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A lot of this board seems to consist of older gentlemen, many who promptly dismiss nanpa as a young man's game, or for people without money, or those with an overabundance of time.

Well, this particular gentleman found me via TAG, so I thought it would be only fitting to share his journey into game from when he started about 2 years ago, especially given his age (in his 50s), position (doing quite well for himself), and time constraints (not a lot of free time). He went from being married to separated, and ultimately, through public approach and nanpa ended up hooking up with multiple 19- and early 20- year old girls.

So if you're an older guy who doesn't think nanpa is possible, have been "out of the game" for a long time, or otherwise think you couldn't do it, have a listen and see what you think! Or maybe you're just curious about the nanpa community and its various shapes, sizes, and styles of guys. Either way, let me know what you think!

https://anchor.fm/attraction-japan/episodes/5---Senpai---Game-for-older-gentlemen-e5i8cd

Cheers,
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Thank you for sharing. His was such a thoughtful and uplifting talk. I'm not in "the game", but what he found through the game can be applied to many other things, too, I guess. I would like to thank Senpai,and wish him all the best!
 
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Good talk. Am I the only one who thinks the guy sounds like William Shatner? Also, might wanna fix that spelling mistake...shows up as "Senapi" on Anchor.
 
Wow, I can relate to Senpai's story so so so much. Not the game part, because I'm still married, but the "once a month, out of pity, if you make a lot of noise..."...damn. Story of my life.
 
SoapFTW said:
but the "once a month, out of pity, if you make a lot of noise..."...damn. Story of my life.
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According to this you should consider yourself lucky.

 
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According to this you should consider yourself lucky.

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Hmm, well, “once a month” comes and goes. Longest stretch was a year and one month, and I’ve only been married for 5 years. Since kids, could be once a month for 2 months, 3 if I’m lucky, then a dry spell for 2 or 3 or more months again.

I know, “poor diddums” and all that. I should have seen it coming. At least now I know the joys of p4p, whenever I can siphon off enough cash unnoticed.

Hilarious video, by the way!
 
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Ken1988 said:
Thank you for sharing. His was such a thoughtful and uplifting talk. I'm not in "the game", but what he found through the game can be applied to many other things, too, I guess. I would like to thank Senpai,and wish him all the best!
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I am Senpai. Thanks very much!!

If anyone has any questions about the podcast, fire away!
 
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To each their own I guess. I like the idea of marriage, I just wish I’d chosen a better partner.
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The *idea* of marriage is certainly great.

The execution.... Well... Depends.
 
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Too bad marriage isn't like leasing a car. After 3-4 years you give that shit back to the dealer and get yourself into a younger, sexier model that doesn't have all the dents and scars and weird quirks developed over the years.
 
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for someone who didnt have sex, or any date in 15 years, you all complain from a high ground^^
 
Hey Sinapse!

Thanks for this post. I listened to that podcast and all the other ones too. Great content, super relaxing and you guys just sound like laid back dudes having a good time.

I especially liked that whole philosophical conversation with Dorian Grey about going deeper into connection and what happens after the game starts working and you know you can do it that’s when the real game begins... Got me thinking kind of deep about just relationships/connections/human nature, not just sex. Not what I expected out of the podcast but good shit man.
 
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I am Senpai. Thanks very much!!

If anyone has any questions about the podcast, fire away!
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Hey Senpai,

Just wanted to also give you a shout out for your podcast. Good stuff and as a dude in my mid 40’s, I appreciated the point of view. (y)
 
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Man after 45~ is
Sinapse said:
A lot of this board seems to consist of older gentlemen, many who promptly dismiss nanpa as a young man's game, or for people without money, or those with an overabundance of time.

Well, this particular gentleman found me via TAG, so I thought it would be only fitting to share his journey into game from when he started about 2 years ago, especially given his age (in his 50s), position (doing quite well for himself), and time constraints (not a lot of free time). He went from being married to separated, and ultimately, through public approach and nanpa ended up hooking up with multiple 19- and early 20- year old girls.

So if you're an older guy who doesn't think nanpa is possible, have been "out of the game" for a long time, or otherwise think you couldn't do it, have a listen and see what you think! Or maybe you're just curious about the nanpa community and its various shapes, sizes, and styles of guys. Either way, let me know what you think!

https://anchor.fm/attraction-japan/episodes/5---Senpai---Game-for-older-gentlemen-e5i8cd

Cheers,
Sinapse
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Man after 45 + are Yummy!
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To each their own I guess. I like the idea of marriage, I just wish I’d chosen a better partner.
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I know many couple they have sex often even have multiple Kids.
Each case is different. :)
Be sexless after married with kids maybe is comum in Asia?
But those wife they have sex with bfs.
So , they have sex but not with wife/husband.
 
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sugarcatwhite said:
Man after 45 + are Yummy!
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As a dude in my mid-40's that's nice to hear!

sugarcatwhite said:
I know many couple they have sex often even have multiple Kids.
Each case is different. :)
Be sexless after married with kids maybe is comum in Asia?
But those wife they have sex with bfs.
So , they have sex but not with wife/husband.
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Do the men know about this and fuck their own gfs too? Or do the men think the wife is not having sex and being faithful?

I think if both husband and wife understand that the other is getting sex, and it's understood, it's okay. I think if the wife is out getting fucked as much as she wants but expects the husband to be faithful, that's wrong. Also, vice versa applies.

I've heard this situation with sex outside the marriage is somewhat common in Japan with a lot of married couples. From your experience is this true?
 
Merica said:
As a dude in my mid-40's that's nice to hear!

Do the men know about this and fuck their own gfs too? Or do the men think the wife is not having sex and being faithful?

I think if both husband and wife understand that the other is getting sex, and it's understood, it's okay. I think if the wife is out getting fucked as much as she wants but expects the husband to be faithful, that's wrong. Also, vice versa applies.

I've heard this situation with sex outside the marriage is somewhat common in Japan with a lot of married couples. From your experience is this true?
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Maybe I have daddy issue ? :love:

I don't think is happen only in Asia. If your partner is not having sex with you, usually is getting somewhere.
I believe the idea of cheating in Japan is sound comum because people are open to talk about it.
We don’t die or go to jail because of it.
My originally country must are Christian and cheating need hide well because of society.
Man can have forgiveness but with woman she will probably have ruined reputation last of life or divorce.

I can say only from my experience and must foreigner I met they say “ my wife she is with kid at house and don’t mind what I do out side”
( me: if you back to home 5 am how you are sure she is with kids? :rolleyes: )
Funny that must man believe, wife will never cheat. They are not okay if that happen but with their cheating believe& hope that wife will not leave because of kids.
 
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Maybe I have daddy issue ? :love:
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Sounds fun! :ROFLMAO:

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I don't think is happen only in Asia. If your partner is not having sex with you, usually is getting somewhere.
I believe the idea of cheating in Japan is sound comum because people are open to talk about it.
We don’t die or go to jail because of it.
My originally country must are Christian and cheating need hide well because of society.
Man can have forgiveness but with woman she will probably have ruined reputation last of life or divorce.

I can say only from my experience and must foreigner I met they say “ my wife she is with kid at house and don’t mind what I do out side”
( me: if you back to home 5 am how you are sure she is with kids? :rolleyes: )
Funny that must man believe, wife will never cheat. They are not okay if that happen but with their cheating believe& hope that wife will not leave because of kids.
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I am from the USA and while things are changing, there is still fundamental Christian thoughts where cheating while married is considered very wrong, even though it does happen all the time. But it is not talked about as openly as in Japan. Also, there is more shaming in the USA where the cheater is considered a terrible person. But it is of course for the man and woman both. The cheater is always considered wrong and does not want anyone else in society to know they are cheating because it is embarrassing. It can hurt their job, public image, relationships with friends, etc.

I agree that cheating is wrong if both parties have an agreement that they will be faithful to each other AND they are both having great sex together. I think the problem happens when they aren't having good sex and at least one of them is unsatisfied and so they find sex outside the marriage and hide it. It would be better to just be honest about it. The other person might be okay with it, or it might motivate them to fix their sexual relationship. But in a lot of marriages here in the USA, they just don't have sex and are miserable.

I thought it was so interesting in Japan that married couples fuck other people and their spouse knows about it and is okay with it, and the other one does it too! At that point the marriage is more about raising kids, building wealth, etc, but at least it's honest...
 
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Sounds fun! :ROFLMAO:



I am from the USA and while things are changing, there is still fundamental Christian thoughts where cheating while married is considered very wrong, even though it does happen all the time. But it is not talked about as openly as in Japan. Also, there is more shaming in the USA where the cheater is considered a terrible person. But it is of course for the man and woman both. The cheater is always considered wrong and does not want anyone else in society to know they are cheating because it is embarrassing. It can hurt their job, public image, relationships with friends, etc.

I agree that cheating is wrong if both parties have an agreement that they will be faithful to each other AND they are both having great sex together. I think the problem happens when they aren't having good sex and at least one of them is unsatisfied and so they find sex outside the marriage and hide it. It would be better to just be honest about it. The other person might be okay with it, or it might motivate them to fix their sexual relationship. But in a lot of marriages here in the USA, they just don't have sex and are miserable.

I thought it was so interesting in Japan that married couples fuck other people and their spouse knows about it and is okay with it, and the other one does it too! At that point, the marriage is more about raising kids, building wealth, etc, but at least it's honest...
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It is not always that their spouse knows about cheating. Hard to say if in japan is more open or honest,
I didn't meet any Japanese woman say are just fine about cheating.
But, even they find out they will try to avoid divorce to keep a stable life.
Kids must of time is a good excuse to keep comfortable life :)

If my partner asks exclusivity and has sex with another person, even he is " Daddy" type I will say BYE.
 
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It is not always that their spouse knows about cheating. Hard to say if in japan is more open or honest,
I didn't meet any Japanese woman say are just fine about cheating.
But, even they find out they will try to avoid divorce to keep a stable life.
Kids must of time is a good excuse to keep comfortable life :)

If my partner asks exclusivity and has sex with another person, even he is " Daddy" type I will say BYE.
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daddy case can be different , he pays you for something which may include exclusivity from your side but not necessarily from his , if you want it mutual then say so from the beginning and make it part of the « contract »

personnally I think its stupid to offer or ask exclusivity in such money-for-favors relationship
Even in any relationship really
 
Wait so is she (sugarcatwhite) talking about a Sugar Daddy/Sugar Baby relationship? I’m confused.

I thought when a girl was hanging out with a “Daddy”, it basically meant she was banging an older dude.... no money exchanged, and not necessarily exclusive either. Just hanging out and hooking up with an older guy because he’s fun or hot or whatever.

When it’s a SUGAR Daddy, then there’s payment of money for sex/company. But the difference between that and an escort is that you hang out publicly with the Sugar Baby and go on dates and stuff. Right? I’ve done P4P plenty but have never done the Sugar Baby thing but that’s what I think it means.

I wouldn’t think either would be exclusive in that case. OBVIOUSLY not the dude because he’s the one paying... I mean, why would he? That’s just being a sucker because she’s probably getting laid elsewhere. No reason to be exclusive to a Sugar Baby. Why would you ever do that?

If they are both exclusive to each other then there’s no “Sugar” about it, they are just boyfriend/girlfriend.

Am I missing something here? That’s how I see it. Please enlighten me if I’m wrong.
 
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Wait so is she (sugarcatwhite) talking about a Sugar Daddy/Sugar Baby relationship? I’m confused.

I thought when a girl was hanging out with a “Daddy”, it basically meant she was banging an older dude.... no money exchanged, and not necessarily exclusive either. Just hanging out and hooking up with an older guy because he’s fun or hot or whatever.

When it’s a SUGAR Daddy, then there’s payment of money for sex/company. But the difference between that and an escort is that you hang out publicly with the Sugar Baby and go on dates and stuff. Right? I’ve done P4P plenty but have never done the Sugar Baby thing but that’s what I think it means.

I wouldn’t think either would be exclusive in that case. OBVIOUSLY not the dude because he’s the one paying... I mean, why would he? That’s just being a sucker because she’s probably getting laid elsewhere. No reason to be exclusive to a Sugar Baby. Why would you ever do that?

If they are both exclusive to each other then there’s no “Sugar” about it, they are just boyfriend/girlfriend.

Am I missing something here? That’s how I see it. Please enlighten me if I’m wrong.
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i think you’re broadly right
Never heard about « Daddy » without the Sugar connotation though
Ok lets say you are Jimmy Page or Mick Jagger your GF is as young (or even younger) as your grand-kids but thats a rare case. And they provide for them anyway, its just more subtle than standard sugaring
 
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