Might be a good topic.
Yes, I do. It's a matter of attitudes, mostly. If you believe the other person is out of your league, you will be extremely submissive and clingy and will alter your behavior to the suit what you think the other person wants. This is not healthy, and will not result in a successful relationship. Meanwhile, if the other person says/feels that you are unlike other people they have dated, then you are likely an aberration and will not last. Even if you are good for them (i.e., treat them better, etc.) that is not what they want, for reasons of their own, and you will not likely change them (that's co-dependency, Rescuer Syndrome, etc.).
The above assumes you even get a shot at them. I think there are clear examples of people who are out of other people's league for reasons to do with attractiveness, age, social status, wealth, etc. Lady Gaga is out of my league. Justin Bieber is out of 3.5 billion girls' league (however we may feel about him). You are out of my league, because you are young and beautiful and desired by an endless stream of men who have attributes you would prefer to mine, which is why I would have to pay to spend time with you.
Which I plan to do some day.
But it only supports my point.
So sayeth Uncle NED anyway.
depends on the context I guess, it can indeed be about leagues classified in a horizontal scale but I usually hear that expression for vertical classification.OK, you need to help a non-native savage out a bit. Doesn't the expression out of my league also carry the meaning you would actually like to be in that league?
Because I am pretty sure there are tens of girls out there that would turn lesbian the moment when I become the only guy left in the world. But as most of these girls are redheads or called Tiffany I couldn't care less. Would they still be called to be out of my league?
JJ rules!
He does a bit in his gun control rant where he says, "What's really pissing some of you off... is that I'm foreign. And there's this tape loop running in your head: 'DON'T LIKE IT, GO HOME! DON'T LIKE IT, GO HOME!'"I was looking at this and the first 2:40 I was like how in the hell this Yankee gets away with this? And exactly at that point I realised he is an Aussie. Yeah, I think the secret to happiness is to be an Aussie; you just get away with anything.
I've seen that one tooHe does a bit in his gun control rant where he says, "What's really pissing some of you off... is that I'm foreign. And there's this tape loop running in your head: 'DON'T LIKE IT, GO HOME! DON'T LIKE IT, GO HOME!'"
He does a bit in his gun control rant where he says, "What's really pissing some of you off... is that I'm foreign. And there's this tape loop running in your head: 'DON'T LIKE IT, GO HOME! DON'T LIKE IT, GO HOME!'"
OK, you need to help a non-native savage out a bit. Doesn't the expression out of my league also carry the meaning you would actually like to be in that league?
Because I am pretty sure there are tens of girls out there that would turn lesbian the moment when I become the only guy left in the world. But as most of these girls are redheads or called Tiffany I couldn't care less. Would they still be called to be out of my league?
I was looking at this and the first 2:40 I was like how in the hell this Yankee gets away with this? And exactly at that point I realised he is an Aussie. Yeah, I think the secret to happiness is to be an Aussie; you just get away with anything.
The mot juste in the case of the Nazi girl in Frenchy's example (a person whose Weltanschauung makes them unattractive to the point of being unacceptable) is "Beyond the Pale."However, I'm not sure how you would describe a hottie that you just aren't interested in.
"Not my cup of tea" is the only thing that comes to mind.
Might be a good topic.
you mean the tv show based on his stand up in "alcoholocaust" ?I binged watched his Netflix show. He brings his disabled nephew to a whorehouse so he can lose his virginity. And that's much milder than his stand ups!
@MissInsomnia - If I believed that a person could be out of my league, I would be terrified to even speak to you, much less...well, you know!
Imo, believing someone to be out of your league is yet another example of a self-fulfilling expectations, at least for the most part.
-Ww
So, you really do believe that someone can be out of your league. You just choose to ignore it?
In your example of you being able to be with @MissInsomnia, you cross that boundary because you have something she values. You probably make that transaction pleasant by being charming and polite but you probably know that you are an interloper of sorts.
In almost every case of a person successfully crossing from one social class to another I say there is a mechanism or exception that allows for it.
If I wanted to join the Hell's Angels Motorcycle Club I would have to conform to their standards, and if a Hell's Angel wanted to join my book club, they would have to conform to mine.
In the realm of dating and relationships those social boundaries absolutely exist. It is really a question of being able to move between them.
I say that is possible and I suspect you agree.
you mean the tv show based on his stand up in "alcoholocaust" ?
yeah "legit" is the name of the show, it's based on a part of "alcoholocaust", a stand up he made years ago :Didn't know about 'alchohocaust'... Was referring to Legit, http://www.imdb.com/title/tt2400391/
. It is difficult to articulate in part, I think, because "out of my league" has no clear consensus meaning.
-Ww
a good friend of mine was in love with a cute girl (like normal cute, not an atomic bomb) and he was convinced she was out of his league and he tried nothing. couple of years later she married a guy looking like a caricature of himSomething valuable that I learned working as a bartender in university - nobody is out of anybody's league unless they believe they are.
I know a guy who physically resembles a troll doll. He's married to a former runway model - and he met her simply by having the guts to walk up and hit on her. Turned out he was the only guy at the bar that night that wasn't intimidated by her looks, and once she got past HIS odd looks, she realised he made her laugh, and they started dating.
Now, if someone else believes that you're not in their league... they're probably not in yours.