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I did it. Yoshiwara Tour Guide open for business. Here's my ad in the classified section.

https://tokyoadultguide.com/threads/yoshiwara-tour-guide.15184/#post-112176

Check out my website in my ad, it's functional now, but I still have lots of content I'd like to fill it out with soon. Hope you like it and I hope I can help.

You should put it in the Misc Advertising section of TAG. You'll get a 7 day advertisement, or you can pay @TAG Manager a monthly fee to keep your ad past the 7 days.
 
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Sorry I'm an idiot! I thought it was in another thread. I JUST noticed that it was before you replied and was coming back to delete my post...
 
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Late to the party, I am catching up on everything now that my ass is firmly planted back in Japan.

I'm a big advocate of self-starting and developing your own set of marketable skills. I guess I'm a workaholic, but everything I do is something that I enjoy doing or find interesting. I wear three hats and sometimes a 4th and I love most all of it. There are times where things are difficult, but if it were all so easy, I'd get bored.
Selling excess material items is just a stop-gap measure and doesn't really have any long term benefits... but yes, if you need to do that to survive, sure.

As for P4P, I'm truly dedicated to the free-play arena, I can't really give you any advice about budgeting for P4P except that the comments I've seen in this thread are very reasonable. It's okay to splurge on yourself from time to time, but don't break the bank doing so. (From TAG, officially, we do appreciate your reviews but we expect to put yourself first, both in health and personal finance.)

Back to the side job stuff: I meet a lot of people that are just lost and don't have a sense of direction. They go to their job everyday, they get their salary every month and rehash that cycle aside from the occasional vacation, p4p or family event. I'm surprised that more people don't try to develop their own personal skills and try to build more for themselves. Of course, they may lack the motivation, time or discipline to do so.

I overheard this couple in front of me one day, trying to buy a stick of RAM for their broken PC... I had no idea about their background, but they were trying to budget 16,000 yen to get the new stick of RAM to fix their PC. They were discussing how they could pay rent, get food and still fix their PC. (No idea if they needed the PC for their income or not...) Anyway, it just seemed surreal to me that they were having this discussion while hovering over the checkout line before committing to the purchase or giving up. I think everyone can build a talent or train themselves in a marketable skill to improve their quality of life. I just see so many people that just don't try... or feel like it's impossible before even attempting it. (I see this a lot with Japanese people, they commonly just aren't risk takers or they are entirely bound to their company but get paid scraps to live on.)

Bottom line, invest in yourself and you may surprise yourself.
 
I think everyone can build a talent or train themselves in a marketable skill to improve their quality of life. I just see so many people that just don't try... or feel like it's impossible before even attempting it.

Not to get off on a small tangent, but I think there's two big reasons why people don't just try. First, there's a lot of people that aren't workaholics and aren't independent enough to go out on their own. People will generally accept their current place in life even if it's uncomfortable or they aren't happy, because there's no guarantee of the brass ring immediately in front of them. They either want to enjoy their time off, or would rather have some sort of job security than have some sort of shot at greater success, or both. It's usually some event that forces them into a position to change their careers where this happens. Either they reach a breaking point, or lose their job, etc.

Secondly, (for the people worrying about paying rent or buying a stick of RAM) poverty isn't a great place to be. People in poverty generally have to travel further to work, have to stand in more lines, and aren't able to martial their resources in a way that provides a maximum benefit. One great example of this is that someone many not be able to 'afford' high quality shoes at US$100, so they buy crappy shoes at $55 that wear out so fast that they have to buy another pair before the quality shoes would be half-worn. But putting together $100 is tough in the first place. So in short, no money and no time. That's usually what gets me about a lot of folks in the US badmouthing the poor as lazy - most people in that situation are usually much harder workers than, say, people who have inherited wealth and make most of their money on dividends.
 
So much to do so little money. Hence my latest endeavor with the photography. There are too many things that I want to do that cost money, and my weekly paycheck does not cover it all. The cost of my photography hobby alone can be expensive, especially here in Japan where it costs a significant amount to travel anyway. In the US I would drive on highways that are free to use, here in Japan a 2hr drive down the Tomei to Fuji is a ¥5000 trip one way during peak driving times...
 
. That's usually what gets me about a lot of folks in the US badmouthing the poor as lazy - most people in that situation are usually much harder workers than, say, people who have inherited wealth and make most of their money on dividends.

A large percentage of the 'poor' also seem to find money for, alcohol, cigarettes and gambling even if they don't have enough cash for the rent.

They also complain they can't afford to cook proper meals but buy more expensive junk food instead.

And they would rather use a credit card and pay sky high interest charges instead of trying to save a bit of cash each month before funding a purchase.

The playing the victim mentality just provides excuses for people. And doesn't help anyone in the long run. Sadly, the genuine poor are tarred with the same brush as the feckless.
 
Not to get off on a small tangent, but I think there's two big reasons why people don't just try. First, there's a lot of people that aren't workaholics and aren't independent enough to go out on their own. People will generally accept their current place in life even if it's uncomfortable or they aren't happy, because there's no guarantee of the brass ring immediately in front of them. They either want to enjoy their time off, or would rather have some sort of job security than have some sort of shot at greater success, or both. It's usually some event that forces them into a position to change their careers where this happens. Either they reach a breaking point, or lose their job, etc.

Secondly, (for the people worrying about paying rent or buying a stick of RAM) poverty isn't a great place to be. People in poverty generally have to travel further to work, have to stand in more lines, and aren't able to martial their resources in a way that provides a maximum benefit. One great example of this is that someone many not be able to 'afford' high quality shoes at US$100, so they buy crappy shoes at $55 that wear out so fast that they have to buy another pair before the quality shoes would be half-worn. But putting together $100 is tough in the first place. So in short, no money and no time. That's usually what gets me about a lot of folks in the US badmouthing the poor as lazy - most people in that situation are usually much harder workers than, say, people who have inherited wealth and make most of their money on dividends.

Fear of taking a risk is another big factor in what holds people back from improving their situation in life.

My father is very adverse to change and always sees risk as bigger than the reward. He passed on going into business with a friend who eventually made millions after ten years of hard work.

It would have changed the lives of our entire family.

Not that my father is lazy, but he chose to remain a factor worker because he saw it as providing stability and safety for our family. That was by no means a dishonorable decision on his part, and it is even debatable if it was the wrong decision.

Some people just aren't wired to take control of their lives.
 
A large percentage of the 'poor' also seem to find money for, alcohol, cigarettes and gambling even if they don't have enough cash for the rent.

What's a 'large percentage'? What's your source for this? Is it bad for people who don't have a lot of money to want relaxation, or is that only reserved for the wealthy? Or are you seriously complaining on a board where we talk about promiscuous sex and cheating on spouses that poor people aren't morally upright enough to gain your respect?

They also complain they can't afford to cook proper meals but buy more expensive junk food instead.

Most of this exists due to food deserts and the fact that they don't have money or time to cook proper meals. Buying a frozen pizza to feed your family is gonna be cheaper than more healthy options unless you are truly making things from scratch. McDonalds and convenience stores are everywhere. Grocery stores with relatively inexpensive produce sections aren't.

And they would rather use a credit card and pay sky high interest charges instead of trying to save a bit of cash each month before funding a purchase.

People working at Walmart are paid with debit cards instead of checks now. Debit cards that have fees associated with them. Check-cashing stores are everywhere. Banks aren't. Most truly poor can't qualify for checking accounts, much less credit cards.

The playing the victim mentality just provides excuses for people. And doesn't help anyone in the long run. Sadly, the genuine poor are tarred with the same brush as the feckless.

Most poor people don't try to play the victim. Sure there's quite a few people out there that make dumb mistakes, or refuse to face financial realities. But that doesn't excuse the real financial realities out there that there's a lot of structural problems that keep poor people poor.
 
People working at Walmart are paid with debit cards instead of checks now. Debit cards that have fees associated with them. Check-cashing stores are everywhere. Banks aren't. Most truly poor can't qualify for checking accounts, much less credit cards.

Not to mention that most banks now charge you a fee to cash a check on an account at their bank, so if you are poor and do get a check, and you go to cash it at BoA and you don't have a BoA account they charge you $7!

I use to cash my check at the bank it was drawn on and then I'd deposit it into my account because it was faster than depositing the check directly into my account. Sometimes I couldn't wait 2 days for it to clear for the money.
 
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I hate to agree with Charlie Sheen, but I see P4P that way too.
Bit of side tracked and if a lot of people want to give their opinion it might be better to make a new thread about it.

But i was discussing with someone recently if this particular quote is sexist and objectifies sex workers.

I have know this quote from before i started escorting and i've always thought it was an answer to "why would famous people like actors and rockstars who have tons of willing groupies lined up for them pay for sex?"

But it seems to be used differently by mongers, although some of them could indeed also get free sex without too much effort.

Now, the person i talked to said some guys mean it in a sense like they dont want to have anything to do with women, and they want them to leave as soon as they have finished sex.

I still think its more nutral, like guys just not being ready for a relationship and not wanting to give girls false hope, but still enjoying to spend some limited time with a woman.

Thoughts?
 
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Bit of side tracked and if a lot of people want to give their opinion it might be better to make a new thread about it.

But i was discussing with someone recently if this particular quote is sexist and objectifies sex workers.

I have know this quote from before i started escorting and i've always thought it was an answer to "why would famous people like actors and rockstars who have tons of willing groupies lined up for them pay for sex?"

But it seems to be used differently by mongers, although some of them could indeed also get free sex without too much effort.

Now, the person i talked to said some guys mean it in a sense like they dont want to have anything to do with women, and they want them to leave as soon as they have finished sex.

I still think its more nutral, like guys just not being ready for a relationship and not wanting to give girls false hope, but still enjoying to spend some limited time with a woman.

Thoughts?

I am not going to speak for all guys...because that would be a huge generalization, but will speak for myself and what I assume is a large percent of guys...

Ok, got the disclaimer out of the way..

"I still think its more nutral, like guys just not being ready for a relationship and not wanting to give girls false hope, but still enjoying to spend some limited time with a woman."

While I think that you describe some guys... I think what you describe may be more idealistic, romantic, and even a bit naive, when it comes to P4P and guys.

When I was younger and single...I tried to go out with as many girls and even tried to date multiple girls at one time... quite frankly, I wasn't being considerate of the girls, and wasn't thinking about a relationship... I still engaged in P4P, because, I liked sex and it was fun.. Plus, young guys with money, tend to blow it away as well..

Now that I am older and married...I still have that physical desire that P4P fulfills, and no risk/stress that could come if I were to engage with a non P4P partner.

Then there is a group where P4P, and Sugar Dating evolves to be not 100% physical, but also filling an emotional desire. I see and understand that...but thats not me.. yet.

Hope I didn't ramble too much.
 
I am not going to speak for all guys...because that would be a huge generalization, but will speak for myself and what I assume is a large percent of guys...

Ok, got the disclaimer out of the way..

"I still think its more nutral, like guys just not being ready for a relationship and not wanting to give girls false hope, but still enjoying to spend some limited time with a woman."

While I think that you describe some guys... I think what you describe may be more idealistic, romantic, and even a bit naive, when it comes to P4P and guys.

When I was younger and single...I tried to go out with as many girls and even tried to date multiple girls at one time... quite frankly, I wasn't being considerate of the girls, and wasn't thinking about a relationship... I still engaged in P4P, because, I liked sex and it was fun.. Plus, young guys with money, tend to blow it away as well..

Now that I am older and married...I still have that physical desire that P4P fulfills, and no risk/stress that could come if I were to engage with a non P4P partner.

Then there is a group where P4P, and Sugar Dating evolves to be not 100% physical, but also filling an emotional desire. I see and understand that...but thats not me.. yet.

Hope I didn't ramble too much.
To me, what you describe is still the same as the text you quoted of me.
Because of being in a marriage, a guy would not be able to commit to a woman. Doesn't mean he cant truely enjoy her company and everything about her in the limited time spend, then want to go home and not have her blowing up his phone asking when he's ready to get serious.

Things may be different for me because of my price and excellent GFE package, or i may just be naive, but i haven't felt objectified even once.

Sure, guys will leave and not mail again, that doesn't mean we didn't have a truely great time together while it lasted.

There is always a lot of smiles, happy greetings and kind smalltalk going on, even in the few cases the main event would be a bit rough and selfish, and i've never had someone being hurtful on purpose or not checking on me if i'm ok.

Of course, in some cases its just me providing a service, but i've never felt like a blow up doll or something.
If i go to a massage place i dont really talk to my therapist either but i'll smile at them and thank them so i dont think i'm treating them like a massage chair.

There are few guys who accept a girl being maguro or something, so even if it is pure lust, its still a thing you have to do together and thats great while it lasts.
 
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"why would famous people like actors and rockstars who have tons of willing groupies lined up for them pay for sex?"
Groupies/serious fans are some of the most crazy women out there. They generally don't want to just have sex, they want to own the object of their affections and expect that the famous person will actually want their affection not just sex. I've worked with lots of musicians and many times I've heard older ones advise younger ones not to have anything to do with groupies or fans for exactly this reason.

In big cities in the US and UK (and I assume elsewhere) there are agencies which specialize in dealing with famous people. The women who work there know not to treat the customers as if they were fans in any way.

I wouldn't know how to get ahold of these agencies, I didnt ever get to use their services but its something I've heard of from people I've worked with.
 
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I still think its more nutral, like guys just not being ready for a relationship and not wanting to give girls false hope, but still enjoying to spend some limited time with a woman.

Thoughts?

This is closer to how I feel currently.

I don't want the responsibility of a relationship, nor do I want to pretend that I'm open to the idea of a relationship.

I can get dates with women very easily, but I generally have to conceal the fact that I'm not interested in being a steady boyfriend.

Marriage? No way in hell!

I can't be upfront about that with most women, I have to pretend that it is a possibility.

In P4P there is none of that. I'm not put in a situation where I have to lie by omission, or mislead anyone.

So in essence, I'm paying for them to go away.
 
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I'm not sure what your experience in relationships, but even in a near perfect relationship it's not pure fun 100% of the time. She will nag at you for no apparent reason, just be in a bad mood, want you to listen to her troubles, deal with jealousy or simply demand your attention, when you would rather want to go out with friends, watch your favorite team etc.
Going to an escort in that sense is like cherry picking only the good times, when you want it and not take the mutual responsibilities of a relationship.
So in a sense I guess it's plausible to say that you get payed to leave again too.;)

Doesn't mean the time together has to be reduced to sex only.
 
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I'm not sure what your experience in relationships, but even in a near perfect relationship it's not pure fun 100% of the time. She will nag at you for no apparent reason, just be in a bad mood, want you to listen to her troubles, deal with jealousy or simply demand your attention, when you would rather want to go out with friends, watch your favorite team etc.
Going to an escort in that sense is like cherry picking only the good times, when you want it and not take the mutual responsibilities of a relationship.
So in a sense I guess it's plausible to say that you get payed to leave again too.;)

Doesn't mean the time together has to be reduced to sex only.
Thats exactly what i meant by it not being a negative term.
I know i'm paid to leave, but that doesn't mean we don't really connect in our limited time together.
 
He said that he didn't pay girls for sex...he paid for them to go away afterwards..
Thinking a little deeper into the quote, I'd say it's not because they want the girl to "fuck off" after a session, but P4P has a clear line drawn where the relationship should be. For guys in serious relationships who want to avoid the drama of developing other relationships, but still want to enjoy the company with other women, it's way more ideal than dealing with a mistress who starts trying to convince you to break up with your wife or girlfriend.