Definition

[lennylenny]

What exactly is sugar dating? It's a new concept to me and i only knew about it last year, from a mainstream news article on the web. Can you people save me the effort of searching for the info around?

From what i get, is it like a paid relationship, that might or not include sex?

 

[User#6517]

Compensated dating, yes.

SB's usually "take care" of their SD's by satisfying their emotional/sexual needs, and the SD's "take care" of their SB's in return by financially supporting them.

Most sugar daddies give the girl money every time they meet, or give a monthly allowance. In more serious SD/SB relationships, the SD pays for her tuition, rent, etc. on top of the monthly allowance.

Some girls want a sugar relationship where no sex is involved, while others don't mind sex.

 

[lennylenny]

Does it involve stuff that "uncompensated" dating does, like being loyal, prioritizing the SO (both of them, mutually), spending holydays together, meeting the family (maybe thats not really a good part of it haha) and all that stuff or is it more like a therapy, of some sort?

 

[User#6517]

Does it involve stuff that "uncompensated" dating does, like being loyal, prioritizing the SO (both of them, mutually), spending holydays together, meeting the family (maybe thats not really a good part of it haha) and all that stuff or is it more like a therapy, of some sort?

Sometimes, yes. It can happen.

Some SDs and SBs are only looking for one partner and a real connection. Maybe even open to the idea of marriage. The financial support is just an extra benefit to them.

I know one SB in America who got married to her SD, and she says that they're both in L with each other. They put each other first, travel together, spend holidays together, etc.

 

[Wwanderer]

I agree with all that @MissInsomnia says about it above.

Defining sugar dating is complex because such a huge variety of arrangements/relationships are referred to as sugar dating, so let me add a bit to what has already been said.

There is a quite a lot of discussion of what might be called classic or even conventional sugar arrangements at the SA site:

https://www.seekingarrangement.com

There is also one of my takes on it in this VERY brief thread:

http://www.tokyoadultguide.com/threads/differences-between-sugar-dating-and-traditional-p4p.10546/

And @Ches made a brilliant, imo, post on the topic here:

http://www.tokyoadultguide.com/thre...-a-potential-sugar-bb.10267/page-2#post-52191

The reason, imo, that sugar dating is so incredibly varied in its nature/character and one of its greatest charms is that the term is so new and vague that it lets each couple involved invent an arrangement/relationship that suits them both (or to end it if they can't come up with anything mutually satisfactory). It is something like a relationship without pre-ordained rules but just some vague notion that money and, usually, intimacy will be involved. At one end of the spectrum in can be almost indistinguishable from conventional indie escort-style p4p, and at the other end it can be almost indistinguishable from conventional romantic dating. (Indeed, relationships that are initiated in the sugar bowl turn into conventional romantic relationships more often than one might expect.) However, the more interesting (imo) terrain is between the two extremes that are relatively familiar; lots of sugar relationships feel almost unique, or at least extremely unfamiliar/unconventional, in a variety of ways, including of course the roles of money and sex in the couples' connections.

The better you are at thinking (and playing!) out-of-the-box and the more comfortable you are in poorly defined and unpredictable social situations, the more you will relish life in the sugar bowl, imo. It is sort of the relationship version of one of those games kids sometimes make up as they play it, inventing new rules as needed or inspired by new situations that arise in the game. It is a ton of fun, imo.

-Ww

 

[lennylenny]

I agree with all that @MissInsomnia says about it above.

Defining sugar dating is complex because such a huge variety of arrangements/relationships are referred to as sugar dating, so let me add a bit to what has already been said.

There is a quite a lot of discussion of what might be called classic or even conventional sugar arrangements at the SA site:

https://www.seekingarrangement.com

There is also one of my takes on it in this VERY brief thread:

http://www.tokyoadultguide.com/threads/differences-between-sugar-dating-and-traditional-p4p.10546/

And @Ches made a brilliant, imo, post on the topic here:

http://www.tokyoadultguide.com/thre...-a-potential-sugar-bb.10267/page-2#post-52191

The reason, imo, that sugar dating is so incredibly varied in its nature/character and one of its greatest charms is that the term is so new and vague that it lets each couple involved invent an arrangement/relationship that suits them both (or to end it if they can't come up with anything mutually satisfactory). It is something like a relationship without pre-ordained rules but just some vague notion that money and, usually, intimacy will be involved. At one end of the spectrum in can be almost indistinguishable from conventional indie escort-style p4p, and at the other end it can be almost indistinguishable from conventional romantic dating. (Indeed, relationships that are initiated in the sugar bowl turn into conventional romantic relationships more often than one might expect.) However, the more interesting (imo) terrain is between the two extremes that are relatively familiar; lots of sugar relationships feel almost unique, or at least extremely unfamiliar/unconventional, in a variety of ways, including of course the roles of money and sex in the couples' connections.

The better you are at thinking (and playing!) out-of-the-box and the more comfortable you are in poorly defined and unpredictable social situations, the more you will relish life in the sugar bowl, imo. It is sort of the relationship version of one of those games kids sometimes make up as they play it, inventing new rules as needed or inspired by new situations that arise in the game. It is a ton of fun, imo.

-Ww

Thanks a lot for this info ! You see, i also think that sugar dating and regular dating dont differ too much, specially in those when one of the parts support the other. As in a marriage where the husband supports the wife, fully. But, maybe what keeps the emotional spark alive in the SD/SB deals is exactly the unpredictability and the certain level of an unattachement feeling that goes with it, maybe. I couldn't say, i've never been in a relationship like that, neither have the will to be right now, but its interesting. I've been seeing some other variations of relationships nowadays, like polyamorous relationships, and i find it interesting that people around the world are reinventing the 3 basic ways of sexual relationships, as in marriage (regular dates and so), p4p and betrayal.