Clients - how do you feel about escorts/providers being in a relationship/married?

I really had no P4P plans for my recent Tokyo trip, but on my last night I gave in and arranged a date. I’ve had my eye on this pretty young lady for some time. As soon as I met her at the lobby of my hotel, I knew I made the right decision.
Play was very good, but it was our conversation — the in-betweens — that made the evening a winner. We talked about music, fashion, art, health and fitness, hanami season, food, wine and the weather. Yes, the weather. She was knowledgeable, passionate, courteous ... I nearly felt like Dr. Hannibal Lecter when he first met FBI agent Clarice Starling.
Feeling like I had a high school crush, I requested for an extension. That done, I suggested room service. She smiled with delight.
So we continued talking and it felt like the kind of date I used to enjoy when I was younger. After I drank the last drop of wine in my glass, I sighed and said in a soft voice: “Your boyfriend is so lucky.”
There was an awkward silence. She looked away, and said she had no boyfriend, and that she had no desire to start a relationship. “He just used me,” she said of her last boyfriend.
I felt stupid and guilty. I had hit a nerve. Still, she smiled at me and faintly said it was no problem. I played some slow music and we held hands until it was time for her to go.
I accompanied her out of the hotel towards a footbridge. She thanked me, gave me a light kiss, waved goodbye and went on her way.
As I watched her walk, I wished her the best of what this world has to offer. I also wished to kick her no-good boyfriend’s ass — if not in this life then the next.
 
relationship status doesnt matter as long as she has "fire of love" in her eyes, not only "eagle eyes for money"
;)
 
relationship status doesnt matter as long as she has "fire of love" in her eyes, not only "eagle eyes for money"
;)

Easily done, at least if it is the fire of love for money.
 
relationship status doesnt matter as long as she has "fire of love" in her eyes, not only "eagle eyes for money"
;)
I enjoy "eye for an eye, tooth for a tooth" approach during appointments.
 
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Easily done, at least if it is the fire of love for money.

But then better to use coins than banknotes , you never know .
Also it must be fun to pay an escort in 10 and 100 yen coins I guess, in a big leather purse like in the middle age
 
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providers may have to listen to a client talk about their job, SO, or other BS... I've never understood why guys do that.... why unload emotional shit to a provider that's not their purpose - go see a therapist if you need that...

While I agree with most of your posts and mostly with your general attitude toward escorts and mongering, I think you are missing the mark in the above quote. Ime, many escorts will tell you that a sympathetic female ear is as or more important to many of their clients, especially their long-term regulars, than the sexual services. Moreover, many will say that this is a part of their job/services that gives them great satisfaction. Of course, other escorts feel very differently. Fwiiw, imo it is too restrictive a view of p4p interactions to claim that they should not include emotional support. Quality sex is where the physical and the emotional meet.

-Ww
 
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Ime, many escorts will tell you that a sympathetic female ear is as or more important to many of their clients, especially their long-term regulars, than the sexual services. Moreover, many will say that this is a part of their job/services that gives them great satisfaction.

-Ww

THIS.
I can’t like this post enough.
Cheers.
 
If the provider offers the information Only then I would know. otherwise I would not ask, nun my business TBH... I don't care how a woman makes her money, who she spends her time with, or any of that as long as when we are together we are focused on each other at that moment in time to give each other as much pleasure, enjoyment, comfort, etc. as possible in the time frame allotted. The better connection/chemistry obviously means better passion and pleasure (ok not always) Sometimes providers have too much drama/stress and so when they meet a client they are distant... I understand that, but IMO the appointment should be re-scheduled because it is not fair to either party..
However, usually the need for income out weighs the personal things a provider is going thru.. This is my guess anyway. I know... I know... providers may have to listen to a client talk about their job, SO, or other BS... I've never understood why guys do that.... why unload emotional shit to a provider that's not their purpose - go see a therapist if you need that...
I believe when you are with a provider it should be treated like a date... a first date actually where you need/want to make the best 1st impression possible, that's why you bring a small gift (appropriate based on information they provide some people get migrains from choco or wine), make sure you are spic and span clean, smartly dressed and no foul smelling breath...trimmed and clean fingernails, smooth shaved - if no beard... well you get the idea... I'm wondering.... how many mongers do all of this before a "date" ? ? Also be polite and gentlemanly - unless it's agreed prior that she is ok with other such behavior... If guys do that, then they have increased their chances of a better interaction with the provider and it shows a certain amount of respect for the provider you are going to meet with.... well just my opinion...:D
« Go see a therapist if you need that »...
hmmm , do you know a multi-tasking one who does also ... the rest? :D
As for your general comments in fact I mostly agree , but providers always take a great care to say « I accept to do this or not that » and are quick to criticize if you didnt read their rules. But I never encountered one with an explicit « no personal talk » in her policies. And especially when they propose social time on their menu (often at a much higher price than therapists, by the way) I think it’s fair to assume it’s not just to talk about the weather.
 
First of all, I think pillow talk is an integral part of the experience. Without that, you may as well just masturbate. The connection facilitated by the talking, the empathy/sympathy, is what takes a physical act of assisted masturbation to a true GFE. And I bet that having a connection to the client helps some escorts in the same way, making them feel like more than just a warm hole.

Second, reverse the question for escorts: does the relationship status of clients matter to you?
 
First of all, I think pillow talk is an integral part of the experience. Without that, you may as well just masturbate. The connection facilitated by the talking, the empathy/sympathy, is what takes a physical act of assisted masturbation to a true GFE. And I bet that having a connection to the client helps some escorts in the same way, making them feel like more than just a warm hole.

Second, reverse the question for escorts: does the relationship status of clients matter to you?
I agree. And not just verbal, but also non verbal affection like cuddling is important.

I did state somewhere before that i feel safer if guys are married, and pure from that perspective i still feel the same, but recently I prefer it if they are single.
Actually a lot of my clients are single and Japanese ones often state “I wouldn’t do this if i had a girlfriend”.
The ones that do have a partner often have either a long distance relationship or a non sexual marriage. So contrary to popular belief i don’t think that “cheating is normal in Japan” but rather that its accepted here to discretely seek some help if your needs are not met at home at all here (which is so often that people conclude that “cheating is normal”).
I do not feel guilty to see guys who are in a sexless marriage, rather the opposite, i feel like i am the one who is holding the marriage together. I can provide sweetness and affection to someone who’s not being loved, while at the same time not being a threat that can break up the marriage like an affair with a woman who could want more.
In that case i also think its safer for the client if a sexworker has a relationship. If a guy is everything the provider is looking for in a man, she could very well fall in love with her customer so if the girl has a relationship that makes the chance at drama much smaller.
 
I've grown up in a religious community. It's interesting, I've never had Christian guilt. I dont assign any moral meaning to what I do. Of course it's a business, and it's a business where I meet real people so I try to be ethical, kind and fair. But other than that my client's private life is his business. The last thing on my mind when I'm on top of a hot Nordic guy is how this will effect our private lives.
 
Is his private life on your mind if he isn't Nordic?? :confused:

-Ww
Not at all :D Recently I've met some cute Nordic guys. This week I'll sail south :)
 
It's interesting the few times I've gone to a hoteheru the girls always seem to want to know if I am married.
 
I don’t mind if they have an SO, but I wouldn’t ask or wanted to be told either. That person would have to be awesome though (the SO.) It would be pretty hard for me to keep a relationship with a provider, so many reasons, if I love her enough, I would try to do it though.
 
It would be pretty hard for me to keep a relationship with a provider, so many reasons, if I love her enough, I would try to do it though.

Good attitude on trying, and it might not be as hard as you think if you can see your way clear to separating feelings that are genuinely yours from those which you have been taught to expect/have from the social scripts that regulate most people's attitudes and behaviors.

-Ww
 
Good attitude on trying, and it might not be as hard as you think if you can see your way clear to separating feelings that are genuinely yours from those which you have been taught to expect/have from the social scripts that regulate most people's attitudes and behaviors.

-Ww
Exactly. I don’t quite think sex workers are hard to love. We bring A LOT to the table. Good looks, good skills in bed, strong financial independence...
 
Exactly. I don’t quite think sex workers are hard to love. We bring A LOT to the table. Good looks, good skills in bed, strong financial independence...

To your list of what SWs offer as a mate, I would add at least one item: a much better understanding of men (our strengths, weaknesses, needs, limits etc) than the large majority of non-SWs. And that is no small thing in a relationship, to put it mildly.

-Ww
 
SWs are generally fiercely independent women. That alone I find that very attractive (maybe because i'm not such an alpha male?).
Now in a relationship I wouldn't mind her working, but I think i'd be a little jealous if she was forming some deep emotional bonds with other guys!
 
SWs are generally fiercely independent women. That alone I find that very attractive (maybe because i'm not such an alpha male?)

On the contrary you need to be quite an alpha and at least sure about yourself to be able to like independent women.