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Nampa Suggestions? [Near Meguro Station]

crewstokyo

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I Know this is a very common topic in TAG.
There are lots of posts about it & I went through almost all the posts.
But I have a few very specific queries that I will be happy to know.

I live near Meguro station. I love drinking, dancing etc.
So, can you suggest some places near Meguro or Ebisu station where I can go alone & pick up a girl.
I prefer night clubs, bars or any other Nampa spots.
(I am an asian by the way)

Another problem that I am facing is that I don't understand which girl should I approach.
I see lots of girls in Shibuya station, Ebisu station etc. but don't understand who to proceed.

Finally, I am a 30 years old. I heard Japan's place is a bit divided by aged-groups.
I went to a bar in Shibuya recently, talked to 3-4 girls randomly.
Everyone is 20-21 years old & they seemed not interested after I told my age to them.
In that case, for a 30's man, what is the best place to go for Nampa?
 
So, can you suggest some places near Meguro or Ebisu station where I can go alone & pick up a girl.
I spend a fair amount of time around both stations and there are usually quite a few ladies standing around.
Most of the time, they are waiting for someone - so responses will vary. Some will exchange contact info and others will just brush you off, more of the latter in most cases unless you have superior looks with an attractive personality.

Another problem that I am facing is that I don't understand which girl should I approach.
I see lots of girls in Shibuya station, Ebisu station etc. but don't understand who to proceed.
There's no magic formula - it's a game of chance and numbers. Anyone with thin skin or can't take rejection (repeatedly) won't succeed.
You just have to try - the worst they can do is say no. If they're not interested, don't press the issue.

Finally, I am a 30 years old. I heard Japan's place is a bit divided by aged-groups.
I went to a bar in Shibuya recently, talked to 3-4 girls randomly.
Everyone is 20-21 years old & they seemed not interested after I told my age to them.
In that case, for a 30's man, what is the best place to go for Nampa?
Perhaps target some in your own age range?
It really boils down to how you present yourself - Japan is a image-conscious country.
I don't think there is one single best answer on where to go...
 
I live near Meguro station. I love drinking, dancing etc.
So, can you suggest some places near Meguro or Ebisu station where I can go alone & pick up a girl.

Try Public Stand for starters, and in Ebisu the Yokocho is good. Beyond that there are a ton of bars with varying quality of clientele, just walk around and if you see a place with many ladies and an open layout just walk in and try it out.

Another problem that I am facing is that I don't understand which girl should I approach.
I see lots of girls in Shibuya station, Ebisu station etc. but don't understand who to proceed.

Basically you should focus entirely on your own desire. Every time I see guys worrying about what girls they *should* approach, it means they are worried about disturbing her and also hoping to find some way to be psychic about her desires. There is no way you will be able to perfectly understand which girls will be happy to receive your approach. Even if you walk around looking for girls who make eye contact or smile or twirl their hair at you, you will still be putting her desires over your own, which isnt really the way to go after anything in your life. Basically, the point is that you should approach who YOU like and desire, regardless of what their current body language is. Yes, this might lead to some rejections but ultimately you will end up with the girls who you really like, rather than the ones who are giving you signs (who could like you, or just be horny that night, or just do that to all guys).

Finally, I am a 30 years old. I heard Japan's place is a bit divided by aged-groups.
I went to a bar in Shibuya recently, talked to 3-4 girls randomly.
Everyone is 20-21 years old & they seemed not interested after I told my age to them.
In that case, for a 30's man, what is the best place to go for Nampa?

If you're 30 years old you have literally nothing to worry about with your age. Basically no girls will reject you for being 30. Try 50+, and even then you will still do well if you have good fashion, charisma, and a bit of pro-activeness.

To me what it sounds like is a bit of your own doubts and insecurities are holding you back from approaching girls, which puts you basically in the category of every other guy in the world so it's nothing to worry about. Just find pretty girls and talk to them, it really is that simple :)
 
Sorry to hijack
@Sinapse any advice on the actual approach? Finding a reason to approach and starting the conversation the hardest part for me.
 
Sorry to hijack
@Sinapse any advice on the actual approach? Finding a reason to approach and starting the conversation the hardest part for me.

You never really need a reason to approach, just say hi, comment on something she's wearing or holding (don't compliment it, just notice it or comment on it. Try to avoid actually giving a compliment too early in the interaction, it comes across a bit cheap), tell her what you're doing in the area (just finished work, going for dinner soon, visiting a cafe, etc), and then get to know her a bit.