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Hi all,
I need some advice from you experienced guys about my current relationship. I recently moved from Germany to Tokyo and now after two month of dating I am in a relationship with a J-gril. We are both mid 30 and have a lot of things in common. We also agree on the main questions about the relationship, like moving in together, kids etc…
But there some manners of her I didn’t experienced from western girls so far and I really struggle with them:
1. Not seeing us so often
Especially during the beginning of a relationship me and my previous girlfriends tried to see each other as much as we could. But she seems to be fine seeing each other like two times per week.
2. Less talking
I feel that conversations don’t hold naturally. That means it is always me bringing up topics to talk about and when I run out of topics there is not much conversation anymore. It also seems to be uncommon to her to talk about how the day went etc. When she drinks that totally changes…I mean it’s fun drinking with her but this can’t be the solution, right?!
3. Sex
We already talked about what she likes and what I like. She told that she has some trouble to get an orgasm so often Sex feels like without much passion. Not easy to fix this having problem number 2.
4. Not replying to messages
We text about one message per day. Often she reads a message and don’t reply back for hours. Thinking about my ex girlfriends, we used to text much more and not texting back for such a long time would have pissed off both of us.
I really like her so I want to keep up the relationship but some of that really bothers me. I already talked about some of that with her but I don’t want to bring up all at once.
I am asking myself what of this is pretty normal here among J-girls and what of this is just her. What is your experience about that things?
Pls excuse any mistakes and thanks a lot!!!
I need some advice from you experienced guys about my current relationship. I recently moved from Germany to Tokyo and now after two month of dating I am in a relationship with a J-gril. We are both mid 30 and have a lot of things in common. We also agree on the main questions about the relationship, like moving in together, kids etc…
But there some manners of her I didn’t experienced from western girls so far and I really struggle with them:
1. Not seeing us so often
Especially during the beginning of a relationship me and my previous girlfriends tried to see each other as much as we could. But she seems to be fine seeing each other like two times per week.
2. Less talking
I feel that conversations don’t hold naturally. That means it is always me bringing up topics to talk about and when I run out of topics there is not much conversation anymore. It also seems to be uncommon to her to talk about how the day went etc. When she drinks that totally changes…I mean it’s fun drinking with her but this can’t be the solution, right?!
3. Sex
We already talked about what she likes and what I like. She told that she has some trouble to get an orgasm so often Sex feels like without much passion. Not easy to fix this having problem number 2.
4. Not replying to messages
We text about one message per day. Often she reads a message and don’t reply back for hours. Thinking about my ex girlfriends, we used to text much more and not texting back for such a long time would have pissed off both of us.
I really like her so I want to keep up the relationship but some of that really bothers me. I already talked about some of that with her but I don’t want to bring up all at once.
I am asking myself what of this is pretty normal here among J-girls and what of this is just her. What is your experience about that things?
Pls excuse any mistakes and thanks a lot!!!