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Hey!
So right now I'm in that awkward part of traveling were I leave in a few months after living in a country for several years. So of course that ends up with me being single, I thought it'd be pretty cool until I realized casual hookups don't exactly do anything for me.
So here is my issue being that I'm in my early 20s I can go to clubs or bars and pick someone up, but that type of sex is just boring for me. In my experience so far it's just kinda mindlessly using each other to get off, the foreplay ,kissing, eye contact, or even movements always seem so detached.
I do get it though in the modern hookup culture most people would rather catch a STI then "feelings" and intimacy or passion breeds that. Of course I'm also leaving in 2-3 months and it'd be horrible to feel like shit on a big move or day 1 in my new home.
SO I'm hit with an ultimatum, do I break and continue with the lonely, and detached sex trying not to feel anything... or start a relationship with someone and leave out the details I'm leaving soon. Either way poor choice.
How do other people handle this situation/ is there a option I'm over looking?
So right now I'm in that awkward part of traveling were I leave in a few months after living in a country for several years. So of course that ends up with me being single, I thought it'd be pretty cool until I realized casual hookups don't exactly do anything for me.
So here is my issue being that I'm in my early 20s I can go to clubs or bars and pick someone up, but that type of sex is just boring for me. In my experience so far it's just kinda mindlessly using each other to get off, the foreplay ,kissing, eye contact, or even movements always seem so detached.
I do get it though in the modern hookup culture most people would rather catch a STI then "feelings" and intimacy or passion breeds that. Of course I'm also leaving in 2-3 months and it'd be horrible to feel like shit on a big move or day 1 in my new home.
SO I'm hit with an ultimatum, do I break and continue with the lonely, and detached sex trying not to feel anything... or start a relationship with someone and leave out the details I'm leaving soon. Either way poor choice.
How do other people handle this situation/ is there a option I'm over looking?