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many of my friends in Japan are black and 3 of them are serial "daters". the others are average "daters". also the most unsuccessful guys I know in Japan are either Japanese or white french, some of them didn't have 3 dates in 7 years, so don't rush into conclusions and don't define yourself only as a kokujin.So I have been in Japan for about 7 months now and I have only gotten about 3 dates. It seems like Japanese girls are not willing to give me any time of time because I am Black. I speak fairly good Japanese so it is not an issue. I see my white guy friends who speak no Japanese constantly having dates lined up, constant hook ups, and women begging to sleep with them, even though they are not even as good looking as me or speak anywhere the amount of Japanese I can. They often ask how it is possibly that I haven't meet more girls then them. Then only thing I can come to is that in this area(Kobe/Osaka) Japanese women are not warm to Black people at all. I have been to Bars and clubs, where women will actually ignore me if I approach them. I have been on multiple dating apps/sites such as Pairs, Tinder (500 swipes=no match), Gyaruru, PCmax, Skout, JapanCupid, AdultFriendFinder, etc. I have tried them all. At this point I ready to give up, Are Japanese really this cold towards non white foreigners? I have even played with the idea of just buying sex, but that is even a challenge! Once anyone figures out that I am Black the conversation is over. I am out of Ideas, what does everyone think? No it is not my looks, I am a fairly attractive black guy, who takes very good care of himself.
in general if you compare to France Japanese people (not only girls) are less approachable. they are shyer and less communicative. so you have to accept that.
also you know your type but you have also to know whose type you're, that applies to anyone no matter the ethnic origin.
ps : Japanese language is not really an asset. I can speak Japanese and i sound fluent but I don't use that for nampa. speaking English is better
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