Anyone else feel the urge to better themselves after p4p?

[josephiusbidoo]

Visiting someone extremely attractive makes you want to up your own attractiveness too, like working out or working on skincare etc. Or any other forms of "being better". An unexpected source of motivation to improve oneself. Anyone have similar feelings/experiences?

 

[Danbo]

I think we always should work on ourselves....it is important to keep a positive self image and not just do it for other people.

When it comes to Fuzoku I think it is only obvious if you are in room with mirrors. Makes it even more obvious how you look in comparison to the attractive provider....Lol, quite dangerous.
Can be a nice kick in the butt to get on a stricter diet again 👍

 

[MikeH]

It only makes me want to make more money.

Which is kind of the same thing I guess.

 

[zstar]

After p4p, it helped let me know what I need to focus on getting better but also let me know what I am already doing well. It was both a great motivator and affirmation. Helped me get through my self esteem worrying.

 

[ChromeMox]

I had to re-evaluate how I kiss, fuck, eat out, etc. Didn't know I was doing a lot of that the wrong way.

 

[qcryp]

Absolutely, I keep better care of myself since I started regularly seeing girls. Sure i'm a client and they don't really care too much, but it still subconsciously motivates me anyways.

I mean to be honest my desire to be with women should have motivated me a lot earlier but realistically I think I gave up on trying to be with women in normal life for a few years prior to p4p stuff.

It makes me more confident which leads to better sessions too. When a girl compliments my muscles or says I look cool or similar even if she may do that to every guy she meets because I know that I do work on them I can more easily delude myself into believing its a sincere compliment, which I mean that feels good too.

 

[OsmanthusFragrans]

Usually only a desire to better manage my spending habits

 

[Alice]

I had to re-evaluate how I kiss, fuck, eat out, etc. Didn't know I was doing a lot of that the wrong way.

There is not necessarily a wrong way. Every girl likes different things so you should treat carefully and adept to what seems to work for each individual girl.

 

[Cinnabums]

No. P4P clearly shows that we are welcome as we are, no reason to impress whatsoever, just indulge in food, drinks and pussy like there is no tomorrow.

 

[Doggyfong]

It only makes me want to make more money.

And to train up so I can get 1 more shot in by the time limit
Age is catching up…

 

[KaiInKawa]

Visiting someone extremely attractive makes you want to up your own attractiveness too, like working out or working on skincare etc. Or any other forms of "being better". An unexpected source of motivation to improve oneself. Anyone have similar feelings/experiences?

I was already a gym-goer but I fully admit, my journey into p4p has raised my motivation to go a little bit further with my workouts.

 

[kazhaku]

I bettered myself a whole lot over my life to a point where some P4P is kinda my reward for all of it.

If I did P4P more frequently and cared to frequently revisit providers and build strong rapport, I might care to better myself more.

 

[gaschdee]

It's always nice getting compliments about my muscles from the girls, moreso because it's one of the few compliments from them I'll believe and actually feel good about.

Not just from P4P, but since I started working out years ago my sex life has improved immensely. Sex is so much better when you don't get exhausted, even during longer sessions.

 

[FictionalFaust]

Less "after" and more "huh maybe I should work out again before going" for me. Though that was only partially p4p driven. Doing 20-30k steps a day works better when you're in decent shape

 

[zerosupblues]

Post nut clarity only lasts until the next erection unfortunately

 

[thatguythere]

Yes, but as previous person said, when i got home and old habits and flow kicked in that got pushed to the background again.

 

[Ddddd]

I feel the urge to make more money.

 

[Acid Burn]

I've always been self conscious with my body (not buff enough, not ripped enough, not measuring up to the western ideal male body type, etc), but with these pretty providers really just not seeming to judge any of that, they have actually boosted my self esteem and self confidence with my body.

What these providers have made me want to improve on myself with is learning to speak Japanese better and fluently though. Speak, not read, nor just pass a test.

When I started p4p, I couldn't even say why I'm visiting Japan outside of simple things like I love Japan, or I love sushi, and I would confuse words like 'touch' with 'sit' which lead to some funny misunderstandings in the moment. 😂

But it drove me to learn more Japanese to where yesterday talking with a provider about the economy and recessions and shit like that during downtime. Lol. That may sound like a weird downtime topic, but we got on the topic of two tiered pricing for inbound travelers so the convo steered towards the economy, covid time difficulties, currency strengths, etc, etc.

 

[Alice]

've always been self conscious with my body (not buff enough, not ripped enough, not measuring up to the western ideal male body type, etc), but with these pretty providers really just not seeming to judge any of that,

Yeah i wouldn't be worried about Japanese girls caring too much about that. 😊

 

[zera]

Visiting someone extremely attractive makes you want to up your own attractiveness too

So without going in depth.

Last year I visited a girl who retired... well the next day. Wasn't me I swear!

Anyways thanks to that I went from planning on graduating and being a NEET to opening a branch of my business in Japan, working on a visa, dating for the first time in literally a decade, (quick schedule but the matchmaker was good and we both will be "working" good jobs- just me running a business and her working a job).

I'll always be sad I didn't get to see Mikan again. But she unironically changed my life. All it took was her calling me handsome and saying a few other things- which I know she said to everyone, and I even told her she didn't have to lie, but it really lit a fire under me and made me a better person.

I really owe that woman alot, I hope wherever she is and whatever she's doing she is nothing but successful, happy, and has a fantastic life.

It's perhaps (not) cliche to say but it changed me life.

Amusingly the fan favorite Moe- than at Hisyo- had the opposite effect because it was just so clear how much she was faking it made me pretty demoralized. But Mikan sold the illusion and made me realize I needed to work to have the "reality" if I ever wanted a happy life settled down with someone and settled in Japan.

 

[qcryp]

So without going in depth.

Last year I visited a girl who retired... well the next day. Wasn't me I swear!

Anyways thanks to that I went from planning on graduating and being a NEET to opening a branch of my business in Japan, working on a visa, dating for the first time in literally a decade, (quick schedule but the matchmaker was good and we both will be "working" good jobs- just me running a business and her working a job).

I'll always be sad I didn't get to see Mikan again. But she unironically changed my life. All it took was her calling me handsome and saying a few other things- which I know she said to everyone, and I even told her she didn't have to lie, but it really lit a fire under me and made me a better person.

I really owe that woman alot, I hope wherever she is and whatever she's doing she is nothing but successful, happy, and has a fantastic life.

It's perhaps (not) cliche to say but it changed me life.

Amusingly the fan favorite Moe- than at Hisyo- had the opposite effect because it was just so clear how much she was faking it made me pretty demoralized. But Mikan sold the illusion and made me realize I needed to work to have the "reality" if I ever wanted a happy life settled down with someone and settled in Japan.

It is interesting how a particular lady can have a larger impact on you than others, i've had the same before. Then you have to wonder how other people didn't have the same reaction to this girl.

But Mikan sold the illusion and made me realize I needed to work to have the "reality" if I ever wanted a happy life settled down with someone

This but ill add a girl who sold the illusion to me made me realize what I want to feel in a relationship. It's sort of incredible how some girls can sell the fantasy, how is that not super emotionally draining? It's enjoyable to let yourself enjoy the illusion too so long as you can separate it out in the end and keep the knowledge that it is an illusion.

 

[thatguythere]

Ill forever be sad i missed out on Mikan, but i can imagine the effect it might have. The first year i went i also felt strongly that i should improve myself just for the providers. They work very hard in sometimes dangerous circumstances, might as well make their day by being presentable and cleaned up and accomidating.

 

[kyngder]

But it drove me to learn more Japanese to where yesterday talking with a provider about the economy and recessions and shit like that during downtime. Lol. That may sound like a weird downtime topic, but we got on the topic of two tiered pricing for inbound travelers so the convo steered towards the economy, covid time difficulties, currency strengths, etc, etc.

LOL - sounds like my kind of woman!

 

[zera]

This but ill add a girl who sold the illusion to me made me realize what I want to feel in a relationship. It's sort of incredible how some girls can sell the fantasy, how is that not super emotionally draining? It's enjoyable to let yourself enjoy the illusion too so long as you can separate it out in the end and keep the knowledge that it is an illusion.

For real man. Even after the meeting she asked if I wanted to walk her to... some next stop? And asked me alot of details about my plans for moving to Japan.

And like a dolt I thought she was just asking to be kind and didn't want to bother her as I figured she would want to be done with a client after meeting them (granted I thought we would have more meetings then). Ahhh regrets. Regardless, that illusion was the best of my life and changed my life. And I'm happy it did otherwise I would be stuck in America long term lol.

I often think back and wonder if she hadn't updated her schedule (as originally she had no work scheduled)... where would I be? For all I know I would be going back into Neethood, letting my businesses run passively and doing nothing with my life. Such a small thing for such a big change.

It is interesting how a particular lady can have a larger impact on you than others, i've had the same before. Then you have to wonder how other people didn't have the same reaction to this girl.

I've often met poorly reviewed people and found them charming, witty, and enjoyable to be around. Sometimes I wonder if it's the user, but othertimes, like not clicking with Moe....

I mean so many things can make someone's day or break it. Meeting a provider for the first time at a bad time could just lead to bad first impressions. Like with Moe the shop itself messed up and I was in the waiting room >30 minutes. She had thought I was just late, they didn't tell her I was there for some reason. So it started off poorly and never got better.

 

[Alice]

It is interesting how a particular lady can have a larger impact on you than others, i've had the same before. Then you have to wonder how other people didn't have the same reaction to this girl.

Yeah I guess a large part of it is how well you click on a personal level.
I guess also what one person sees as fake might be really hot to another person (like dirty talk for example or announcing you are cumming). And someone's natural mannerisms may seem annoying to one person but cute to another.