Urgent Help Needed

Hey, I wanna thank everyone again for their great advice, it's been a Hell of a day haha.

But I finally took everyone's advice and blocked her, and I already feel better.

I'm just gonna try to live my life for the rest of this week and not think about this stuff.

I agree with everyone above on the consensus that she’s trying to extort money to no avail. I would like to add that someone might have spread her photos on the internet for real and she is now fishing for information to see if you are to blame amongst her most recent sugar daddies. And no offense to anyone but with the limited resources for mental healthcare in this country, some people have a warped sense of reality and she might have decided that you are the culprit. Similar things happen, to both clients and girls alike.

Thanks for the very wise words, Simonka.

Being the overly-nice guy that I am, I really think this is a possibility. I don't wanna get into theories, but she alluded to the fact that she's had some trouble in this sphere before, when she was just getting started, and it even said so on her profile.

So it's entirely possible that this is some other disgruntled suitor of hers, or a boyfriend, or a friend, whatever, not my problem anymore, and never really was my problem to begin with.

And yes, you are right on another count, to put it mildly, I would say she has a few screws loose. She would talk at great length of her hatred of her surroundings, particularly the women in her life; her mother, her roommates, her bosses, etc. Seems she doesn't get along with almost half the people she interacts with.

Well I'm just gonna call it a day.

If it's cool, I'll make a post later on what I would've done differently, so people can protect themselves in the future.

Thanks again everyone, goodnight!
 
Oh and if anyone could PM me to help me delete my sugardaddy.jp account, I'd really appreciate it haha
 
Oh and if anyone could PM me to help me delete my sugardaddy.jp account, I'd really appreciate it haha
Go to account menu. You can setup everything there. Block other members, hide your profile and cancel your account. Open a new one account with diferente email if you want to keep fishing on this pond, now you have learned the lesson that everything has its risks. Remember, if you go fishing most probably you will get wet. Follow all advises given here. And don't worry, you are one of thousands. Nobody is going against you, they are looking for the easiest next.
 
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So its been 24 hours and she hasnt followed through any of her threats right? (Because she was never going to)

Guess you can sleep easy now!

If i were you i would send her just one message saying that im going to report her to the police for attempted extortion, but thats just because Im a dick.
 
If i were you i would send her just one message saying that im going to report her to the police for attempted extortion, but thats just because Im a dick.
That would actually be a legit crime & something that is really actionable.
 
That would actually be a legit crime & something that is really actionable.
What do you mean? Whats a crime / actionable?
she tried to extort him, he is well within his rights to report it.
 
What do you mean? Whats a crime / actionable?
she tried to extort him, he is well within his rights to report it.
I thought he was just adding to your comment that the extortion she’s doing is a real crime and reportable. Like he’d actually have grounds to do it (report extortion) unlike her empty threats (reporting prostitution).
 
I thought he was just adding to your comment that the extortion she’s doing is a real crime and reportable. Like he’d actually have grounds to do it (report extortion) unlike her empty threats (reporting prostitution).
Ah ok
 
Yeah, I don't know how that was misunderstood.
I thought he was just adding to your comment that the extortion she’s doing is a real crime and reportable. Like he’d actually have grounds to do it (report extortion) unlike her empty threats (reporting prostitution).
Correct.
 
Thanks again for all the replies, everyone.

As I said before, I blocked her on all media platforms.

She does NOT know my real name, or rather, she only knows my first name, my job (not where), and only a vague idea of where I live.

I want to elaborate and say that our time actually spent dating was very, very short. We met around 3 times before she ghosted me, then came back asking again for money, which I stupidly gave her as it was for an "emergency". She specifically said that she would pay back this money...

So on top of extortion she actually committed fraud against me as well, fraud she would have to reveal if she ever went to the authorities for whatever reason.

Here are some things I'd recommend:

1. Use a different name from your own. Make up a job, a city, a different age, etc. Never reveal person info, not even your birthday (I was good with that part).

2. Meet in places where we aren't likely to be seen by people you know.

3. If at any point you feel not satisfied or suspicious, block the other party and move on. TRUST YOUR INSTINCTS.

4. Make sure the rules are clearly outlined. I was good about this, but I messed up in the end with giving her more money.

5. Have the convo about the rules IN PERSON. About money, about hotels, etc. Agree to it all in person. I didn't do this unfortunately, but I was always discrete, and our meetings were always "dates" for "sugar" and "having fun".

That's about all I have to say.

I'll be happier in a week or two when I know this whole thing has blown over. I deleted my sugardaddy.jp account and won't be returning any time soon, though I would say the odds of this happening are very small if you're smart about it. I regret breaking my own rules and not trusting my instincts, and this is very important.

I hope everyone enjoys their weekend!
 
then came back asking again for money, which I stupidly gave her as it was for an "emergency".

Well you know that education is expensive, especially here in Japan. To me it seems you managed to get out pretty cheaply and based on your last message you learned a huge lesson.

Believe me when I say that most of us have spend way more money to learn way less so count yourself blessed! :p
 
As a rule any money you give out no matter which way you are asked for it:
Is gone forever.
 
Well you know that education is expensive, especially here in Japan. To me it seems you managed to get out pretty cheaply and based on your last message you learned a huge lesson.

Believe me when I say that most of us have spend way more money to learn way less so count yourself blessed! :p

Wait, did Showaboa mentioned the amounts he already paid? For all we know maybe the ladycrook « borrowed » JPY10mn... and maybe its pocket change for him
 
Wait, did Showaboa mentioned the amounts he already paid? For all we know maybe the ladycrook « borrowed » JPY10mn... and maybe its pocket change for him

He didn't mention the sum but he did make it feel like it was just a bit more than pocket change for him.
 
He didn't mention the sum but he did make it feel like it was just a bit more than pocket change for him.

It may have been...around...the number Frenchy said. But @Frenchy did you mean "man" or "million", because thankfully it was NOT 1,000,000 yen haha, closer to 100,000...

Yes I'm an idiot, please save your comments, even though I know they're coming LOL haha.

It's not pocket change to me, but that's because I have low liquidity but a lot of investments. Basically I'm not saving a lot right now in my life because I made some good investments that'll keep me for a while. Bad financial decision I know haha.

But I won't do something like this again, that's for sure.

He seemed more concerned about what he might lose –not just money, than what he had already lost. Carpe diem.

Yeah it's that exactly haha, well put. I don't wanna lose my reputation or my job, considering I am not a criminal and, if authorities got involved and logic prevailed, I'd in fact sort of be a victim.

In reality though, I fully acknowledge that part of this is my fault, like, a considerable amount. I was naive and dumb and fell for her trap, hook, line and sinker. And I will NOT fall for it again.

I'm just worried about the next week or two. I'm still worried haha.

When this is a month behind me I know I can chill. Right now is just the hardest part.

Thanks again all, will keep everyone posted,

But hopefully, this is the end of the story hahaha.

PLEASE learn from my mistakes, and sugar responsibly!
 
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It may have been...around...the number Frenchy said. But @Frenchy did you mean "man" or "million", because thankfully it was NOT 1,000,000 yen haha, closer to 100,000...

Yes I'm an idiot, please save your comments, even though I know they're coming LOL haha.

It's not pocket change to me, but that's because I have low liquidity but a lot of investments. Basically I'm not saving a lot right now in my life because I made some good investments that'll keep me for a while. Bad financial decision I know haha.

But I won't do something like this again, that's for sure.



Yeah it's that exactly haha, well put. I don't wanna lose my reputation or my job, considering I am not a criminal and, if authorities got involved and logic prevailed, I'd in fact sort of be a victim.

In reality though, I fully acknowledge that part of this is my fault, like, a considerable amount. I was naive and dumb and fell for her trap, hook, line and sinker. And I will NOT fall for it again.

I'm just worried about the next week or two. I'm still worried haha.

When this is a month behind me I know I can chill. Right now is just the hardest part.

Thanks again all, will keep everyone posted,

But hopefully, this is the end of the story hahaha.

PLEASE learn from my mistakes, and sugar responsibly!

no i was really throwing the JPY 10 million figure out of thin air just to make the point that we didn’t know and maybe it was big but also maybe you’re Musk and that’s pocket change for you anyway...
So you lost only 10Man? Oh well, then I agree with Mikey, the lesson was not that expensive after all :)
 
So you lost only 10Man? Oh well, then I agree with Mikey, the lesson was not that expensive after all :)

Well, I think we all agree it was not that expensive. But only if you learned your lesson. :p

If you are going and doing the same mistake with the next girl then it was pretty bad.

Also if you quit the game and never play again the it was way too expensive.
 
It may have been...around...the number Frenchy said. But @Frenchy did you mean "man" or "million", because thankfully it was NOT 1,000,000 yen haha, closer to 100,000...

Yes I'm an idiot, please save your comments, even though I know they're coming LOL haha.

It's not pocket change to me, but that's because I have low liquidity but a lot of investments. Basically I'm not saving a lot right now in my life because I made some good investments that'll keep me for a while. Bad financial decision I know haha.

But I won't do something like this again, that's for sure.



Yeah it's that exactly haha, well put. I don't wanna lose my reputation or my job, considering I am not a criminal and, if authorities got involved and logic prevailed, I'd in fact sort of be a victim.

In reality though, I fully acknowledge that part of this is my fault, like, a considerable amount. I was naive and dumb and fell for her trap, hook, line and sinker. And I will NOT fall for it again.

I'm just worried about the next week or two. I'm still worried haha.

When this is a month behind me I know I can chill. Right now is just the hardest part.

Thanks again all, will keep everyone posted,

But hopefully, this is the end of the story hahaha.

PLEASE learn from my mistakes, and sugar responsibly!

Curious to know about the original photos she was saying were being floated about. Did you actually take any of her while you were together, or was she saying it was her profile photo on her SD account?
 
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OP Would you mind DMing me her contact information? I would like to meet her.

This makes me think of Jules and Big Kahuna Burgers. (Pulp Fiction).

A Jules-lite chat outside Krispy Kreme may be good for this young womans personal growth and development.
 
Curious to know about the original photos she was saying were being floated about. Did you actually take any of her while you were together, or was she saying it was her profile photo on her SD account?

To be honest, this is a part I don't get either. We never took any photos together, I just have ones she sent me through a messaging app. And I never sent them to anyone or uploaded them to any site, as she's claiming.

If she's not lying about the photos, then it just means she got hacked, or someone else leaked her photos. She basically admitted to me that she sent these nudes to other people as well, as she said only one of the photos was one she only sent to me.

So again, if she's not lying, then she either forgot who she sent these pics to, or someone has taken control of her phone and she needs to secure it again.

sugardaddy.jp, I imagine, is not the most secure place in the world, in fact I THINK someone tried to log into my American bank account, as there were multiple unsuccessful login attempts after I signed up, but who knows. So I think there's a chance that their weak security is the culprit, although idk how that would work.

OP Would you mind DMing me her contact information? I would like to meet her.

LOL, good one indeed haha! But if you're being serious, not a chance in Hell brother haha. You're much better off barking up some other tree.

Honestly, this may sound like wimpy bullshit, but at this point all I want is an apology. The emotional rollercoaster this young woman has put me through is just too much. I'd rather just never speak to her again, as opposed to getting my money back and talking to her.

I'm sure I'd be super angry if I ever saw her again, but hopefully, if I did see her again, I'd have made it big in life, to the point where we'd make eye contact, and all I'd do is smile and shrug, as if to say that this whole thing meant so little to me in the end, haha.

What's that quote again?

"Live well, that is the best revenge"
 
in fact I THINK someone tried to log into my American bank account, as there were multiple unsuccessful login attempts after I signed up
From a security point of view, this would only be remotely possible if you shared passwords or shared ID's that could easily be captured. I've been on that site as well (to browse) and nothing popped up in using that site that concerned me. (Mind you, I use a sandboxed VM to access things I'm not 100% sure of...) Don't know which American bank you use, but the one I use - it's quite impossible to do anything meaningful since any new/significant transaction needs review & approval before being executed. (in some cases, PIN code or SMS notification first) Especially if I try to wire money to a new account that I've never sent money to before... it's quite a pain to do so for ordinary retail banking.

If she's not lying about the photos, then it just means she got hacked, or someone else leaked her photos.
Quite frankly, I'm pretty sure that she's part of a group run by someone else that leads the extortion group. It all smells like a setup based on what's been reported.

Best to let it go... nothing more can be gained and you certainly won't get an apology.
 
Honestly, this may sound like wimpy bullshit, but at this point all I want is an apology.

And I want to bang 20 year old Kobe Tai. So we have something in common, both of our wishes have the same probability to turn into reality.

As TAG Manager already said she was most probable part of an organised group. There were no misunderstandings, leaked or hacked photos or anything like that, just a calculated attempt of fraud. Criminals don't go around offering apologies for their failed attempts, they forget about you and move to their next target. That is exactly what you should do, forget them and move to the next girl.
 
Yes I'm an idiot, please save your comments, even though I know they're coming LOL haha.
Come on! Do not beat yourself up. What you are is a naive hot romantic who was under the influence of an unscrupulous sexy girl. A fever that many of us have already passed. Now you have got the antibodies in your immune system.:smuggrin: