This is really more of a question/conversation among how it is to approach Japanese women and get there number/email/line etc. I've been reading around the forum, and I don't think I've seen anyone really bring this part about meeting Japanese women. Now occasionally you'll get the girls who are head over heels for foreigners but I'm talking about those girls who are possibly on the fence and a little more reserved about it and don't try to speak english. I have a friend who is living in Tokyo right now, and I've been to Tokyo pretty recently as well a few times, and we've been talking about how it is to meet and ask a Japanese girl out/get her number. Being from America, it seems the style of how it is done is very different than how Japanese girls expect it to be. Now for those people who aren't America, what I mean is, if a guy sees a girl and he's interested in her, he will go up to her and try and strike a conversation. If it goes well, then he'll usually get her number and you can probably guess what happens from there. But in Japan, it seems that approach does not work very well. My friend, who happens to be Japanese and speak Japanese fluently, told me that girls think that is very weird if you were to do that in Japan, whether it be at work, on the subway, at a coffee shop and so on. He said that for Japanese girls, usually they have to have noticed you on their commute, or at the cafe/somewhere multiple times over an extended period of time, anywhere from a few weeks to a few months. Once each of you have made the stare at each other then look away, the guy will go up and talk to her, and only after talking to her a few times will she give you her number and let you take her out on a date. Now I have family in Japan, and all the girls I've asked in my family think that that is the cool and proper way to do it, but being American, our mentality is that that is usually considered stalkerish. What are your guys' opinions/observations on approaching Japanese women? Do any of you guys have a pretty successful method of approaching a random Japanese girl, and either trying to speak Japanese or English to her and see how far that takes you? Just looking for some different view points and things I can try when I have to move to Japan for work soon.