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Tips on how to reduce your sex drive?

Des Esseintes

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Any tips/recommendations on how to reduce your sex drive?
No porn is an obvious one.
Moving to the countryside but I can't really see that happening now.
Any other idea? I know that some anti-depressants have that side-effect but I'm not sure how easy/difficult they are to get in Japan, especially if they require faking depression.
 
Because for about a couple of months now I've been suffering from chronic prostatitis (basically caught that bacteria from the girl I mentioned in another topic - I thought it might be herpes, hence the thread, but it's not) and the pain has only been getting worse. Basically antibiotics can kill 99.99% of it but the remaining 0.01% are enough to cause a lot of pain. The pain increases if I jerk off or even if I just have an erection. Doctors say it's going to take months if not years for me to get better and it might still get worse before it gets better so I desperately need to stop thinking about sex.
I try to keep busy doing lots of things but when I go to bed and turn off the lights, it's really hard not to think about it.
I suppose maybe very few people have had to reduce their sex drive, especially here, but just in case if anyone has any tip in terms of food/general habits/drugs...
 
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Get married. ;)

And if you really want to reduce it, have a couple of kids. :LOL:

Without resorting to such extremities, I have noticed that any relationship longer than a few weeks does have this effect of reducing my sex drive. However, not an option now given my current condition.
 
Wow, that sucks. Have you tried sports? And I don't mean any light exercise for losing a kilo or two but really hard physical exercise. The only time I was not horny every waking minute was when I was training so hard that every time I stopped I fell to sleep. And your aching muscles keep any idea of touching someone or being touched out of your head.

The negative side is that when you reduce the training to sensible levels and your body stops hurting you are in much better physical shape which means you are hornier than ever. :p
 
I actually used to exercise twice a week but had to stop because muscular strain increases the pain. I'm thinking maybe replacing it with swimming, which is supposed to be milder...
It's the second time it happens to me in my life. Last time was 6 years ago but somewhat milder, took about a year to get back to a completely normal condition (but acute pain was only a month or so).
Both times because of oral sex. At least I know what to avoid at any cost if I ever get back to normal.
 
I googled "chronic prostatitis" and my dick actually started itching. Hopefully you get it cleared soon, sounds like a really nasty thing to catch.
 
Anti-depressants drdn't reduce my sex drive in the least. They just made it nearly impossible to reach orgasm which meant it took a long time. Sounds like the opposite of what you need.
 
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I actually used to exercise twice a week but had to stop because muscular strain increases the pain. I'm thinking maybe replacing it with swimming, which is supposed to be milder...
It's the second time it happens to me in my life. Last time was 6 years ago but somewhat milder, took about a year to get back to a completely normal condition (but acute pain was only a month or so).
Both times because of oral sex. At least I know what to avoid at any cost if I ever get back to normal.

Quelle galère ! I hope you will recover soon.
When you get horny , think about Brigitte Macron :) (or better, Angela Merkel)
 
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Sadly , thats the best advice

I'm not sure though. Judging by the number of married guys posting here, marriage seems to increase frustration, not decrease anyone's libido.

Anti-depressants drdn't reduce my sex drive in the least. They just made it nearly impossible to reach orgasm which meant it took a long time. Sounds like the opposite of what you need.

It depends which ones though. I once took antidepressants that had the effect you describe (meaning that instead of taking me forever as it normally does, it was just impossible) but a friend of mine once told me he got something that completely killed any desire to do anything (which was a problem for him). I'm no expert so I should ask a doctor but not knowing exactly which pills do what I have no choice but to be perfectly honest about the situation, with the risk that he/she might flat out refuse to prescribe them.
 
Jesus, is this an std? I’ve never heard of it. Is it common?

Anti depressants are not hard to get if you visit a doctor. Its not really about faking something, you can legit say you are very down recently i assume. They don’t try to have you prove its some serious depression.
But you might not have a choice in which exact medicine they give you.
 
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Jesus, is this an std? I’ve never heard of it. Is it common?

It's not an STD. To be perfectly specific, the first time I got it was because of the e-coli bacteria and this time the enterococcus bacteria. Those are fairly common. It can bee passed to the guy during unprotected vaginal or anal sex (which I've never done) or unprotected oral sex (which is what happened). Chances are low but always there. I'm just extremely unlucky that it happened to me twice.
Above the age of 50 for some reason it becomes very rare. There's no cure other than waiting.
 
Does it just hurt to get erect? Like is it the erection itself that causes the pain?
A cock cage then weirdly might help, it will be a different kind of uncomfortable but you won't get an erection in it.
 
And now I'm reading about the disease specifically and I guess just follow "All" the advice. Hot baths, Prostate Massage, painkillers, heating pads, reduce salts and acids in your diet...

It seems similar to a UTI so also drink lots of cranberry juice and make sure to get 2L of fluids every day? One site recommends green tea and saw palmetto supplements.
 
Any tips/recommendations on how to reduce your sex drive?
No porn is an obvious one.
Moving to the countryside but I can't really see that happening now.
Any other idea? I know that some anti-depressants have that side-effect but I'm not sure how easy/difficult they are to get in Japan, especially if they require faking depression.
Get a wife, multiple kids, a soul-crushing job, and a drinking habit.
 
The nature of the mind is that there is no subtraction and division. There is only addition and multiplication. By that I mean, if you try to not think of something by saying, "Don't think of .......", that's all that will show up in the thoughts. You have to replace the thought entirely with something new.

Let's conduct an experiment. For the next 10 seconds, do not think of dildos. Not the big ones, or little ones, or fat ones, or strap-ons, or black ones, or cream ones. Just do not think of any dildos at all. Ready? Go. Just 10 seconds of no dildos. How did it go?
 
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Videogames. When designed well they're like cocaine to the brain. Helped me get over a lot of breakups. Sex was never on my mind besides the daily morning wood.
 
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Maybe it's only me but after being sexless during a few weeks then my body just forgets about it and the sex drive goes away.
The more I get sex the more I need it, the less I get sex the less I need it.
So basically, you might only have to wait a little bit more until sex drive goes away natually.
 
I'm not sure how easy/difficult they are to get in Japan, especially if they require faking depression.

It's very easy. Visit one of 心療内科 clinics and tell the doctor that you cannot sleep. They usually take your blood sample, but before having it examined, they will give you a prescription for antidepressants.
 
My good friend got a really bad case of this. The doctors had to install a port in his arm with a catheter that went up a blood vessel straight to his heart to administer some extra strong antibiotics every few days like chemo.
Luckily it went away for him. But man, what a hassle.

Gain some weight until you have some abdominal fat. That will cause your body to convert testosterone to estrogen. That should reduce your sex drive.
But iit depends on where your sex drive started from. If you had a super high sex drive, it would just make it normal, etc.