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ShagginDragon

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Hey everyone, new member here

Was wondering if I should post this in the dating/relationships section, but I'm not interested in having a relationship, so I'm posting it here in the nampa/PUA section

Any advice on having a rotation in Japan without drama?
In the West, a couple can be sexually active, but aren't considered exclusive until they've had "the talk". Until that point, they're free to date other people. Most women are seeing and even banging multiple guys before you date them for the first time

Is it the same here in Japan? I read somewhere that casually dating multiple people is considered taboo here. If that's the case, what can I do to keep things at a friends-with-benefits level? Is there any way to have a rotation of multiple women a week without lying and cheating?
Not that I'm avoiding cheating out of morality, I simply can't be bothered to maintain alibis and stories.

Last year I was banging one chick for a whole year. I never took her on dates outside of the house, and always made sure to never see her more than once a week. She never brought up our relationship status, so I'm pretty sure she understood her role as a FWB. However, I wonder if these same steps would work with other women

What do you guys recommend?
Thanks in advance
 
ShagginDragon said:
However, I wonder if these same steps would work with other women
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Think of it this way; either you just managed to find the one and only girl in Japan who is OK with that, or there are others too.

If you are smart enough never to ask then the girls will not tell you about the other guys they are banging. The one and only time I have had "the talk" with a Japanese girl went like this:

Her: Are you having sex with other girls too?
Me: Yeah.
She: Please always use condom with them.
Me: Sure will do.

End of the discussion.
 
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MikeH said:
Think of it this way; either you just managed to find the one and only girl in Japan who is OK with that, or there are others too.

If you are smart enough never to ask then the girls will not tell you about the other guys they are banging. The one and only time I have had "the talk" with a Japanese girl went like this:

Her: Are you having sex with other girls too?
Me: Yeah.
She: Please always use condom with them.
Me: Sure will do.

End of the discussion.
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i thought “the talk” was about explaining her how babies are made ?
 
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ShagginDragon said:
In the West, a couple can be sexually active, but aren't considered exclusive until they've had "the talk". Until that point, they're free to date other people. Most women are seeing and even banging multiple guys before you date them for the first time

Is it the same here in Japan?
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yes
 
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Frenchy said:
i thought “the talk” was about explaining her how babies are made ?
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It should be about how babies are NOT made to feel worthwhile to me. "No darling, it is safe to try, I am sure it's just a rumour that anal sex produces lawyers".
 
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ShagginDragon said:
Hey everyone, new member here

Was wondering if I should post this in the dating/relationships section, but I'm not interested in having a relationship, so I'm posting it here in the nampa/PUA section
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This is what sugar dating is for. Sugar dating here in Tokyo, and I suppose other areas of Japan is in a mega bull market. Lots of hungry girls looking for meet ups and almost all, if not all are keen. If you play your cards right, and show up clean, smelling good and with a bit of Japanese lingo wit, then it is super easy to get them into the hotel. Use the sugar dating sites to confirm the 条件, or requirements and it is like shooting ducks in a barrel.
 
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shammykun said:
it is like shooting ducks in a barrel.
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I think that is actually quite difficult as I have never seen ducks in a barrel. Moreover my experience of shooting ducks tells me they do fly away immediately after your first shot.

That's unlike the girls in Tokyo who are happy to cuddle after that. But obviously paying money to avoid drama is an excellent tactics. The other way which is finding girls who are happy to meet you just twice a month takes more time and you also have to be OK for them to fuck way more other guys than your SB or escort would do while you are not seeing them.

But if you are like me who don't care, or like some other guy in TAG who likes it then all is good.
 
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MikeH said:
paying money to avoid drama is an excellent tactics. .
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This is one of the pillars of sugar dating. As the sugar papa, you get to dictate the rules.

Those fools who play for p4p and don't abide to the sugar rules, then they will overpay and not have an amazing experience. Sugar dating is never about having sex alone nor is is EVER about money, it is about enjoying time together where you cannot get in a marriage relationship or otherwise. It is a business contract and needs to be adhered to as such with requirements agreed to up front. Let me say that again, it is a BUSINESS CONTRACT that needs to be adhered to. I actually found a Japanese woman that offered a sugar relationship legal binding contract, imagine that.

Thank you for the reply.
 
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shammykun said:
This is one of the pillars of sugar dating. As the sugar papa, you get to dictate the rules.

Those fools who play for p4p and don't abide to the sugar rules, then they will overpay and not have an amazing experience. Sugar dating is never about having sex alone nor is is EVER about money, it is about enjoying time together where you cannot get in a marriage relationship or otherwise. It is a business contract and needs to be adhered to as such with requirements agreed to up front. Let me say that again, it is a BUSINESS CONTRACT that needs to be adhered to. I actually found a Japanese woman that offered a sugar relationship legal binding contract, imagine that.

Thank you for the reply.
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wow! I would really like to have a look at this legal contract. Must be a fun read
 
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shammykun said:
This is one of the pillars of sugar dating. As the sugar papa, you get to dictate the rules.

Those fools who play for p4p and don't abide to the sugar rules, then they will overpay and not have an amazing experience. Sugar dating is never about having sex alone nor is is EVER about money, it is about enjoying time together where you cannot get in a marriage relationship or otherwise. It is a business contract and needs to be adhered to as such with requirements agreed to up front. Let me say that again, it is a BUSINESS CONTRACT that needs to be adhered to. I actually found a Japanese woman that offered a sugar relationship legal binding contract, imagine that.

Thank you for the reply.
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Give her a big swerve. Next! Plenty of ducks in the sea.
 
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shammykun said:
Let me say that again, it is a BUSINESS CONTRACT that needs to be adhered to.
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I think those words don't mean what you think they mean. Business contract by definition is a legally binding agreement but let me know if you plan to take your SB to court for breaking the agreement. I want to reserve front row seat for that so I can clearly see the judge's face when he hears the case.

Sugaring is just a subsection of p4p because that's exactly what it is: you pay to play. Just that the play might contain more than wham-bam doesn't change the meaning. According to this and other forums getting married is another subsection called pnp. Or in other words pay not to play. For me those are all different aspects of getting the same thing. Like the difference between buying a car or leasing or renting. All have their own positive and negative sides and what fits one guy doesn't fit another.

And for those who say sugaring is not about money there is an easy litmus test: message your SB that unfortunately your business failed and you are now completely broke with lots of debt and so you cannot pay her anymore. But that you still like her a lot and hope you can continue meeting just like before. Word of advice: try not to hold your breath while waiting for the reply.
 
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Sugar dating is always about the enjoyment. Physical, mental and otherwise. There are things going on here that allow us to play and enjoy the fruits of Covid, albeit safely.

If your name is Hansard, then I have another beef to deal with you.
 
MikeH said:
And for those who say sugaring is not about money there is an easy litmus test: message your SB that unfortunately your business failed and you are now completely broke with lots of debt and so you cannot pay her anymore. But that you still like her a lot and hope you can continue meeting just like before. Word of advice: try not to hold your breath while waiting for the reply.
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I wholeheartedly agree with this but remember that there is an exception to just about any rule. Every case is different but I do agree......that this will happen to just about all of you/us.
 
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Frenchy said:
Sssssh! Are you crazy? Don’t disclose his real name here! Also never ever mention that he’s Dutch
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You couldn't tell by the Shoes? Jeezzzzsshhhh :p:D:)
 
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I was seeing three women at the same time. Two of them I am still seeing, the third wasn't interested in meeting just for sex so we parted ways...she was a virgin and was getting up in age (33).
The other women just keep meeting because you offer them a great fun time out and great sex, they seem to not want to lose it so they don't really mention the dating thing...sometimes they do but you can walk around it a bit.
 
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Sorry for the late reply here. Of the girls I am seeing on Paddy, PJ and sugar dada, those girls all have multiple JPN papas and are banging them weekly.

If you think you are the single white knight, then maybe you should not be in sugar dating. Unless you are paying her magic # for monthly allowance.
 
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