Hey guys! Long time lurker, first time poster, pleased to meet all of you!
So long story short, I'm a young professional in Kansai, and I've been to several different fuzokus in Japan.
But recently I wanted to try something different, so I went on sugardaddy.jp and made a profile.
I got lots of messages, surprisingly (may have overstated my income a bit haha) but always made it clear that I'm looking for an "otona no kankei", I speak Japanese at an N2 level.
I really did want a kind of "escort-sugaring" hybrid, which I know is a very...messy...distinction, but 1 out of 4 girls is usually game, or at least that's what I hear haha.
So I meet this one girl, very nice, and VERY eager for sugaring. Not formal and round about like most of the girls on sugardaddy.jp, who you usually have to ask multiple times what they're looking for.
So I've been messaging her and we're meeting soon, and she seems very down for what I want, as in, one time meetings, 35k fee, sends me suggestive photos and such.
And here's my problem...I don't know what kind of relationship she wants!
I ask her if she's okay with otona no kankei, she says yes, absolutely, it wasn't even a question for her haha. I ask her if meeting just a few times is okay because I'm busy, like once or twice, and she says yes, no problem.
I even tell her that I may not be in Kansai for much longer, which is true, and she says she's sad but she understands.
I ask if she wants an allowance, and she says yeah, maybe, we can discuss it when we meet, followed by more suggestive talk, as if she's hornier than I am haha!
So my question is...is this more of an "escort-sugar" hybrid?
The thing is, I kind of *want* the escort sugar hybrid. I don't mind of she's not exclusive, I don't mind if she prioritizes other guys over me, but at the same time I do want the added level of intimacy that comes with sugaring.
But I also wanna stay private. My business is my business, and I do not want her to know about my personal business, nor do I really want to know about hers.
Is that a fair thing to ask in a sugar daddy-sugar baby relationship? Should I expect to remain anonymous if I am fine with her remaining so?
Some of this has to do with the fact that I overstated my income...and that's my fault. But so far she's agreed to everything in my budget, never once asked for an outrageous sum, only said "oh that's too bad" when I told her I might be too busy to see her every week or even every other week.
What's the normal path here?
I'm kinda in over my head haha.
My plan is just to discuss these boundaries with her on our first meeting, before anything else other than dinner and drinking occurs.
Thanks for reading!
Sincerely,
Showa Boa
So long story short, I'm a young professional in Kansai, and I've been to several different fuzokus in Japan.
But recently I wanted to try something different, so I went on sugardaddy.jp and made a profile.
I got lots of messages, surprisingly (may have overstated my income a bit haha) but always made it clear that I'm looking for an "otona no kankei", I speak Japanese at an N2 level.
I really did want a kind of "escort-sugaring" hybrid, which I know is a very...messy...distinction, but 1 out of 4 girls is usually game, or at least that's what I hear haha.
So I meet this one girl, very nice, and VERY eager for sugaring. Not formal and round about like most of the girls on sugardaddy.jp, who you usually have to ask multiple times what they're looking for.
So I've been messaging her and we're meeting soon, and she seems very down for what I want, as in, one time meetings, 35k fee, sends me suggestive photos and such.
And here's my problem...I don't know what kind of relationship she wants!
I ask her if she's okay with otona no kankei, she says yes, absolutely, it wasn't even a question for her haha. I ask her if meeting just a few times is okay because I'm busy, like once or twice, and she says yes, no problem.
I even tell her that I may not be in Kansai for much longer, which is true, and she says she's sad but she understands.
I ask if she wants an allowance, and she says yeah, maybe, we can discuss it when we meet, followed by more suggestive talk, as if she's hornier than I am haha!
So my question is...is this more of an "escort-sugar" hybrid?
The thing is, I kind of *want* the escort sugar hybrid. I don't mind of she's not exclusive, I don't mind if she prioritizes other guys over me, but at the same time I do want the added level of intimacy that comes with sugaring.
But I also wanna stay private. My business is my business, and I do not want her to know about my personal business, nor do I really want to know about hers.
Is that a fair thing to ask in a sugar daddy-sugar baby relationship? Should I expect to remain anonymous if I am fine with her remaining so?
Some of this has to do with the fact that I overstated my income...and that's my fault. But so far she's agreed to everything in my budget, never once asked for an outrageous sum, only said "oh that's too bad" when I told her I might be too busy to see her every week or even every other week.
What's the normal path here?
I'm kinda in over my head haha.
My plan is just to discuss these boundaries with her on our first meeting, before anything else other than dinner and drinking occurs.
Thanks for reading!
Sincerely,
Showa Boa