Dating outside Tokyo

[BigPrickRick]

Hello,

I feel a bit pathetic posting this but I’m getting quite lonely. I live in a medium sized city in Japan and I can’t get a date for the life of me. I’m a young, averageish looking white dude with poor Japanese skills. I’m studying to get better but that doesn’t do much for the time being. I’ve had absolutely 0 success on tinder (In the states it wasn’t great but it worked sometimes), meetup isn’t a thing because of the corona virus, and I’m kind of reluctant to go to random bars because A. I can’t speak Japanese really and B. The corona virus.
I just feel stuck. Any ideas?

 

[Kalu31]

Same here bro.

Even though I live in Tokyo but I still feel bore and stuck somewhere. I feel nothing is happening in life

 

[maikeru]

Hello,
First check the message linked below

https://tokyoadultguide.com/threads/nice-to-meet-you-everyone.25427/#post-273340

I don't know where you are but you could start with meeting people.
You could post a friends wanted ad in the local international center or similar.
There's also Tokyo metropolis, easier since you post a classified online.

My experience starts that first you make friends, then other (hopefully good ) things follow.
Best advice is that you should get better at Japanese, spoken, written and reading. Also understand how to behave.
Watching tv helps a lot.

Cheers

 

[BigPrickRick]

Same here bro.

Even though I live in Tokyo but I still feel bore and stuck somewhere. I feel nothing is happening in life

Yeah it’s difficult because of the culture and the virus. Life here isn’t bad all things considering, just kinda lonely sometimes

Hello,
First check the message linked below

https://tokyoadultguide.com/threads/nice-to-meet-you-everyone.25427/#post-273340

I don't know where you are but you could start with meeting people.
You could post a friends wanted ad in the local international center or similar.
There's also Tokyo metropolis, easier since you post a classified online.

My experience starts that first you make friends, then other (hopefully good ) things follow.
Best advice is that you should get better at Japanese, spoken, written and reading. Also understand how to behave.
Watching tv helps a lot.

Cheers

thanks for the advice, I hadn’t thought of the international center. Next weekend I’ll drop by there and see if I can sign up for any classes or activities.

I’m trying to get better at Japanese Haha but it’s slow going. I’m definitely better than I was when I first got here but I feel like I’m still a year or two off from being conversational

 

[Keihan]

Hello,

I feel a bit pathetic posting this but I’m getting quite lonely. I live in a medium sized city in Japan and I can’t get a date for the life of me. I’m a young, averageish looking white dude with poor Japanese skills. I’m studying to get better but that doesn’t do much for the time being. I’ve had absolutely 0 success on tinder (In the states it wasn’t great but it worked sometimes), meetup isn’t a thing because of the corona virus, and I’m kind of reluctant to go to random bars because A. I can’t speak Japanese really and B. The corona virus.
I just feel stuck. Any ideas?

Well, if it's really that big, you could post pics of it on your Tinder account, rather than your a portrait, and see if it lands anything.

Otherwise, welcome to the club...that is, the club of of every other single male on earth right now. It's called a "pandemic" for a reason. Any girl dumb and desperate enough to be prowling bars looking for cock during a global outbreak is mentally-dysfunctional or just plain fucking crazy and in either case best avoided like the same plague you're supposed to be at home and avoiding now.

Suck it up and take advantage of the free Pornhub Premium. Better yet, spend all this free time doing something productive, like LEARNING JAPANESE. In six or seven months, when the new vaccines have had a few months to take effect in the civilized world and virus numbers come down, and young people cautiously begin re-entering the social/dating scene, you'll have a chance to go wave that bad boy around in an izakaya and see if any skanks come running.

And just for the record, when things are back to normal, if you're young and white and in Japan and have a pulse and still can't get any pussy, you should seriously consider either moving to an impoverished country where desperate mothers will sell you their teenage daughters for a few slices of bread, or consider jumping in front of a train.

 

[Dunno]

sound like someone moved to japan with the belief they will being swimming in Japanese girls but now sees the reality

 

[MikeH]

sound like someone moved to japan with the belief they will being swimming in Japanese girls but now sees the reality

Obviously the reality for most of the guys in TAG is we have so much pussy thrown to us it's impossible to even swim and we are drowning.

 

[Lonj]

You guys telling me the Charisma Man comic isn't true?

 

[maikeru]

With all the discussions that have been going on it's more "facade man"

 

[Sudsy]

You guys telling me the Charisma Man comic isn't true?

Back in the late 80s and early 90s, the premise of that comic was surprisingly accurate.

Of course, the demographics were different back then. There were less than 50,000 Caucasians resident nationwide in 1990, and very few tourists from outside Asia.

Now there's nearly a quarter million resident roundeyes, and nearly 40 million tourists visited last year... white guys aren't exotic anymore.

 

[Keihan]

Back in the late 80s and early 90s, the premise of that comic was surprisingly accurate.

Of course, the demographics were different back then. There were less than 50,000 Caucasians resident nationwide in 1990, and very few tourists from outside Asia.

Now there's nearly a quarter million resident roundeyes, and nearly 40 million tourists visited last year... white guys aren't exotic anymore.

When I arrived in Japan in the early 2000s, that Charisma Man comic and phenomenon might've been in its final death throes up in Tokyo but it was still going strong among the idiot residents of Osaka. I actually had eikaiwa co-workers who had transferred from Tokyo and Yokohama down to Osaka solely because it was rumored that the bimbos in Osaka would still fuck you just for being white. I don't know what things were like up in Tokyo during those years but down in Kansai, ECC, GEOC and NOVA were like Virgins Anonymous, or the fucking Underground Railroad for the western world's losers.

And there are probably still a few places where you could get away with that shit. Maybe some Japan Sea-side town? I remember I once got propositioned by some chubby waitress at a chain izakaya in Yonago, Tottori, who just wanted the fuck out of Tottori and my U.S. passport and Yamato-sized dick must've seemed like the perfect ticket. Too bad I was only staying the night and was already so drunk I was slurring. She had a pretty face, and chubby chicks always give good blowjobs and know the best places to eat.

 

[Korra2314]

Back in the late 80s and early 90s, the premise of that comic was surprisingly accurate.

The comic is still relevant today. In the sense that you still have weeaboos flying to Japan thinking it's animeland and woman will jump on them because of their skin color.

 

[Sudsy]

The comic is still relevant today. In the sense that you still have weeaboos flying to Japan thinking it's animeland and woman will jump on them because of their skin color.

Yeah, the difference was that 30 years ago, they'd have been right... not so much since the early 2000s.

 

[Simonka]

You guys telling me the Charisma Man comic isn't true?

And once again, a minute of silence for all neglected ethnicities stuck somewhere in between East Asians and the blonde haired blue eyed Anglo Saxons.

 

[DireWolf98]

Better yet, spend all this free time doing something productive, like LEARNING JAPANESE.

Yes, learn Japanese. That will help immensely.

Now there's nearly a quarter million resident roundeyes, and nearly 40 million tourists visited last year... white guys aren't exotic anymore.

@Sudsy makes a great point. However, given that you are in-country, you will want to make the most of your situation. Depending upon your tastes, you'll want to refine your approach. I'm a tall former athlete and a nerd, so I used the clean-cut approach. Other guys use their charisma. Despite the fact that gaijin are no longer exotic, I'm there are still numerous J-Girls who can be potential girlfriends. Learn Japanese to open those doors.

 

[newbie]

Despite the fact that gaijin are no longer exotic, I'm there are still numerous J-Girls who can be potential girlfriends. Learn Japanese to open those doors.

This. They aren't throwing themselves at me, but dating in Japan just works for me, dating locals in my home country doesn't, lol. It's the same when networking or making friends too though, so it could be due to my personality type working better in Japan rather than exoticism, I don't know. Learning Japanese helped a ton.

 

[DireWolf98]

This. They aren't throwing themselves at me, but dating in Japan just works for me, dating locals in my home country doesn't, lol. It's the same when networking or making friends too though, so it could be due to my personality type working better in Japan rather than exoticism, I don't know. Learning Japanese helped a ton.

Sometimes, things just click and there isn't a deep explanation. As a former athlete I know that sometimes one finds oneself "in the zone," where everything clicks and it's difficult to explain. It just happens.

 

[DireWolf98]

And once again, a minute of silence for all neglected ethnicities stuck somewhere in between East Asians and the blonde haired blue eyed Anglo Saxons.

I remember in grad school, in a smallish town in the US, I met a girl who was "one of my types" at that time. She was a 5'10" athletic-looking blonde from Sweden. She gave me her number and, despite calling her three times, she never called me back.

A few months later I saw her in a club, accompanied by a gentleman from South Asia (probably India). I thought to myself, "That makes sense." After all, to her, I was just another tall white guy, of which there is no shortage in Scandinavia.

 

[Simonka]

She was a 5'10" athletic-looking blonde from Sweden.

Imagine being from a country that performs very well in many measures of well being in the Better Life Index, AND winning the genetic lottery on top of that.

 

[Frenchy]

And once again, a minute of silence for all neglected ethnicities stuck somewhere in between East Asians and the blonde haired blue eyed Anglo Saxons.

I second that

 

[Frenchy]

Imagine being from a country that performs very well in many measures of well being in the Better Life Index, AND winning the genetic lottery on top of that.

Oh come on , it’s just your viking fetish talking here.

Im not sure I’d want to be that tall, that blonde and that blue-eyed and that succesful with Asians and from such a high well-being country and ...

Ok , ok, you have a point

 

[DireWolf98]

Imagine being from a country that performs very well in many measures of well being in the Better Life Index, AND winning the genetic lottery on top of that.

Yes, but she was also fit - probably an avid runner, skier and/or cyclist. The moment I met her I was fantasizing about other types of exercise in which we could engage together.

On a different level, it reminds me of Mongolian girls that I have met - they look incredibly fit, as if they could jump on a horse and invade Europe at a moment's notice.

 

[Keihan]

I remember in grad school, in a smallish town in the US, I met a girl who was "one of my types" at that time. She was a 5'10" athletic-looking blonde from Sweden. She gave me her number and, despite calling her three times, she never called me back.

A few months later I saw her in a club, accompanied by a gentleman from South Asia (probably India). I thought to myself, "That makes sense." After all, to her, I was just another tall white guy, of which there is no shortage in Scandinavia.

You know, that can work both ways. For a couple of years after high school, I lived in a tiny midwest town, buttfuck rural agricultural region. When I first got there and started meeting the neighbors, I discovered that in the house next door were four girls, two of whom were Japanese-American besties who grew up in that county and from what they told me, came from basically the only two Japanese/Asian families in the area. And so I--likely being the only Japanese-American guy they'd ever met outside of their immediate families--was some sort of mind-boggling oddity to them. I ended up hanging out at their place quite often, regaling them with tales and accounts of some of the cities where I'd lived or had relatives, like across SoCal and the Seattle area and especially Honolulu, where Asians/Japanese were the majority of the population. It was almost like Marky Mark in Planet of the Apes and the human prisoners: "You mean there are places with MANY of us? And we're IN CHARGE???"

And of course, that naturally progressed to us getting drunk and high together and then going at it in the living room. It was a strange sort of threesome situation. The first girl (prettier) was a total freak and we'd just fuck on the floor, while her bestie (pretty sure she was a lesbian) would just get naked and watch and touch (usually her friend, not me). I was 19 and certainly wasn't going to complain about getting pussy. It was a little odd since the first girl really looked like my cousin, but I suppose that added to the thrill. I think the other two roommates--enormous, obese gingers--kinda knew what was going on in the living room and were polite enough to stay in their bedrooms. Thank goodness for that. And that lasted for about a year until school/work took me back to the west coast.

That's probably the only time in life I got laid for looking like the other person, but it can happen!

 

[Dunno]

And once again, a minute of silence for all neglected ethnicities stuck somewhere in between East Asians and the blonde haired blue eyed Anglo Saxons.

LOL Since when are asians seen as the pinnacle of beauty? there's hardly any in hollywood and celebs aren't marrying one.

correction: moment of silence of everyone who is not white is probably the more accurate statement.

 

[Sudsy]

LOL Since when are asians seen as the pinnacle of beauty? there's hardly any in hollywood and celebs aren't marrying one.

correction: moment of silence of everyone who is not white is probably the more accurate statement.