We guys want to meet first and then discuss.
You're doing it the other way around as we don't want to waste time with girls who will stupidely try to decipher us from behind a computer screen. Humour and interesting conversations (in short, seduction) are to be done face to face since they require a high amount of visual cues to be done properly. Girls who are looking for the guy who will make them laugh with his writings are simply disconnected with reality.
Anyway, in my case, what makes dating sites bothersome are the following profiles in women :
- Women who feel that they have to get married ASAP
- Women who actually just need a genitor for they cute baby
- Women who just want to practice their English, French or whatever
- Women who contact you even when they live hundreds of kilometers away (wtf?)
- Insecure women (no photos, blurred photos)
- Women who just need a guy in order to live abroad (because they are hopeless/useless in they own country)
- Women who are looking for a partner but after a few questions you understand that she is so busy with her job that she won't have time for a real relationship.
Conclusion : there are way too many stupid women out there
Mostly agree, except the last line, as I think men and women are equally intelligent. Just that men and women employ different strategies.
With women I've met online and including that we had sex and a relationship afterwards, the chain of events usually went like:
1. Sent a wink or e-mail to her, and she replies.
Can be she replies the same day, but sometimes several days later.
My e-mail tends to be a bit verbose, as I introduce myself.
2. OR, she will initiate a wink or 90% of the time send a very short e-mail to me.
Happens WAY more often that I e-mail a lady and she responds than she initiates with me first.
It's also amazing how I've seen women complain about guys sending short, unimaginative, or weird e-mails, but WOMEN do it as well. Chicks will send e-mails to me like "Hi.", "Hey.", "Nice to meet you." That's IT! This is the latest in one of my inboxes now-" Hello! How r u doing?"
Don't get me wrong, I like the attention and do NOT hold this against the women, and do reply. I'm just making the point, that many women that WILL meet, are quick to the point and not excessively chatty or verbose.
3. We exchange e-mail, LINE, or phone numbers.
This is a GOOD indicator that she is LESS likely to be a scammer. Fakers and attention-whores tend to want to chat away ON the website, INSTEAD of move the conversation elsewhere.
Phone numbers being of highest value, then LINE. Phone e-mail addresses tend NOT to be fakers, but plain Internet e-mail is a bit suspicious.
Scammers tend to try to lead you to OTHER websites OR their e-mail address and messages look ODD. They will AVOID using LINE (and overseas scammers may not even know what that is) and avoid using their mobile phone/e-mail.
Note- I don't give my phone number out, it's usually the woman that sends me their's. Often, just in case, so that we can find each other at the meeting location and not get lost.
4. From e-mail, SMS, or LINE we may exchange 3 to 4 back and forth messages.
Often, this is more introduction and we state a bit about who we are. Type of job, time living in the city, what area of the city we live, why joined website, and are interest in MEETING.
5. Exchanges more than the above are usually about some current event or something in the news that either of us mention.
Like a party, club event, holiday, some celebrity doing something crazy. Usually, brief comments on that.
6. We then synchronize our schedules on possible days we can meet. After that, then location and time.
Women that are NOT wasting your time, are those UP for meeting WITHIN 1 week or so of you contacting them. I give 2 weeks as my personal limit.
Acceptable exceptions are often if she is on vacation or travel, thus usually you meet the NEXT week. But those can be FLAKY women and a guy should be suspicious.
In those cases, I get their LINE or e-mail coontact, put the conversation on FREEZE shortly afterwards, until it's closer to her return date. Like 2 days before she returns.
7. Usually we meet within 1 week or FASTER, of initiating contact.
The focus is on meeting. A lot of women DO understand that going in circles in e-mail will go NOWHERE.
Women, where the e-mail exchanges went SMOOTHLY, tend to show up and the date goes well.
If a woman is displaying odd behavior, like suspicion or excessive questioning, it's often indicative that she has issues. These women tend to FLAKE on meeting at higher percentages OR if they do meet, the dates tend to be DISASTERS. The fear, paranoia, insecurity, anti-sexual thinking, and suspicion tends to carry from e-mail exchanges and INTO the DATE too.
8. Very rarely has long and excessive e-mail exchanges worked out.
You can spend days and weeks going back and forth with a woman and her NOT meet you or FLAKE out of meeting.
If I get into an excessive back and forth with a woman, we do a call either by phone or LINE. We then have a verbal chat (NOT video because TRICK of some CAM girls).
1 phone call/LINE call should kill all excessive questions or paranoia. But if I still see this, I break contact.
9. It's better for a guy to NOT get overly carried away with 1 woman, but be DATE STACKING with SEVERAL women.
This is protection against flakes, fakers, and attention-whores that will waste your time or NOT show up for the date.
10. We get to know each other by TALKING in person. No BS games.
11. The women that I met online and we had long relationships, we had sex between the 1st to 3rd date, IF we make a connection.
75% on the 1st date. 20% on 2nd. And 5% on the 3rd.
This is the opposite of what many people say or conventional wisdom on how things are "suppose" to go. Many women are often VERY sneaky about what they REALLY do, or say what they THINK other people want to hear.
Success rate for GUYS, dates leading to sex, would be 20% to 50% and if they have any clue about what they are doing. NO guy is ever 100% on dates (for sex, unless she is a prostitute), it doesn't work that way for men.
Note- Women can be 75% to 100% on dates they go on, IF they want to be. But women will RARELY ever admit to they are doing sexually, because of the different situation between the sexes.
My opinion is that if you have chemistry and a connection, it will quickly become apparent, AFTER meeting each other face to face.