical consequences of expressing harsh negative judgements of other participants on internet forums, based on my own long experiences online.

I said that I have no respect for scammers. If that is a "harsh judgement" in your mind, we just have to disagree. If you feel that scammers deserve respect, fine....
 
I said that I have no respect for scammers. If that is a "harsh judgement" in your mind, we just have to disagree. If you feel that scammers deserve respect, fine....

Key word made bold below:

Actually, to correct myself, I also briefly discussed one other topic - namely the likely practical consequences of expressing harsh negative judgements of other participants on internet forums, based on my own long experiences online.

I am not talking about having negative or harsh judgements about people around us, which we nearly all do presumably, but about the wisdom of expressing such judgements frequently and bluntly. I made the word "wisdom" bold do emphasize that I am not disputing your (or anyone's) right to express such judgments...just saying it is often a bad idea.

What I am saying is pretty trivial and obvious really; it is just the online version of offline behavior nearly everyone practices. Namely, when one observes someone in everyday life, be they stranger or friend or co-worker or neighbor or whatever, doing something of which one disapproves (e.g., unjustified in one's opinion lying to a third person), confronting them and bluntly criticizing them about it only very rarely has positive/helpful consequences. Mostly it just creates conflict, drama and discord without affecting the objectionable behavior. Thus, few people do it on any regular basis.

-Ww
 
Both of you guys have helped a lot of people our around here.

I just wanted us to be cautious about this kind of thing. All sorts of derailments can occur with this type of subject matter.
 
Everyone:

Closing this thread now. Productive discussions are fine, however I see a lot of this going in circles and it creates a bad vibe for new members to the site or the hobby in general.

Please keep in mind that your comments are posted publicly and partially represent the voice of this site. I've received at least six complaints overall, including two sent to Chris earlier. The comment is 'hostile' posting environment. That is not what TAG is about.

We are open to just about any type of discussion except that of which involves minors (under 18) or illegal trade of narcotics. If you do not agree with another member's stance, position or opinion, then just respect it and walk away.

Thank you for your understanding. Further actions will be handed out per-member instead of globally as deemed necessary by Chris or myself. (or, in rare cases, Karen... you'd best have some lube for yourself if she lays into you. :) )

-Eliah
 
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