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I am not ashamed to say I was scammed. My date ran away with 40k allowance while I was showering. Good thing I brought my valuables in shower room. At least I learned to do that from one of the Pros here. Any other safety advice, like any potentially bad areas to avoid for dates?

What I really want is to ask if Machida in Kanagawa is relatively safe area? I want to meet a date there but i don't know that area at all. I am a Tokyo only boy.
 
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I can't comment on how safe Kanagawa is, but another safety tip is to leave your valuables in a locker at the station. Just bring the cash allowance.
Most girls do ask for the allowance up front, but you could ask to pay her after the shower and/or invite her to shower with you (that's a better option). I've met some girls that would say they just had a shower and want you to go alone, but you could say you have trouble with the crazy Japanese faucets and need help (and there's always truth to that isn't it, lol). :)
 
I generally have a rule of leaving the money on top of a literal table for both parties to see, and taking showers together. I've only had one woman refuse that, and she ended up running away with 30K.
 
I realized that if we end up with a runner (from here on we call them runners ) for a date , it's still an acceptable scenario for the runner to get away without any drama. It won't look good on us guys if it somehow ends up in physical altercations. Only thing i did was report their profile.

I did learn though, that love hotels are on the lookout for this situations. I got a call from hotel desk checking in on me and I told them it's daijobou :cry:.
 
I did learn though, that love hotels are on the lookout for this situations. I got a call from hotel desk checking in on me and I told them it's daijobou :cry:
They are only checking on you to make sure you're still alive and the 'runner' didn't leave a dead body in their hotel. :LOL:
 
They are only checking on you to make sure you're still alive and the 'runner' didn't leave a dead body in their hotel. :LOL:
well this escalated quickly :ROFLMAO: . I guess Tokyo boi here won't be going out of my usual haunts for dates :(. I don't want to end up as corpse in some random love hotel's freezer or in a body bag in someone's basement. It also doesn't help that my Japanese skills is still at toddler level...
 
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well this escalated quickly :ROFLMAO: . I guess Tokyo boi here won't be going out of my usual haunts for dates :(. It also doesn't help that my Japanese skills is still at toddler level...
Your biggest risk is getting scammed or a bait-n-switch. You’re more likely to get hit by a bus than die in a hotel room.

Seriously, hotels don’t usually allow one person to leave without confirmation from the other party that is remaining in the room. That is the main reason they call aside from checking on the other person’s safety.
 
Your biggest risk is getting scammed or a bait-n-switch. You’re more likely to get hit by a bus than die in a hotel room.

Seriously, hotels don’t usually allow one person to leave without confirmation from the other party that is remaining in the room. That is the main reason they call aside from checking on the other person’s safety.
You got me there @TAG Manager, for second I thought of going back to streaming and playing hentai games as a hobby :LOL:
 
I am not ashamed to say I was scammed. My date ran away with 40k allowance while I was showering. Good thing I brought my valuables in shower room. At least I learned to do that from one of the Pros here. Any other safety advice, like any potentially bad areas to avoid for dates?

What I really want is to ask if Machida in Kanagawa is relatively safe area? I want to meet a date there but i don't know that area at all. I am a Tokyo only boy.
Sorry to hear that. Was it straight to hotel, or did you meet them for a face to face and have a chat prior?

From my experience, the girls that use both ‘straight to hotel’ and state ‘it doesn’t matter your age or what you look like’ in their profile are a dangerous combination.
 
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Sorry to hear that. Was it straight to hotel, or did you meet them for a face to face and have a chat prior?

From my experience, the girls that use both ‘straight to hotel’ and state ‘it doesn’t matter your age or what you look like’ in their profile are a dangerous combination.

There was face to face chat.

But she didn't share any face photos, not even altered ones . I guess that is one potential red flag too. Thanks for the heads up @TokyoExpat !
 
There was face to face chat.

But she didn't share any face photos, not even altered ones . I guess that is one potential red flag too. Thanks for the heads up @TokyoExpat !
I wouldn’t say not sharing photos it a red flag. Many girls don’t want them out there, which is completely understandable.

I would think that if someone was to pull a runner, they wouldn’t want to meet prior. With the potential to be caught on camera with their victim, plus the description one can give, there would be more of a chance of being caught.

Then again, the odds of a foreigner with limited Japanese going to the police, persuading them to take action, then being successfully tracked down….

Lesson learned for all of us. Thank you for sharing.
 
Then again, the odds of a foreigner with limited Japanese going to the police, persuading them to take action, then being successfully tracked down….
Just a side note - the police won't do anything in this case. Not for that small amount of money in addition to the circumstances for which it was given.
The absolute here is that the cash was handed over freely with a somewhat verbal contract, I assume.
Neither a foreigner or Japanese would be able to persuade police to take any action, they may even refer you to take this on a civil matter and not criminal. You might be able to file a report, but that's probably as far as it goes.
 
Okay from what
Just a side note - the police won't do anything in this case. Not for that small amount of money in addition to the circumstances for which it was given.
The absolute here is that the cash was handed over freely with a somewhat verbal contract, I assume.
Neither a foreigner or Japanese would be able to persuade police to take any action, they may even refer you to take this on a civil matter and not criminal. You might be able to file a report, but that's probably as far as it goes.
Yes I was thinking the same. If your wallet , credit cards or other valuables (expensive watches , it made the news sometime ago) got stolen then one should definitely go straight to the police.
 
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I will be heading to Machida over the weekend. If I am unable to report back here by Monday , tell my mom and dad I love them and that their son was lost while defending Tokyo from Godzilla!
 
Honestly, this is why I would never go to a hotel on the first meet with someone I met on a sugar site. You can screen most of the thieves out by having a platonic date first. (Most but not all is why I wouldn’t bring my wallet or personally identifiable information to the hotel on the second date either, but I have yet to be targeted after going with ~40 or so girls.)
 
Damn,I can’t believe they have those kind of girls here in japan. Sorry happening that to you. For a SB like me Showering together would be the best start. Am pretty sure am not a runner tho lol
Yeah I guess this is one good reason to avoid straight to adult encounters (we stopped at cafe for coffee that's it) . I had other straight to adult encounters but they were totally fine, this was the worst so far.
 
I will be heading to Machida over the weekend. If I am unable to report back here by Monday , tell my mom and dad I love them and that their son was lost while defending Tokyo from Godzilla!
I went to Machida during the weekend and survived :ROFLMAO:.

Seriously though it was nice place, quiet, not a lot of people and there is a nice love hotel, 2 minutes walk from the station exit . Perfect if your dates really want to keep low profile.
 
Yeah I guess this is one good reason to avoid straight to adult encounters (we stopped at cafe for coffee that's it) . I had other straight to adult encounters but they were totally fine, this was the worst so far.
That was really unlucky, there’s nothing wrong going to straight adult encounter to be honest. Me, I prefer to be discreet i don’t really like meet in public places. I guess it’s really case to case basis. me too I do get paranoid in first meet up. Hopefully won’t happen to you again.
 
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Really?
Don't think I've ever had a SD girl ask for payment up front. In many cases I'm not sure how it will end up so the allowance is not set in stone.
If someone insisted on payment in advance that'd be a major red flag and I would prob pass.
I learned this lesson the hard way and would definitely count this as red flag from here on.
 
I learned this lesson the hard way and would definitely count this as red flag from here on.
Scammers are always in a hurry. So on the SD sites, don't go for a "let's meet now" girl. Lay a bit of groundwork with messages. You also might wanna go for a meal first and spend a bit of time with her.

Also which site did you meet her on?