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A friend of mine is a marriage minded, Japanese female. She is very pretty, petite and has two 18 year old boys. She has a fulltime job. She is looking for a good man to marry. She likes foreigners. Has had a few
foreign boyfriends in the past. She is a great lady.

Which agencies would you recommend for someone marriage minded? My understanding is that Tinder seems to be for brief hookups?

Or where do single women in their 40s meet a good man in Tokyo or Yokohama. What are the current hangouts?

Any advice appreciated.
 
I heard of place called HUB (i hope i am saying it right)
Its an establishment which caters to Gaijins and Japanese alike and provides opportunity for them to mingle, so to say.
It also serves alcoholic beverages which helps in this so called mingling process.
 
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A friend of mine is a marriage minded, Japanese female. She is very pretty, petite and has two 18 year old boys. She has a fulltime job. She is looking for a good man to marry. She likes foreigners. Has had a few
foreign boyfriends in the past. She is a great lady.

Which agencies would you recommend for someone marriage minded? My understanding is that Tinder seems to be for brief hookups?

Or where do single women in their 40s meet a good man in Tokyo or Yokohama. What are the current hangouts?

Any advice appreciated.
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Tough one... I certainly don’t recommend bars or places where hook-ups are common.

The selection of marriage minded foreign men will be tiny, honesty.
 
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A friend of mine is a marriage minded, Japanese female. She is very pretty, petite and has two 18 year old boys. She has a fulltime job. She is looking for a good man to marry. She likes foreigners. Has had a few
foreign boyfriends in the past. She is a great lady.

Which agencies would you recommend for someone marriage minded? My understanding is that Tinder seems to be for brief hookups?

Or where do single women in their 40s meet a good man in Tokyo or Yokohama. What are the current hangouts?

Any advice appreciated.
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I wouldn't recommend agencies or organized meetings for people who are seeking.
best way would be to have a hobby-activity that would put her in a likeminded environement. something fun and social like taiko lessons or anything else she may like but not too gender specific.
if she likes foreigners she should travel. or why not have a 3-6-12 monthes abroad learning a language if she can afford to pause her job.
also she should be open to younger men, if she's limiting herself to over 40s that will be complicated.
 
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Tough one... I certainly don’t recommend bars or places where hook-ups are common.

The selection of marriage minded foreign men will be tiny, honesty.
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I wonder what's the population count in her area after excluding
japanese men
men not in their 40ies
married men
men who are single in their 40ies because they are creeps
single men in their 40ies who are looking for hookup only

and to that you have to add the taste critera.
 
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I wonder what's the population count in her area after excluding
japanese men
men not in their 40ies
married men
men who are single in their 40ies because they are creeps
single men in their 40ies who are looking for hookup only

and to that you have to add the taste critera.
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Ok. Marginal instead of tiny....
 
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A friend of mine is a marriage minded, Japanese female. She is very pretty, petite and has two 18 year old boys. She has a fulltime job. She is looking for a good man to marry. She likes foreigners. Has had a few
foreign boyfriends in the past. She is a great lady.

Which agencies would you recommend for someone marriage minded? My understanding is that Tinder seems to be for brief hookups?

Or where do single women in their 40s meet a good man in Tokyo or Yokohama. What are the current hangouts?

Any advice appreciated.
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As anyone who's lived in Japan knows, options are severely limited for any Japanese woman who...

A) Is divorced, or

B) Has children, or

C) Is over 40

So seeing as how she literally hits the trifecta of undesirability on that one, her only option is to do the same thing every other female outcast in Japan has done since time immemorial: Apply with USCIS for an F-1 "student" visa and then end up in some junior college in SoCal or Honolulu where she'll take "hospitality industry" courses by day and troll beaches and singles bars by night until she finds the right fat, balding 49yo Caucasian virgin manga-fanatic who's finally built up the courage to speak to actual females in person, rather than through a webcam in some paid online service, and who will be huffing and puffing his way to Zales to drop six months wages at Best Buy for an engagement ring the second she lets him touch her vagina for the first time.

But to be honest, tell her to enroll in a paid (and preferably expensive) online dating service in a western country, like Eharmony or OurTime in America. Lots of guys on there willing to do the international thing. They cater to older singles and the people willing to pay what they charge are going to be much more serious than the losers and bimbos on sites like JapanCupid, and she's far too old to be trolling for expats in gaijin bars. That is, unless she's looking for a fling with an alcoholic oriental racist. Knocking boots with drunk, lonely middle-aged Japanese women is just my style.
 
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She could also approach any Nigerian in Harajuku and beg for a marriage.
 
I'm curious why she wants to get married... why not just find a really good mate ? I am sure there are some 40-something guys out there that would be ok, but just don't want to get married (or married again).. And let's be real @Snuggles.... if you are not showing a photo then how can we determine if we get one of our "friends" to throw his hat in the ring...:D
 
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if you are not showing a photo then how can we determine if we get one of our "friends" to throw his hat in the ring...:D
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My community service does extend to girls in their 40s but nothing makes me shrink as fast as someone being described as "marriage minded".

Though I was also not volunteering because the OP wanted to find a good man. :p
 
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Do your friend a favor and stop thinking about her and talking about her as marriage minded. Those are the two words that will scare off every man with a brain, balls or any self respect.
 
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warubuta said:
Do your friend a favor and stop thinking about her and talking about her as marriage minded. Those are the two words that will scare off every man with a brain, balls or any self respect.
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Talking about me again I see. :p
 
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A friend of mine is a marriage minded, Japanese female. She is very pretty, petite and has two 18 year old boys. She has a fulltime job. She is looking for a good man to marry. She likes foreigners. Has had a few
foreign boyfriends in the past. She is a great lady.

Which agencies would you recommend for someone marriage minded? My understanding is that Tinder seems to be for brief hookups?

Or where do single women in their 40s meet a good man in Tokyo or Yokohama. What are the current hangouts?

Any advice appreciated.
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Maybe have her try Japan Cupid.
 
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I suggested that. She said she doesn’t want to use a dating site. I think it’s a good idea too, thanks!
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So what she is ready to do? Wait at home until the prince arrives with his white horse? :D
 
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I suggested that. She said she doesn’t want to use a dating site. I think it’s a good idea too, thanks!
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There's a life lesson I learned at an early age that she will have to come to terms with: Beggar can't be choosers.

In any event, it sounds like she has issues.
 
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Honestly the whole thing just sounds troublesome and you've probably wasted too much of your time on it already. It would take less work if you just married her yourself and called it a day. Is that an option?

To do this without online dating is going to be damn near impossible. Sure there's probably some poor foreign saps out there that could be suckered into a marriage but those dudes aren't just walking around in Yokohama waiting to step on a landmine. Those dudes are on the other side of the planet sitting behind a computer screen jacking off to people's Instagram photos.
 
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Those dudes are on the other side of the planet sitting behind a computer screen jacking off to people's Instagram photos.
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Pretty much this. Sure there are a lot of foreign guys in Japan, but I'd say a majority of them in her age range are probably already married or have already been jarred by marriage (see the many comments above). Other than spending a lot of money in bars that foreigners frequent, her options are limited.
 
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Alternatively , you could post her photo here or offer it to those interested via PM for privacy. ...Unless that would count as "on line " dating . .

Just a thought mind you. .

Marriage minded still means you have to get to know each other to see if there is compatibility and if not move on .

Other suggestions are visit local pond or lake and start kissing frogs :D

No @Frenchy I don't mean you .. We already know your plight in life and some here are quite envious :D
 
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