Dating Japanese Women & Problems

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But how?
She doesn't accept to see me.
I cannot enforce her.

msaber said:

But how?
She doesn't accept to see me.
I cannot enforce her

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I think youanswered your own question

@msaber on a more practical note, fill your life with fun and meaningful things and send her periodic updates about them (and food pictures!). Occasionally ask a question to engage her. She might be less busy or get more interested if you don't get pissed off or butthurt or only serially invite her

@Tokyodude and @Sinapse nailed it imo, with the possible exception of the food pictures.

Repeatedly saying that she is busy, especially without suggesting alternative times, is saying "no thanks, not interested" about as clearly and directly as possible within the limits of good manners in Japanese culture.

As @Sinapse implied, very likely she will never go out with you no matter what you do, and as he said, you should not feel that you are being denied anything to which you are entitled. Getting over it quickly and moving on is your best option, but if you can remain in contact with her on a friendly basis, who knows what might happen in the longer run...anything is possible, but don't count on it!

On the food photos, I'd advise against them unless sending your friends pictures of your food is somehing you normally do anyway. If it isn't, then you would just be misleading her a bit about your personality and "stlyle", but this is admittedly a minor point.

-Ww

In Japan people are scared to death to be direct - in my country it's simply a fuck you or fuck me type of clear answer ... Anyway if you sense she is making some excuse and does not give any other options it means no.

In Japan if girls are interested you know it - they make sure you get the message

Hell even me I am now saying I'm too busy when I get approached by all these cute young girls now that I have been so long in Japan ..

Wwanderer said:

possible exception of the food pictures

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Do not doubt the powers of the food pictures. A hearty dish crosses cultures

Ya but that's going into stalker territory here / if she says no then move on...if she is good looking enough in Japan then she Mostly has a guy already . Or a few guys chasing her big time

ill advise against food pictures! in any setting, at any times!

other than that, i also think you wont stand a chance, since she already told you so...

for wanderers idea about staying friends and that it maybe leads to something (with the implied tiny possibility), unless youre already friends with her, someone who you hang out with regularly, i dont think anything will happen... people decide and dont change their mind too easy about it...

also keep in mind that quite a few dont date students...

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I am a student myself. It is cheaper to date another student.

Women who are working, are not interested in students.

In this site, it seems that some members are dating a couple of girls at the same time or may have more than one girlfriend. But, I found that Japanese girls are difficult. I've been living in Japan for 2 years and I couldn't get even one girlfriend or a serious date.

yeah, but from japanese peoples perspective, do they know if you are staying in japan, after you graduated? you dont even know that yourself...

maybe students are also more interesting in dating people with money, because that doesnt only make it cheaper, i bet its even free and comes with a few presents＾＾

I agree that staying friends is quite a long shot and really only sensible if the friendship works and makes sense for both of you even if it never develops into anything more.

-Ww