Going To Lose My Virginity To An Escort, Couple Questions.

Speaking from personal experience as someone who lost his virginity at a soap land, and based on your masturbation info compared to mine it sounds like you would most likely have more problems with maintaining an erection than coming too quickly. I had major problems with this and I didn't even come once in 2 hours, even though the girl was absolutely stunning. It's mostly a mental thing, combo of stigma of paying for sex, being anxious because it's your first time etc.

I can give you the following advice:

1. Decide if it's better to come quickly or not at all. Seriously cut down on your masturbation prior to the event, to keep hormone levels high and to help maintain erection and sensitize the penis a bit.
(If you are young this might not be as big an issue as it was for me, but I find that "saving up" produces much more pleasurable orgasms.)

2. Be well rested and healthy body wise, only do it if you feel 100% in body and mind.

3. Vaginal sex/or blowjob with condom isn't as stimulating as your masturbation sounds. So don't be disappointed if it doesn't feel as good.

4. If you are going for a short 30 minute session you don't really have much room for improvisation, so I'd try to plan a bit what you would like to achieve in those 30 mins.

5. Please give a second and third thought if you really want to lose your cherry in this way, since you can't go back.

As far as safety goes, yes that sounds about right. No bodily fluids contact at all and condom penetration.
Do a visual inspection and if she smells bad and/or has suspicious signs of STD, I would not have any kind of sex with her.

For the first time, don't worry about your performance. Real sex is very different from what you imagine, for both better AND worse. Just have fun with the experience, and don't set any expectations for your performance.

As a general note, you might find it useful to somehow train yourself out of needing a tight grip to pop. Sounds crude, but when you jack off, the closer that the stimulation is to the feel and muscular power of a mouth or vagina, the easier you will find it to orgasm when you are with a partner.

preggofetish said:

This is not in Japan, but from where Im from Canada (though if the experience is pleasant, I may consider P4P once I visit Japan).

Anyways, I plan on losing my virginity to an escort. I just have two questions though

1. What's the optimal time to wait after masturbation to have a good time with an escort (a 30 minute session)? . For me, I masturbate almost daily and its actually a little difficult for me to reach orgasm (have to stroke fast, tight grip, and especially have to stretch my legs for some reason). I realize it differs from person to person. I want my penis to be sensitive so that it feels really good, but I am also a little afraid of the so-called "Oh you're a virgin, so you'll finish in like 10 seconds". On the other hand, if I wait too little, Im afraid I might not reach orgasm or maybe even have a little difficulty maintaining an erection.

2. Besides wearing a condom, are there any other precautions I can take to make the experience as safe as possible? No BBBJ, Kissing, and DATY I'm guessing?

Thanks

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1. Wait at least a day, maybe even more. Its unpredicatble how fast you will finish but if your masturbation takes long there might be a chance that you're not gonna be that "ten seconds virgin" and if you only have a 30 minutes session you cant go on forever anyway. It would be a nice plus if you can come during your first time and 30 minutes with probably some talking, cuddling and warming up is not a lot of time.

2. Yes that's the safest way but that takes pretty much all the fun out of it. Its one thing to lose your virginity to someone you dont love but do you want it to be all mechanical and not a bit of GFE and being intime at all?
There are no dangerous diseases you can get from kissing and saliva is very weak in general. Unless she has some giant, yellow, open cold sores on her lips i'd definitely recomment kissing her. If you're still a bit worried, maybe only light kiss, no deep kiss.
I never heard of a guy getting anything from eating out and its very standard for clients to do this to escorts.
As for BBJs, the guys who claim they got infections from there usually got them from pink salons where the women blow a looooot of guys every working day. But CBJ is still the safe way to go and quite some escorts only offer CBJ. I wouldn't be too panicy about diseases if i were you. They are not dangerous and easy to cure and the chance you get them is not that big. Of course don't do stupid things but please don't be too worried or strict and let you first time be relaxed and enjoyable. Talk about the things you do and don't wanna do to your escort beforehand and relax and enjoy the moment.

User#8628 said:

Its one thing to lose your virginity to someone you dont love but do you want it to be all mechanical and not a bit of GFE and being intime at all?
There are no dangerous diseases you can get from kissing and saliva is very weak in general. Unless she has some giant, yellow, open cold sores on her lips i'd definitely recomment kissing her.

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I completely agree. Just sticking your condom-covered dick inside her with no other intimacy sounds like less fun than just masturbating to me. I think you are setting yourself up for a very disappointing first experience if you are that averse to any risk of STDs.

-Ww