A Girl Tried To Pick Me Up Yesterday

deckard said:

Apparently all you have to do is wear some nice clothes and walk around Shinjuku! It's a pity they have these anti-smoking laws. Can you imagine it being like the fifties? All these charming young lads with cigarettes in their mouths, dressed in suits and hats, and the ladies! Their hair, and their manner! And yet it sounds so stupid, to be nostalgic for something that never was for me.

I've never even worn a suit casually to walk the streets. Gotta live with the times!

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The clothing can be useful, but more that it can help you tie into the girl's life a little bit more, appearing normal, etc. If you're into college-style girls, approaching her in a suit is kinda outside her world and could hurt you rather than throwing on a mannequin outfit from Uniqlo or Beams.

User#8628 said:

Rejecting a pickup when you are on your way to somewhere is such a normal reflex.
Sometimes a guy tries to pick me up and reject, then i look back and think "damn, i have places to be but i could have passed him my line" or "well, the thing i'm on my way too doesn't require hurrying..."

(Please don't take this as a reason to keep following girls around. But maybe look at her again from a few meter, see if she's staring at you.)

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Yea, there's a very fine line between persistence and harassment. More often than not when a girl ignores you or walks away, she's not really rejecting the individual, just more out of automatic response, having somewhere to go, etc. I've found that persisting for a minute or two (unless she's power walking, shoving an umbrella in my face, etc) usually isn't that invasive.

I mean, you reject the guy, but what's the harm in him walking with you to where you're going and then exchanging contact information after the fact? He could be your fated man!

I just had the an apparent reverse PU tonight at The Hub. The girl invited me to drink with her where she had her Japanese male friend (whom she immediately declared "he's not my Boyfriend") & she pretty much ignored the entire night.

The girl was definitely ugly, but probably has a gorgeous kitten and is pretty funny. If that cat is silky and stunning, I could care less about the face. She lived in Australia for 4 years. The conversation quickly went to Western vs Japanese size and other sex talk. I think the Japanese guy wanted to disappear at that point in the conversation.

The issue there is the congruence of the situation.
I would have passed too. Asking for a date, without having a minimum of build up is just weird. Let's stay connected with our animal nature. We need a minimum of ritual to feel an attraction, a connection. A bit of eye contact, a bit of chit chat... Even (or particularly) in a swinger club), you need to feel in harmony with others.
The scene described by DJV, is like a fantasy for me. I never had the opportunity to experience it myself but I would love it so much. The subway scene in Shame is soooo hot!!

Ms. Bear, who knows way more about women than I ever will, always takes the nerdy type over the stunner, "because the nerds try harder in bed, and often are kinky. The models don't have to."

I once was approached by a guy (gaikokujin) in a Tokyo shopping mall...
Since he wasn't my type and it was/is not my orientation, I was swift to murmur some reason for having to leave soon...
Whilst I am not really expecting any girl to approach me in Tokyo, I would probably be too shocked to take it any further. Moreover, with my luck, she would probably be a casual axe murderer anyway...

deckard said:

Apparently all you have to do is wear some nice clothes and walk around Shinjuku! It's a pity they have these anti-smoking laws. Can you imagine it being like the fifties? All these charming young lads with cigarettes in their mouths, dressed in suits and hats, and the ladies! Their hair, and their manner! And yet it sounds so stupid, to be nostalgic for something that never was for me.

I've never even worn a suit casually to walk the streets. Gotta live with the times!

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The Hats especially, put on a pocket square are you're good to go. Oh, you should Google Jidenna, take a look at that guy's style. that would turn some heads for sure.

Well I had an experience today on the train. Too bad it was a dude.

I was sitting minding my own business when I looked up and this dude was staring at me. Tried to pay him no mind but I could feel him staring. So when we locked eyes again, he started to clap and give me a thumbs up. He did this several times. I started laughing. "Whats with this guy?" I thought. Then at the next stop, he motioned to get off the train and I ignored him until he got off.

Sorry guys. Not regretting this decision. If only it was a lovely lady instead...

hkAlone said:

The issue there is the congruence of the situation.
I would have passed too. Asking for a date, without having a minimum of build up is just weird. Let's stay connected with our animal nature. We need a minimum of ritual to feel an attraction, a connection. A bit of eye contact, a bit of chit chat... Even (or particularly) in a swinger club), you need to feel in harmony with others.
The scene described by DJV, is like a fantasy for me. I never had the opportunity to experience it myself but I would love it so much. The subway scene in Shame is soooo hot!!

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Yeah I feel like if it catches you off guard you get a bit defensive. Especially if its not in an area where its usual for you to hit on or be hit on.

I was approached once by an older, plain looking woman once on the street.

I would have assumed she was a if the area and herself weren't so unassuming, but there wasn't an opportunity to find out since I was penniless outside of enough pocket change to get me to the airport the following morning.