Dealing with dry spells?

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I'd guess that most of us, even when we get it on the regular, experience stretches where we don't get any action. Personally, it's absolutely miserable for me because it goes on for literal years at a time. Sometimes porn helps; more often it doesn't do a damn thing. All the mess going on here in the states recently just makes it even worse.

But how do y'all cope? I imagine it might not be a huge deal to some, but it probably still sucks. I'm curious just because I've been more keenly aware of it lately and have a shitty job that gives me a lot of time to get bored and brood lol
 
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I'd guess that most of us, even when we get it on the regular, experience stretches where we don't get any action. Personally, it's absolutely miserable for me because it goes on for literal years at a time. Sometimes porn helps; more often it doesn't do a damn thing. All the mess going on here in the states recently just makes it even worse.

But how do y'all cope? I imagine it might not be a huge deal to some, but it probably still sucks. I'm curious just because I've been more keenly aware of it lately and have a shitty job that gives me a lot of time to get bored and brood lol

Porn. Lots and lots of porn.;)

And cupcakes. :D
 
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There can definitely be a death spiral being stuck in a job where you don't feel appreciated while you are going sexless in your life away from work. Until you can get one of those two problems fixed you need to get more exercise in your life. That will both help reduce stress while helping you be more positive overall.
 
It's definitely hard to go on a dry spell in Tokyo when you are at most 20 minutes train ride away from getting p4p action.

Agreed. I can understand a “bored spell”, wrote about it recently. But in this city blessed by the gods of debauchery , a dry spell seems impossible, even with limited cash.
 
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Personally, it's absolutely miserable for me because it goes on for literal years at a time.

You're on a forum mostly dedicated to P4P. How do you think most of us deal with it?

3K will get you a blowjob at Jan Jan in Sugamo. 80k or so will get your world rocked in Yoshiwara. And there are thousands of options in between.
 
You're on a forum mostly dedicated to P4P. How do you think most of us deal with it?

I probably should have clarified that I meant periods when you can't even P4P due to whatever circumstances. P4P's my only outlet, and I'm stuck in the states with no feasible way out, so that's the perspective I'm looking from.

Wouldn't even be discussing it here if there was any better venue.
 
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Seconding the gym/exercise - burns off energy, gives you more energy/better self image in the long run and gives you a sense of accomplishment.

Thats actually one of the reasons I sometimes wish I were in a more chill job sometimes. Its a real challenge to make time to take care of yourself when things get chaotic.
 
I'd guess that most of us, even when we get it on the regular, experience stretches where we don't get any action. Personally, it's absolutely miserable for me because it goes on for literal years at a time. Sometimes porn helps; more often it doesn't do a damn thing. All the mess going on here in the states recently just makes it even worse.

But how do y'all cope? I imagine it might not be a huge deal to some, but it probably still sucks. I'm curious just because I've been more keenly aware of it lately and have a shitty job that gives me a lot of time to get bored and brood lol
This stopped happening to me since 16-17 years ago when I realized that I can have still great times with lower standards.
 
Thats actually one of the reasons I sometimes wish I were in a more chill job sometimes. Its a real challenge to make time to take care of yourself when things get chaotic.

I used to have an arrangement where I started an hour early, and got a two hour break midday, which I used to hit the gym. Boss loved it, my productivity after gym time went through the roof.
 
I used to have an arrangement where I started an hour early, and got a two hour break midday, which I used to hit the gym. Boss loved it, my productivity after gym time went through the roof.

That’s an awesome idea!
I’m self employed but often fall into the trap of not taking time out for things like the gym until I’ve got the bare minimum of work for the day taken care of. Problem is, I often don’t get to that point before I find myself collapsed on the sofa in my office space. I should give that a try!
 
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That’s an awesome idea!
I’m self employed but often fall into the trap of not taking time out for things like the gym until I’ve got the bare minimum of work for the day taken care of. Problem is, I often don’t get to that point before I find myself collapsed on the sofa in my office space. I should give that a try!

Oh man, it's the best... I really miss having that option. It's also great when you have thorny work issues, you can work them out in your head on the treadmill.
 
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porn works... though i dont even do that anymore... 12 years dry spell and counting...
meditation also helps... doing that for a while now...
 
comfort food, masturbation, hobbies, outdoors activities.
good friends and family takes care of the loneliness.

somehow i manage to survive months and years going without....
Yes, this is basically how i got through my teenage years of really wanted to get it on with preferably a bit older (older than teenage) Asian dudes and living with the parents in some continental inaka village. It sucked.
Online was an outlet. I’ve never watched much porn myself but having erotic chats and masturbating at the same time or reading hot sex stories gave some relief.
Reading books about people with more interesting lives, like sexworkers, and imagining myself in their world was good as well.
Against loneliness, family and friends.
For non sexual distraction, study (a sex mood killer anyway) and tv got me through.

There is just nothing that really fills the emptiness.
 
As for p4p, i dont know what your budget it but try to arrange something small. Get a regular girl, a kind of friends with benefits with also financial benefits for her arrangement.
Sugaring if you will.
This is not that expensive everywhere (someone mentioned just 200 per date outside of the hot and happening cities) and it really helps someone out. Go smart about it though, seeking arrangement is not 100% safe, better to discuss sex and finances in person than online and better to stick to a low number of girls.
 
does he even want to pay for sex? if its hard to cope for him, he probably would pay, if he wanted to...
i for example wouldnt pay and im sure there are a lot of people who wouldnt, for various reasons...
 
does he even want to pay for sex? if its hard to cope for him, he probably would pay, if he wanted to...
i for example wouldnt pay and im sure there are a lot of people who wouldnt, for various reasons...
Nah, he has mentioned in other threads that he is in the US and its too difficult and risky for him to do p4p now thanks to the new laws, but that he enjoyed it in Japan.
 
Too much porn and masturbation, but after years of self-service you forget what it's like to be with a woman. This fucks with my mind even if I try p4p.
 
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