I'm writing this quickly so it might be replete with errors:
Where do I even begin? I just got past probably the third time of going through the "We are over" remarks from a girl who worked at one of the major providers here in Tokyo for foreigners. I won't say where, but basically she has a twin sister she worked with temporarily at the provider. I met her on the street about 10 months ago. We developed a relationship. I lied that I was married with a kid the first two weeks until she asked me. I opened up everything. She was visibly distraught about that.
It wasn't until 8 weeks into our relationship, after she left Japan that I found out on my own that she was doing outcall services. She left, and tried to tell me that her and the sister were "thinking about a sex business." I confessed that I had already known everything. She was speechless.
We get past that with the first "BYE BYE Then" dump, I delete her, she comes back apologizing, she does her outcall thing, never informs me she's in Tokyo for a month as promised, yet we make plans in late September to go to America and the Turks and Caicos together despite her acting entirely crazy over me prior to that. She even asked me to meet her at Shinjuku Station hours before her last flight out of Japan among many other overly crazy behaviors of passion (both in public and in the hotel). So Basically spent 5 weeks with her early last year face-to-face, and the 2nd time we meet face-to-face is January, in Tokyo, fly to America, and then Turks and Caicos together. We both had an amazing time together. We got to experience arguably the best beach in the world. Even my Jamaican friend said "She'll never get such an experience again."
In The T&C is where another fall-out happened again. About my marriage, I have a kid, I should be paying her money and that would change our relationship and ultimately her feelings towards me. I told her 'no way,' it then becomes a business transaction (uh , excuse me. we just finished a $200+ dinner in T&C at a very private resort in a romantic setting). She was texting the twin while I was in the bathroom. I could see that. The twin is all business (i've met her a couple times). No talking for the rest of the night. We were both sleepless, She's humming and texting in the hotel room. Hugs me, huffing and puffing, pushes me away, yada yada. It' wasn't until later the next day that we took an amazing boat ride to one of the private islands that she began the emotional swing to "I'm crazy about you" again. So all ended well with that trip and we took a business class flight back to Tokyo (her first) after doing some face-abuse-f__king in the airport lounge shower (a first for me).
On the flight back everything is ok but she had mentioned she didn't want to continue because I'm married and it hurt her. Ok. I agreed. We arrived in Tokyo, hugged, she looked sad and said bye. I deleted her from Line, it hurt me too. But I still yearned to communicate with her despite her telling me to not chat with her anymore. She has this face and character that makes me laugh, and laugh hard. Despite her saying no, I still tried to contact her in Tokyo (she had 7 days in a hotel here - on call as I found out through her BDSM agency (she does really hard stuff I can't begin to describe).
She refused the first day, but a few days later I tried to introduce her to doing a facial video with a buddy. She basically told me to F-OFF! But within a day we made amends and I told her I was horny and she invited me over to her hotel since she just had 2 days left in Gotanda. I told her to reserve a restaurant, she reserved a valentines day candy heart with our names on it and she took photos of us. I was a little surprised, but she enjoyed it. She goes back to her host country and things are going well until....
A week ago she suddenly, and out of the blue, during a good conversation of the difference between men and women (men are dogs women are cats), she suddenly says "you shouldn't contact me anymore, treat your family," along with something like you are a submissive man. Keep in mind she's the submissive girl in her RP and most of the time when we traveled together. Ok, so I don't contact her. 2 days pass, I don't contact her, and she sees that yet suddenly starts sending me all different photos of her with her sister together smiling at the camera, her doing things with friends, her making food, her plans to go overseas, etc, etc. This lasted about 5 days or so. It was like nothing happened in her mind. I put her on ice for a week, no response until the 7th day. I apologized for ignoring her. She said it was all ok. Everything is going great again for 48 hours afterward - sharing our memories of Turks and Caicos and seemingly strong "I miss you" yada yada.
Then, she requested a video call after having a good conversation. The next morning the video had a bad connection, couldn't speak or see her well. Suddenly after the call, she said "BTW if you betray me in our relationship, I won't forgive you." What is that sudden comment, and about what? She knew our circumstances. The shit hit the fan in the worst way possible later that day. I let lose on her, she said she's not interested in a married man she sees no future in (she told me that the first time months ago). I told her I made myself clear after meeting her the first month yet when I found out about her job I never criticised her line of work or who she was texting while with me. It became worse by the moment, yet I held restraint. But she told me it was ok to look down on her (I assume degrade her). I told I will if it were to get to that point, but didn't want to go down that road. I got a sharp tongue and told her to stop spewing this in love nonsense if she has no merit behind it. That's when she told me "I love you," "Shall I say it again? I f-king love you," multiple times ultimately telling me to F-OFF Mother-F-er, etc etc. It was bad. To put things into perspective, she once had asked me if I thought she had AVPD (Aversion Personality Disorder).
It's way too long to go into details, but basically this girl has been so wishy-washy from day 1. I simply don't get it, passionate and crazy in person, until she leaves and is away and then becomes very cold and combative. If she truely has AVPD it would add some sense to all this. I'm at a loss as to why she says my words are cheap, and I'm a middle-aged miserable man, and she says she's a loser. She had pissed me off with such ignorant comments of us spending only 10 days 24/hours a day together in the past year and I told her that it's idiotic to judge people so quickly. Yet she still thinks in such a way. I'm at a loss and wondering about your input. 19 years of long-term relationships with 3 Asian women gives me a little confidence in thinking I'm a normal person with most women. I open to all criticism and comments. The drama that I have experienced with this girl (yet she is still such a beautiful person) is light-years above any other woman, Asian for that matter, I've had a relationship with, yet with so little face-to-face time together.
Where do I even begin? I just got past probably the third time of going through the "We are over" remarks from a girl who worked at one of the major providers here in Tokyo for foreigners. I won't say where, but basically she has a twin sister she worked with temporarily at the provider. I met her on the street about 10 months ago. We developed a relationship. I lied that I was married with a kid the first two weeks until she asked me. I opened up everything. She was visibly distraught about that.
It wasn't until 8 weeks into our relationship, after she left Japan that I found out on my own that she was doing outcall services. She left, and tried to tell me that her and the sister were "thinking about a sex business." I confessed that I had already known everything. She was speechless.
We get past that with the first "BYE BYE Then" dump, I delete her, she comes back apologizing, she does her outcall thing, never informs me she's in Tokyo for a month as promised, yet we make plans in late September to go to America and the Turks and Caicos together despite her acting entirely crazy over me prior to that. She even asked me to meet her at Shinjuku Station hours before her last flight out of Japan among many other overly crazy behaviors of passion (both in public and in the hotel). So Basically spent 5 weeks with her early last year face-to-face, and the 2nd time we meet face-to-face is January, in Tokyo, fly to America, and then Turks and Caicos together. We both had an amazing time together. We got to experience arguably the best beach in the world. Even my Jamaican friend said "She'll never get such an experience again."
In The T&C is where another fall-out happened again. About my marriage, I have a kid, I should be paying her money and that would change our relationship and ultimately her feelings towards me. I told her 'no way,' it then becomes a business transaction (uh , excuse me. we just finished a $200+ dinner in T&C at a very private resort in a romantic setting). She was texting the twin while I was in the bathroom. I could see that. The twin is all business (i've met her a couple times). No talking for the rest of the night. We were both sleepless, She's humming and texting in the hotel room. Hugs me, huffing and puffing, pushes me away, yada yada. It' wasn't until later the next day that we took an amazing boat ride to one of the private islands that she began the emotional swing to "I'm crazy about you" again. So all ended well with that trip and we took a business class flight back to Tokyo (her first) after doing some face-abuse-f__king in the airport lounge shower (a first for me).
On the flight back everything is ok but she had mentioned she didn't want to continue because I'm married and it hurt her. Ok. I agreed. We arrived in Tokyo, hugged, she looked sad and said bye. I deleted her from Line, it hurt me too. But I still yearned to communicate with her despite her telling me to not chat with her anymore. She has this face and character that makes me laugh, and laugh hard. Despite her saying no, I still tried to contact her in Tokyo (she had 7 days in a hotel here - on call as I found out through her BDSM agency (she does really hard stuff I can't begin to describe).
She refused the first day, but a few days later I tried to introduce her to doing a facial video with a buddy. She basically told me to F-OFF! But within a day we made amends and I told her I was horny and she invited me over to her hotel since she just had 2 days left in Gotanda. I told her to reserve a restaurant, she reserved a valentines day candy heart with our names on it and she took photos of us. I was a little surprised, but she enjoyed it. She goes back to her host country and things are going well until....
A week ago she suddenly, and out of the blue, during a good conversation of the difference between men and women (men are dogs women are cats), she suddenly says "you shouldn't contact me anymore, treat your family," along with something like you are a submissive man. Keep in mind she's the submissive girl in her RP and most of the time when we traveled together. Ok, so I don't contact her. 2 days pass, I don't contact her, and she sees that yet suddenly starts sending me all different photos of her with her sister together smiling at the camera, her doing things with friends, her making food, her plans to go overseas, etc, etc. This lasted about 5 days or so. It was like nothing happened in her mind. I put her on ice for a week, no response until the 7th day. I apologized for ignoring her. She said it was all ok. Everything is going great again for 48 hours afterward - sharing our memories of Turks and Caicos and seemingly strong "I miss you" yada yada.
Then, she requested a video call after having a good conversation. The next morning the video had a bad connection, couldn't speak or see her well. Suddenly after the call, she said "BTW if you betray me in our relationship, I won't forgive you." What is that sudden comment, and about what? She knew our circumstances. The shit hit the fan in the worst way possible later that day. I let lose on her, she said she's not interested in a married man she sees no future in (she told me that the first time months ago). I told her I made myself clear after meeting her the first month yet when I found out about her job I never criticised her line of work or who she was texting while with me. It became worse by the moment, yet I held restraint. But she told me it was ok to look down on her (I assume degrade her). I told I will if it were to get to that point, but didn't want to go down that road. I got a sharp tongue and told her to stop spewing this in love nonsense if she has no merit behind it. That's when she told me "I love you," "Shall I say it again? I f-king love you," multiple times ultimately telling me to F-OFF Mother-F-er, etc etc. It was bad. To put things into perspective, she once had asked me if I thought she had AVPD (Aversion Personality Disorder).
It's way too long to go into details, but basically this girl has been so wishy-washy from day 1. I simply don't get it, passionate and crazy in person, until she leaves and is away and then becomes very cold and combative. If she truely has AVPD it would add some sense to all this. I'm at a loss as to why she says my words are cheap, and I'm a middle-aged miserable man, and she says she's a loser. She had pissed me off with such ignorant comments of us spending only 10 days 24/hours a day together in the past year and I told her that it's idiotic to judge people so quickly. Yet she still thinks in such a way. I'm at a loss and wondering about your input. 19 years of long-term relationships with 3 Asian women gives me a little confidence in thinking I'm a normal person with most women. I open to all criticism and comments. The drama that I have experienced with this girl (yet she is still such a beautiful person) is light-years above any other woman, Asian for that matter, I've had a relationship with, yet with so little face-to-face time together.
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