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Asking your SB to go on a trip.

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Pretty new at this game and SB' birthday is coming up soon. I was thinking of asking her to come to Okinawa with me. Is it too early to ask her on a trip?

Some history, saw her twice for adults and exchanged contacts. We pretty much chat everyday. For the past several weeks. She wants to meet up again but work has been tough on her schedule.
 
Go for it! If she doesn’t want to, she’ll decline. Keep in mind you’ll likely to have to share real names with each other (for the flight tickets etc) so you both need to be comfortable with that.
Also make sure to give each other some alone time; girl’s gotta poop in private!
I usually “go the gym” or “have a work call” and give her an afternoon alone, give her some cash, and tell her to go shopping.
 
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Thanks for the advice. We don’t chat like every minute lol. Still gotta work after all. More like couple times a day. like playing tag. She knows my first name but not sure if she gave me her real name or not.
 
It’s a different situation than a single date. Be clear before going what is expected from your side and hers. And yes, alone time necessary sometimes both for you and her. But when together , I hope for you it won’t be like some experiences I had with a former SB when she spent most time on her phone anyway. I’m a boring guy , ok, but I pay for the illusion not to be one!

Also you may think sometimes it feels like work because basically you’re in charge of everything , the bookings, the logistics, taking pics for her Insta etc, and she’s just there to… be there basically (and put the pics you took on Insta)

Basically each time we went for a trip I hated her guts when we came back .
 
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Frenchy said:
It’s a different situation than a single date. Be clear before going what is expected from your side and hers. And yes, alone time necessary sometimes both for you and her. But when together , I hope for you it won’t be like some experiences I had with a former SB when she spent most time on her phone anyway. I’m a boring guy , ok, but I pay for the illusion not to be one!

Also you may think sometimes it feels like work because basically you’re in charge of everything , the bookings, the logistics, taking pics for her Insta etc, and she’s just there to… be there basically (and put the pics you took on Insta)

Basically each time we went for a trip I hated her guts when we came back .
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Even as someone who is younger, I find that certain demographic of girls living on social media unbearable! I'll put up with a lot for a cute face but if we don't click on a personal level and enjoy experiences together she's not for me.
 
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If your doing a trip like that I would recommend a weekend trip leave Friday come back Sunday for her. That way your not asking her to take time off work work. The biggest issue is not asking her to miss work. Unlike what some will think it's not about money lost. But it's a very big taboo to ask for time off in Japan randomly or on short notice. But offering a weekend trip she can still do a trip
 
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watchinforfun said:
If your doing a trip like that I would recommend a weekend trip leave Friday come back Sunday for her. That way your not asking her to take time off work work. The biggest issue is not asking her to miss work. Unlike what some will think it's not about money lost. But it's a very big taboo to ask for time off in Japan randomly or on short notice. But offering a weekend trip she can still do a trip
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Good point! luckily the timeframe I was planning for happens to be from Friday to Sunday.

@Maxblack Oh I get what you mean now. I'll probably give her some room to breathe during the trip if she wants.
 
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bobbo22 said:
Good point! luckily the timeframe I was planning for happens to be from Friday to Sunday.

@Maxblack Oh I get what you mean now. I'll probably give her some room to breathe during the trip if she wants.
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Some other advice is find a location for a trip she likes, you'll get way more out of it. If she likes Okinawa great no need to change. I took a girl to Kurizawa in nagano cause that's where she wanted to go visit. First win was I discovered how cool that place is and now visit regularly. Second win I unintentionally I never even had to give her the allowance that being said we ended up going shopping in the outlet malls there and I bought her gifts which that cost more than the agreements. But we are having so much fun that the allowance slipped are minds. Plus it all felt natural versus required. Lol even got a dressing room bj as thanks for a bag I purchased Plus with the gifts she didn't mind not getting the allowance. It was unintentionally because was the plan was to give it to her when we parted. We were having so much fun I forgot. I did try to paypay the allowance to her she sent it right back so ended up giving me a great experience.
 
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watchinforfun said:
Lol it's only awkward if you got caught
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It was for bags and accessories only , no dressing room if I remember well.
Well maybe I could have asked for some private time in their office or inventory room…
 
Frenchy said:
It was for bags and accessories only , no dressing room if I remember well.
Well maybe I could have asked for some private time in their office or inventory room…
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Ah yeah it wasn't in the purse store, we went to another clothing store in the outlet
 
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Ken4fb said:
Remember to buy her the ticket rather than giving her the cash for it.
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Don’t buy her the ticket to the US if you don’t travel together and have your story straight though, the immigration office will expect human trafficking.
 
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