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Things You Would Change About Japan

Would a change of certain core characteristics of the culture be turning Japanese into non-Japanese?

Well, that's a question of essentialism, right? Our tendency as human beings to label and classify is useful, but technically flawed. In the same way as there is really no such thing as a defined species of plant or animal in an epochal view of natural history, "Japanese-ness" is no more essential than "French-ness". Cultures and people change over time: just usually so slowly we don't tend to notice. I understand how the "two faces" paradigm could develop, especially in an environment that doesn't always prioritize the individual, but I think directness in this regard would be an improvement. If the measured outcome of a change is positive, it can be counted as an improvement. As long as we're not forcing people to change who aren't doing immediate harm to others, I think criticism of this kind is fair without stepping into cultural imperialism territory.
 
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A few random observations on this discussion:

- I think it is progress (in the sense of improved clarity) that we are now focusing on honne and tatemae ("two faced-ness", although that is a rather loaded way of describing it) rather then on "sexual liberty". While in all cultures (of which I am aware) people normally have private and public behaviors/beliefs/"faces" that differ somewhat, it is quite extreme in Japanese culture...much more so than anything about actual sexuality imo.

- I agree with @Solong that you could not drastically change the importance of honne and tatemae in Japanese culture without at the same time changing many other things, for better or worse. Cultures are not simply a list of separate ideas, practices, customs, behaviors, scripts etc. They are a holistic system that works (to some degree at least...and quite well in the case of Japanese culture compared to many others); change one element and many others will be affected. In that sense, I doubt we could even foresee the consequences of reducing the degree of "two faced-ness" in Japanese life...too many unforeseen consequences.

- In any case, this is now an extraordinarily academic/moot discussion since we are each and all together almost totally powerless to make the changes we are debating...discussing it is not a bad way of wasting time though!

- My strong hunch is that some of our disagreements and differing perceptions are due to our having very different personal anecdotal experiences in Japan and thus having quite different perceptions of its culture, including Japanese sexuality. This is probably due both to just random chance differences in the situations and people we have encountered and also due to systematic biases in the same arising from our moving in different circles, being attracted to and attractive to different sorts of people and so forth. For example, I am frequently struck by how different my experience of women and their behavior is from Solong's. (I pick you, @Solong, simply because you have posted so much and in such detail about yours). Does this mean that one of us has right/true views and the other the wrong/false ones. No, it just means that we have had different experiences and probably also have understood them through a different perspective on life.

-Ww
 
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I cried the smallest tear. There's a difference between having preferences and coming over here swinging your dick at anything Asian looking because there aren't any Western women to tell you what a creep you are. If I could change something about Japan, it would be a hell of a lot fewer of these guys coming over to "escape the oppression of Western women". Whenever I hear this mantra, I think about how exactly NONE of it seems to apply to my personal situation. I'm still getting all the sex I want almost exclusively with Western women in Japan and without turning into a bitter Asian collector with a chip on his shoulder.



You can't even imagine?
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sex-positive_feminism


Whether or not you have compassion for your fellow man is your own business. As for myself I have it in abundance, hence my refusal to turn a blind eye to the unmet needs of my fellow man. Sounds dramatic, but there it is.

I've never seen anyone "swinging their dicks" around. Frankly Im seeing lots of dorks/manginas/sissies dominating the gaijin population. They have a right to be angry. Sexually-speaking, these guys are given the shaft in the U.S.

You may not be capable of empathy, but some of us are. Some of these guys are losing their jobs, being demonized by the mass Media, even having their children taken away or physical violence done to them. If say that's worth shedding at least a " moderate " sizes tear.

I myself don't hate white makes, even though I'm not one. As far as your situation not reflecting that, that's fine. I'm talking sbout the majority. Mine doesn't either. I'm not exactly a nerd. But just because I can command pussy doesn't mean these other guys can. Some guys have height/muscularity/confidence issues, sometimes due to real psychological problems. And sadly, most nerds/white knights are too insecure to accept reality. It hurts their egos too much to admit that they are in Japan for a reprieve from gender feminism. It used to be frustrating, There I was trying to "save" these guys, but now I just state my opinions and let other people make their own minds up.
 
[snip charisma man comic]

I cried the smallest tear. There's a difference between having preferences and coming over here swinging your dick at anything Asian looking because there aren't any Western women to tell you what a creep you are. If I could change something about Japan, it would be a hell of a lot fewer of these guys coming over to "escape the oppression of Western women". Whenever I hear this mantra, I think about how exactly NONE of it seems to apply to my personal situation. I'm still getting all the sex I want almost exclusively with Western women in Japan and without turning into a bitter Asian collector with a chip on his shoulder.



You can't even imagine?
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sex-positive_feminism

Nope. All opinions aren't equal in significance. Having been in academia for years, I've come across hundreds of anti-male and anti-heterosexual sex radical feminists. And some of these people have significant power; tenure, a large salary subsidized by the taxpayer, an internal review system that is anti-male to the bone, and thousands of young people to indoctrinate.

Furthermore, the " yes means yes" law, which is anti-male and anti-sex at its core ( even its detractors have admitted this) wouldn't even exist if "sex positive" feminists played a significant role in the movement.

I'm fully aware of the term, have read Camille Paglia, etc. And really that breed of feminist is dying fast, and there weren't very many to begin with.

That's not to say there aren't sex positive feminists out there, just that they are not significant enough to have influence. Next time you are in a university event, show up with a hard ten on your arm and see how "sex positive" these folks are.