My Wife And I Might Divorce And She Mentioned Consolation Money?

Curacao said:
This is just sexist nonsense. Women already get paid less than men, and if they have to give up careers it makes it even more likely that a failed marriage will impact them more punitively than their ex-husbands. Can't be bothered to rebut point by point because I am on my phone. Yes there are unfair rulings and even unfair laws but you have totally misrepresented the facts here.
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Women don't actually get paid less than men, though it depends on the country. Women are often not doing the same dirty or dangerous jobs as men (construction, military, police...), taking less risk (like safe office jobs, not creating businesses. ..), or leaving the work force to raise children so lose senority for promotions.

In fact, there is an argument women are doing better than men. They live longer, more are graduating from college, more likely to win alimony, more likely to get his Social Security, insurance, or what's in his bank account when the husband dies, etc...
 
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TokyoJoeblow said:
I just won't pay. I guess in that case they can garnish my wages...but then again I wouldn't even be legally allowed to work if I have divorced lol. They can either just put me in jail for a while (no big deal) or not refund me my taxes, which is also no big deal.
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From what I've seen. The foreign spouse just leaves Japan, unless they get a work visa to stay here.

Divorces in Japan can be very simple. You sign, she sign, and done. And Japanese courts usually prefer if the divorcing couple make their own agreement, instead of them having to get involved. So if you are dealing with a lot of drama, in Japan, it's often more pure spouse hate and vindictiveness.
 
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TokyoJoeblow said:
Women are probably paid less than men here in Japan, but in the US, that shit was debunked years ago. The reason for the wage gap between the sexes is because women agree to take full time work, then decide to get knocked up and take extended leave, which costs companies billions of dollars. Woman are a major liability for all companies and only the dumbest of people in charge of companies aren't aware of this.
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Mr. Blow,

Please show me the research to back up your claims. According to this U.S. government study:

Even when women and men are working side-by-side performing similar tasks, however, the pay gap does not fully disappear. Blau and Kahn decomposed the pay gap and concluded that differences in occupation and industry explain about 49 percent of the wage gap, but 41 percent of the wage gap is not explained by differences in educational attainment, experience, demographic characteristics, job type, or union status, using the Panel Survey of Income Dynamics. Using a similar approach, but newer data from the Current Population Survey, the Council of Economic Advisers finds that industry and occupation can explain about 20 percent of the wage gap, but about two-thirds of the gap is not explained by potential experience, age, race, education, industry, or occupation.

https://www.whitehouse.gov/sites/default/files/docs/equal_pay_issue_brief_final.pdf


And, from a November 18, 2015 article in CNN Money:

It will take 118 years for the economic gap between men and women to close, the World Economic Forum said in its latest Global Gender Gap report.

The WEF said that the slow pace at which the global gender pay gap is narrowing means women are now earning what men did a decade ago.

In the U.S., the gap stands at 64%, meaning that women earn about two-thirds of what men make for similar work.

That's actually worse than it was last year, when the gap was 66%. The U.S. now ranks 74th in wage equality among 145 countries. Last year, it was 65th.

http://money.cnn.com/2015/11/18/news/gender-pay-gap/

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TJB is also okay with removing himself from society, the workforce, the company of women and going to jail in Japan - go figure, oh, and pass the soap.
 
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Solong said:
From what I've seen. The foreign spouse just leaves Japan, unless they get a work visa to stay here.

Divorces in Japan can be very simple. You sign, she sign, and done. And Japanese courts usually prefer if the divorcing couple make their own agreement, instead of them having to get involved. So if you are dealing with a lot of drama, in Japan, it's often more pure spouse hate and vindictiveness.
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She is actually holding on to our hanko stamps. I talked with a lawyer though and he mentioned that if I go to city hall to sign my name on divorce papers without the hanko stamp, she could always stamp for me later?

I'm wondering if I signed off on the papers and left Japan...would I ever be able to return to Japan years later without this haunting me forever?

I assume I would be alright if she stamped and signed off on the papers as well?
 
TokyoJoeblow said:
Women are probably paid less than men here in Japan, but in the US, that shit was debunked years ago. The reason for the wage gap between the sexes is because women agree to take full time work, then decide to get knocked up and take extended leave, which costs companies billions of dollars. Woman are a major liability for all companies and only the dumbest of people in charge of companies aren't aware of this.
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My apologies Mr. Blow, I no need to support your assertion with facts, I believe I found your source:

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TokyoJoeblow said: ↑
Maybe the tax return money of the sluts that infected me should go to my wife, along with some money from me. There needs to be a balance in the force.

And...perhaps the reason for your philosophy:

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TokyoJoeblow said:
She is actually holding on to our hanko stamps.
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If I were you, I would retrieve your hanko asap. It would be very easy for your wife to go on a 'stamp rally' in your name. Loan companies, typed statements professing your guilt, etc.

Actually, I want to protect her from actions done in a state of mental anguish that might hurt her as well as you.
 
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Quietlife said:
Loan companies,
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Oh yeah, she could totally take out lines of credit in your name with that.

I know a guy whose wife did that, then called the cops on him for marijuana usage and got him deported after she stamped his hanko on the divorce papers. Kept the cash and left him with a few million in consumer debt waiting for him if he ever tries to come back to Japan. Totally illegal, but nothing he can do about it, and the debt was incurred after the divorce was registered, so she had no liability.
 
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Sudsy said:
Oh yeah, she could totally take out lines of credit in your name with that.

I know a guy whose wife did that, then called the cops on him for marijuana usage and got him deported after she stamped his hanko on the divorce papers. Kept the cash and left him with a few million in consumer debt waiting for him if he ever tries to come back to Japan. Totally illegal, but nothing he can do about it, and the debt was incurred after the divorce was registered, so she had no liability.
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Wow...now that is one messed up woman lol.
 
I'm also curious how the pension cost changes would end up after I divorced her and left? After marriage, I noticed the pension costs go up, but wouldn't they go back to their original monthly costs for my wife should we divorce?

I don't see why she would get stuck with a higher amount to pay each month based on a status that is no longer existing...
 
Don't waste your money on consulting a reliable attorney. Just go to Amazon and order:
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http://www.amazon.com/Divorce-For-Dummies-John-Ventura/dp/0470411511

But seriously now, Mr. Blow, pay attention, because I am about to give you good advice. The members of TAG have a wide range experience in this area, but, given your tendency to succumb to drama, both real and imaginary, get in touch with a qualified specialist that can speak your native language, so there are absolutely no misunderstandings. I found a site that may have useful information for you in both Japanese immigration law and divorce:
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http://www.immigration-lawyers.jp/divorce-japan/divorce-in-japan/

P.S. Thanks for being such a good sport about all my smart-ass barbs and pics. I'm truly going to miss your tales of misfortune in Japan, something like an anti-heroic, gaijin, Tora-san.

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Priority one: buy a new inkan, go to the city office, and report the inkan your wife is holding as lost. Register the new inkan in your name ASAP. Then, notify your bank(s) about the change and provide them with a copy of the new inkan shomei.

If your wife is being openly hostile and threatening vindictive behavior, she has your past, present and future balls in a sling as long as she holds your hanko stamp.

It would really suck if you return to Japan in a few years, and you suddenly found yourself surrounded by police at the immigration counter for some wickedness your ex-wife hanko-ed you into in her present state.
 
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k1234k said:
Priority one: buy a new inkan, go to the city office, and report the inkan your wife is holding as lost. Register the new inkan in your name ASAP. Then, notify your bank(s) about the change and provide them with a copy of the new inkan shomei.
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This is actually very good advice. Make sure the design is clearly different as well, if your current one is round, make the new one oval or square.
 
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You guys on the Interweb need to take a step back & not put new unnecessary thoughts in dudes head. Getting a new Hanko & registering it is good but banks aren't just freely handing out bank loans to English teachers. Being here in Japan for a short time, living on an English teachers salary it's hard to get a loan. This is said with no disrespect to English teachers but from what I heard in the past is that it's hard for all of us to get bank loans.
 
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Desktop said:
it's hard for all of us to get bank loans.
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FWIW, spouse visa holders get more favourable treatment than working visa holders.
 
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Banks would require the owner of the hanko to front up in person and sign and personally hanko a zillion bits of paper. It would be the quick credit places he should fear. We are presuming TJB's better half is doing any hanko-holding for devious purposes. TJB - why not let her on here to give us her side?
 
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Priority one: buy a new inkan, go to the city office, and report the inkan your wife is holding as lost. Register the new inkan in your name ASAP. Then, notify your bank(s) about the change and provide them with a copy of the new inkan shomei.

If your wife is being openly hostile and threatening vindictive behavior, she has your past, present and future balls in a sling as long as she holds your hanko stamp.

It would really suck if you return to Japan in a few years, and you suddenly found yourself surrounded by police at the immigration counter for some wickedness your ex-wife hanko-ed you into in her present state.
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She actually isn't hiding the inkan from me. It is just somewhere in the apartment, but I will find it. If I asked her where it is, then it would raise some obvious suspicions haha.
 
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Banks would require the owner of the hanko to front up in person and sign and personally hanko a zillion bits of paper. It would be the quick credit places he should fear. We are presuming TJB's better half is doing any hanko-holding for devious purposes. TJB - why not let her on here to give us her side?
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I wouldn't say I'm evil...though I do often make bad decisions in life lol.
 
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