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My wife keeps telling me crazy shit like how she wants me to pay her every month until she meets another guy or gets married again. Her mom also got angry with me once and said to her in Japanese that we should divorce and that I should receive a judgement. She hates me so much lol.
I'm trying to improve my relationship with her and her mom, but nothing seems to be working. I wake up earlier, I clean up the apartment, I speak super polite...nothing works.
I'm tempted to try to just draw up some sort of reasonable contract we can agree on and both sign and hanko stamp (without her mom around of course) and present it to City Hall? Would they accept something like this as official or just shrug in confusion? I know that we would obviously have to also sign and hanko stamp divorce papers, but I want to divorce smoothly.
I'm just trying to figure out how we can both officially divorce without her later trying to take my ass to the cleaners. If we are divorced already and she agreed by signing and stamping, then there isn't anything she could do right (aside from just spouting lies)?
The idea of just leaving Japan isn't my main plan because I don't like running from problems. I would rather ride it out and face it, but this wave feels like it's going to be a long one with a strong crash at the end lol.
If my wife doesn't agree to any of the reasonable terms stated in the contract I draw up...then if I were to go sign off on divorce papers alone...will City Hall call her or her mother up right away or within a couple days to let them know I did so? I assume that is what they do, just to make sure the spouse has agreed to a divorce..since they weren't even there to sign off as well.
Another reason for the contract is to have her bring out the hanko stamps because I still can't find where she put them...
Any divorce experts on here have any advice on how to smoothly divorce with the more amount of damage control...besides just leaving Japan?
I'm trying to improve my relationship with her and her mom, but nothing seems to be working. I wake up earlier, I clean up the apartment, I speak super polite...nothing works.
I'm tempted to try to just draw up some sort of reasonable contract we can agree on and both sign and hanko stamp (without her mom around of course) and present it to City Hall? Would they accept something like this as official or just shrug in confusion? I know that we would obviously have to also sign and hanko stamp divorce papers, but I want to divorce smoothly.
I'm just trying to figure out how we can both officially divorce without her later trying to take my ass to the cleaners. If we are divorced already and she agreed by signing and stamping, then there isn't anything she could do right (aside from just spouting lies)?
The idea of just leaving Japan isn't my main plan because I don't like running from problems. I would rather ride it out and face it, but this wave feels like it's going to be a long one with a strong crash at the end lol.
If my wife doesn't agree to any of the reasonable terms stated in the contract I draw up...then if I were to go sign off on divorce papers alone...will City Hall call her or her mother up right away or within a couple days to let them know I did so? I assume that is what they do, just to make sure the spouse has agreed to a divorce..since they weren't even there to sign off as well.
Another reason for the contract is to have her bring out the hanko stamps because I still can't find where she put them...
Any divorce experts on here have any advice on how to smoothly divorce with the more amount of damage control...besides just leaving Japan?