Adventurous Bi Woman Looking For Fun In Tokyo

kittykyato said:

Moving to Tokyo from California soon and have yet to find where my girls into girls hang out. Into tips and introductions, as my previous visits have turned up few lesbian bars etc

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I've had bisexual girlfriends before. If you are a particularly good looking woman, on the tallish side (but not too tall), physically fit, and where how you dress shows off your fitness (not necessarily or always sexy).... I have noticed gaydar/lesbian radar will sometimes come into affect.

It has happen many times before, that other bisexual (mostly) women would approach my girlfriends. Usually such women will kind of float around my girlfriend, and then be kind of weird. It's hard to describe. Like paying her too much attention, looking her in the eye too much and very agreeable body language when she talks, laughing too much at her jokes, and/or touchy. It's somewhat similar behavior to when women are attracted to a guy. Because women aren't proactive or direct in the way men usually are, it's something you have to be conscious of to notice. And actually, with other women (woman to woman), such women tend to be more brave. So if you are tuned to it, can be a bit more obvious.

If a bisexual woman is dominant and pretty, in Japan, she can have an absolute field day. Can pick and choose among bisexual or bicurious Japanese women who are broadcasting their willingness or interest. With totally lesbian women however, seems a bit tricker. But often because I was around or a kind of lesbian vs bisexual dynamic. Lesbian women being a bit more cautious or negative towards bisexuality.

Seems like any non-music club based social gathering works. Clubs and discos can be a bit problematic in Japan, because it appears many women are overly defensive about their behavior or paranoid. Like too fake, defensive, or too much confusion being among many people and the noise. But international parties, wine tasting, dart bars, etc... Oddly, dart bars were particularly good. Don't know why, but was so many times.

Happening Bars/Swinger clubs can be good places. For women, entering them is cheap. However, who you will meet can be random, just like going to any disco/night club. And, you will also get male attention, though nothing to worry about too much (if you like guys too) as the Happening Bar rules means the guys behave well and are gentlemen.

Online, it appears quite easy for gays, bisexuals, and lesbians to hook up. It's actually amazing how problematic it is for heterosexual men and women to hook up. Literally women will put crazy or passive-aggressive stuff like- "No Hook up", "No Sex", "Serious Only", etc... No guy is going to show on the 1st date and propose, so relax. But for Man to Man or Woman to Woman, it's a sex/hookup party. A bisexual woman can use AdultFriendFinder, Craigslist, OkCupid... She will get a response pretty quickly. I know, as would manage the messages for some of my bisexual girlfriends. They wanted me to pick out women that I liked too, so if things went well and the other woman agreed, they could bring her home.

kittykyato said:

Not that tall, unfortunately, but I do dress well / have particularly snobbish taste when it comes to clothing

Also not interested in guys, as I've got my own thing going on in that department. But this was very helpful!

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Well, I meant tallish by Japanese standards... 165cm (5ft 4in) or so... Western and Japanese standards for such are a bit different.

Don't have to dress particularly high class, but if you are physically fit, and anything that shows this. Tight form fitting jeans, dressed up version of yoga pants and outfit, etc... Where you can see your physical outline and build. Don't exactly know what is at work with this, but the style appears to attract other bisexual and lesbian women in Japan.

If you have a pretty woman with a dominant personality and/or are proactive, things will probably go particularly well. Because once you tune your bi-radar to women, you will notice who is acting "weird" or a bit too attentive or touchy, and you can start pulling them on dates. And things on the gay-side happen super quick, can be that same day or night, if you both have time. I was amazed at the antics and escalation speed by my bi-sexual girlfriends. For those reading this and don't know, heterosexually, women can give all these stories, excuses, and say slow down. On the gay/bi side, it can be "on" very fast, when both want it. Like go kiss and finger each other in the bathroom, meet for and expect hookups, etc.... If a woman is an Alpha/dominant, many Japanese women can very quickly be pulled into her sphere of influence or go along with what she is doing. Still, the women have to be at least bi-curious, so there is still some filtering needed.

A surprisingly high percentage of Japanese women are at least bi-curious or will try, by my estimates in the 35% to 40% range.

I'm surprised about so many Japanese women. Only because how often we get turned away at places. My wife is convinced there are no bi Japanese girls! Would love to prove her wrong. We had an amazing time the one time we tried it in the Philippines. We picked up two girls and brought them back to our place and it was so majestic. Anyway, really hoping to try out this bliss out place as it seems to be awesome. Hoping to make our way up there soon...as a surprise...for our 14th anniversary!

Jebony said:

I'm surprised about so many Japanese women. Only because how often we get turned away at places. My wife is convinced there are no bi Japanese girls! Would love to prove her wrong. We had an amazing time the one time we tried it in the Philippines. We picked up two girls and brought them back to our place and it was so majestic. Anyway, really hoping to try out this bliss out place as it seems to be awesome. Hoping to make our way up there soon...as a surprise...for our 14th anniversary!

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What places are you getting turned away from?

namae said:

What places are you getting turned away from?

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They're small places in town here. Not in Yokohama or Tokyo. Maybe that's the problem. Definitely know that we haven't been to a soapland or HB. But we most definitely want to now that we know they exist!

We will be in Japan during the month of April and would love to have a bi woman as company

kittykyato said:

Moving to Tokyo from California soon and have yet to find where my girls into girls hang out. Into tips and introductions, as my previous visits have turned up few lesbian bars etc

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If you want, I will take one for the team and show you around.