A date with my wife

Frenchy said:
Well me neither. Anyway can't divorce. We are living separately and I Proposed a fortune to my wife but she still says no and always wants more. Once , just to see how absurd this could get , I said OK and she came back... wanting even more! :vomit:
Maybe she's the reason I can't stand being overcharged for sex... been overcharged for no-sex (and now divorce) too long, I'm totally messed up now! :wacky:
Probably she is just afraid of losing the married status, can't quite figure out what she wants to do with her life...
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Well as my lawyer said "There is no law you have to live together"

I'm just trying not to get screwed over - but I accepted that possibility when I decided to leave.
 
Ladylisa said:
Well as my lawyer said "There is no law you have to live together"

I'm just trying not to get screwed over - but I accepted that possibility when I decided to leave.
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beside administrative registration of children issues, a couple don't need a contract to be together and enjoy each other's company.
 
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e-smile said:
beside administrative registration of children issues, a couple don't need a contract to be together and enjoy each other's company.
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Yeah, but to stop enjoying each other's company apparently the marriage contract is great! :confused:
 
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Ladylisa said:
Well as my lawyer said "There is no law you have to live together"

I'm just trying not to get screwed over - but I accepted that possibility when I decided to leave.
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So I suppose you are still married on paper, like me? Does he flat out refuse the divorce or it's also the negotiation which is not going well?
 
Frenchy said:
Well me neither. Anyway can't divorce. We are living separately and I Proposed a fortune to my wife but she still says no and always wants more. Once , just to see how absurd this could get , I said OK and she came back... wanting even more! :vomit:
Maybe she's the reason I can't stand being overcharged for sex... been overcharged for no-sex (and now divorce) too long, I'm totally messed up now! :wacky:
Probably she is just afraid of losing the married status, can't quite figure out what she wants to do with her life...
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Sorry to hear J-girls turn into a devil after marriage! So sorry we Japanese ladies tend to be cold at home, after day 1 at their marriage. That's why there are so many loveless, sexless couples even for Japanese VS Japanese marriage. They just keep it for their children's sake or fkn status sake. (such a low self-esteem!)

Well, you got TAG friends, who are just like your situation. Lovely girls would keep you manly. Or, maybe you need a non P4P GF, who would provide what you want, discretely, might make you feel better, than my words.
 
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e-smile said:
So I suppose you are still married on paper, like me? Does he flat out refuse the divorce or it's also the negotiation which is not going well?
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He's still hoping I'll come to my senses and go back, but I think that was shattered when I got registered as separated at the city office.

I haven't pushed it because I'm scared he will get vindictive, and also because I was establishing a new status quo.

But now I'm being more screwed over not being divorced, so I'm going to push for it.

It is also weird still being technically married. I don't think he can use any new relationship against me, but it's a concern.
 
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Jbagz said:
No, but a would want a logical solution to a disagreement between two people.
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yeah but most of the couple's disagreement are futile compared to the deep problem of lack of affection.
 
e-smile said:
yeah but most of the couple's disagreement are futile compared to the deep problem of lack of affection.
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There is a logical solution to that.

Either they go their separate ways, or they address the affection deficit.
 
Just realised, this thread is going way over than #100! (￣▽￣)
 
Not Even Dave said:
I know, right? And to think my OP was meant as a joke... I think I hit a nerve.
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Hey! NED you're still alive after all!
Thanks for this thread which gives me (and a few others) a way to indulge in my favorite pastime : venting online! :)
 
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Not Even Dave said:
I know, right? And to think my OP was meant as a joke... I think I hit a nerve.
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But still, it's your reality, NED! I think it turned out as a good discussion forum, regarding hus/ wi cold martial issues. Still a good one, I think. You should be proud to have brought it up!
 
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Frenchy said:
Hey! NED you're still alive after all!
Thanks for this thread which gives me (and a few others) a way to indulge in my favorite pastime : venting online! :)
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Yes... can't say why I'm still here but for now, I still am!
 
Yuriko said:
Sorry to hear J-girls turn into a devil after marriage! So sorry we Japanese ladies tend to be cold at home, after day 1 at their marriage. That's why there are so many loveless, sexless couples even for Japanese VS Japanese marriage. They just keep it for their children's sake or fkn status sake. (such a low self-esteem!)

Well, you got TAG friends, who are just like your situation. Lovely girls would keep you manly. Or, maybe you need a non P4P GF, who would provide what you want, discretely, might make you feel better, than my words.
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Thanks Yuriko . I had a non P4P GF and yes it's good to have friends (online and offline) to share with. I'm no angel either by the way ! :D
 
Ladylisa said:
I got totally fed up with it and told him that I'd give him massages when he started giving me orgasms.
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"I said to my wife, 'You never tell me when you're having an orgasm.' She said, 'You're never around!" ~ Rodney Dangerfield
 
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Jbagz said:
There is a logical solution to that.

Either they go their separate ways, or they address the affection deficit.
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that's the obvious logic and you don't need a robot for that.
 
Maybe I have a weird thinking but probably Japanese people (not only them, but more than others) end up considering that after marriage the other is just a part of themselves, like a hand or leg. You don't give respect or affection to your hand or leg , you just take them for granted . Heck you may give much more respect to a total stranger :it always amazed me for instance how politely she could talk to , say, a shop clerk or a telephone operator , and then suddenly when talking to me - the guy she married and who pays all the bills! - all this 何やってるんだよ〜、それだからダメなんだよ crap mentioned by Yuriko
 
Frenchy said:
Maybe I have a weird thinking but probably Japanese people (not only them, but more than others) end up considering that after marriage the other is just a part of themselves, like a hand or leg. You don't give respect or affection to your hand or leg , you just take them for granted . Heck you may give much more respect to a total stranger :it always amazed me for instance how politely she could talk to , say, a shop clerk or a telephone operator , and then suddenly when talking to me - the guy she married and who pays all the bills! - all this 何やってるんだよ〜、それだからダメなんだよ crap mentioned by Yuriko
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well we do have a lot of sex with a part of ourselves : hand
 
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Well, they do say that familiarity breeds contempt.
 
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