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Any good spots/tips on where to find or pick up married chicks35+ ? I've read that something like 80% of women over forty are in a sexless marriage and this also is the age range that I want to target. I do ok w/ younger girls nampa, maybe get lucky every 1 out of 4 but really want to target the milfs. Just need to know where to go.
 
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The exact dating website for what you want seems to be (the infamous Ashley Madison)-
https://www.ashleymadison.com/app/m/login.p

However, I didn't like it, but a few others appeared fine with it. Maybe I need to redo my profile. Tested it out a few months ago and still have a lot of points left to use. Website, at least their Japanese version, gave off a very scammish feel. It doesn't work like most dating websites. You have to buy points, and they find ways to make them disappear quick. It also appeared to be very infiltrated by pros. Many of the women who would e-mailed me outside the site were p4p that wanted to negotiate price or cam models trying to direct me to their website. It pissed me off and I complained to Ashley Madison staff and they banned some of those accounts. Still, left a bad impression. However, others say they found success with the website, so might be worth a try. I will look into them again, but doing well with other websites and sarging ("street" PUA), that not in a hurry.

Other websites like JapanCupid, OkCupid, PlentyOfFish, Match, Tinder, or language websites... Let you search by age. Skout (smartphone app) searches by distance and you select the profile (thus her age) manually. Those have been decently successful for me. However my search age is wide, 18 to 40, not specific to 35+.

Women who might be married appear not to say so on our dates. I don't push it in questions... Why? Technically, under Japanese law (which is a bit odd), her spouse can sue you for cheating with his wife. The slight loophole, that you can try to use in court, is if the wife never told you she was married or lied about it. So, for me, if they are married than I initially don't want to know and especially if we are just going to hotels and happening bars. However, if I'm thinking to bring them to my apartment, I ASK. If they tell me they are married, then they can't come to my place. And, if we continue a sexual relationship, it's happening bars or swinger hotel parties only. This is another slightly higher level of protection. She can be having swinger sex with other women and men in the club or parties. A Japanese wife would almost always not want it revealed that she goes to happening bars or swinger parties and will often work EXTRA HARD to protect this secret. Plus, Japanese wives that crave sexual release, will often be very appreciative of a swinger guy that converts her to the lifestyle and guides her.

When it comes to sarging (PUA at coffee shops, video/CD rental stores, trains, clubs...), I tend to go for 20 something women and do well with this age range. There isn't a problem for older guys to date younger women in Japan, Korea, Thailand, or China. Probably applies to most Asian countries. A guy can be 41 (stay in shape) and with a 21 year old, and nobody cares or raises an eyebrow. Many younger Asian women don't mind, and see older guys as a benefit in terms of experience, financial stability, maturity, mentoring, etc...

I've picked up 30+ and 40+ women, to a lesser extent, when sarging (sometimes because they looked younger than their true age) and they usually hide that they are married. Again, I don't press for such information at first. It's on her to tell me or stop our conversation.

If you only want 35+ and married, if sarging about doing PUA, you would have to focus very hard. Just go looking for rings on women's fingers. That's bypass talking to all other available women or even women showing you interest, until you find that specific type. I find that hard to do. Who you will encounter and success tend to be random or unpredictable. And I'm not throwing away an interested hot 25 year old, for no reason. Websites would be more practical for locking into a specific type of woman. Maybe other users can list other dating websites married Japanese women use or specific hangouts older married women like.
 
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@Solong thanks. I don't mind sarging but to date my pua action has been mostly focused on younger chicks. Just really feeling the milf vibe & want to explore that a bit. I have a Ashley Madison account but haven't really used yet. What's the best approach when using a site like that? Meaning while I don't mind dinner or drinks but do not want a gf, strictly a shag friend lol.
 
Not into Ashley Madison in particular yet. As mentioned, my success elsewhere means I'm not in a rush to figure that site out.

Any woman can be a FWB from any dating, language, or classified ad websites.

Many women are often sneaky, and disguise their purpose or intent. Even on websites that look sexually straightforward, take AdultFriendFinder for example, women will tell crazy lies. Trust me, I dated plenty of women from that website.

"It's my first time on the website (minus the 10 other profiles she created)."

"You are the first person that I ever met from this website (minus the 100 guys she met from here and other websites, and dude she had sex with yesterday)."

"I'm not that kind of girl (or I had sex with other 100 guys, now pretending to play Cinderella and hard to get with you because my vagina is tired)."

"I'm looking for true love and Mr. Perfect (but somehow put a profile on a sex website and posing in your underwear)."

Meaning, normal women will rarely tell you their true sexual intent or nature online and before meeting them. Usually only P4P women or cam girls do this, which is the purpose of you picking her over her competition or it's related to the prices she charges.

With regular women, you push to go on a date from off the website. On the date, you decipher what she is all about and go for sex. Even if after you had sex, she might NOT become a regular. Some women are sneaky one-night stand queens (though say the opposite), married and then run after sex (they think that's a good method), or a woman running through many guys (she had you, now next).

What I mean is, you can't say she is a regular FWB until you had sex with her 3x or more, and particularly wild sex (like outside, happening bar, etc...) So only time and her actions can really tell you she is about being a sex friend. After having sex with her 3x or being sexually active with her for 2 weeks, you can often see her true nature. "Oh, this chick has other dudes (or a husband) on the side and is just seeing me for the dick and thrill." "Oh, this chick is very serious like a chruch girl and wants to me to marry her." Another thing about FWB, they can ghost on you quick. Many women are fickle these day in general. Here today, no reply to messages tomorrow. She has jumped to the next penis from the disco or website.

Girlfriend types tend to be way more serious and bringing the drama or strong emotions into the equation. FWB type women, usually have a light and fun vibe. "Yeah, down for whatever on Friday night." It's her actions or you testing her, and seeing her reactions, that shows the true difference. Basically, time will tell.

It's also up to you the guy, if you want her as a sex friend, to handle her as such. If you act like she is your girlfriend, then that might be how she responds. You act like you are sex-friends (by your actions) then that's how she may see the relationship. Some guys cause massive confusion and problems, because they are dishonest. A guy can be very sexually honest with women, ask swingers, the trick is in HOW you do it and the WAY you do it.
 
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