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As a client, I've met many absolutely amazing ladies. I truly believed it was mutual that we thoroughly enjoyed ourselves during the set time that we spent together. Usual courtesy pleasantries of appreciation and thanks are exchanged after. Life goes back to normal for me, as how it should be.

However, there was this one time, I left a booking feeling very surreal, genuine real deep connection and for the first time ever I let emotional attachment got the better of me. That would be fine and typically the high goes off after a while.

The thing is admittedly, I don't repeat much, almost never. Even though almost every time mostly it was amazing, just feels like I need more variety. Sometimes the sex was mind blowing, and that was it for me. Yes even for GFE, I know that it's part of the job but you know most of the times it feels like hanging out with old time friends. Perhaps that was how I presented myself as a client.

For this particular time, I repeated more than a year later. I was surprised she remembered clear details of our last encounter. Rare given the number of clients full time workers meet let alone one who barely left an impression, that's what I think at least. But I repeated because I remembered how mind blowing the sex was and how open to kinks she was, really that was it. I knew clearly what I was going after. The end of my first meeting with her was fairly typical as well. Just usual courtesy exchanges of appreciation and thanks. Perfect for me.

This confusing feeling that I get was the first ever time for me. I didn't really think too much as I felt it must have been just me. I'll let it fade away. What didn't help was that in the usual exchange of appreciation and thanks that follows post-booking, I usually keep it short and simple, but the responses I received were a little out of the usual norm in such context. I honestly and still do believe that most ladies don't do that intentionally to have a client repeat, it just makes handling of repeat clients with emotional baggage more difficult.

I'll keep the details private but let's just say I never seen such words used by any escorts before. Words that are greying the boundaries, words that got me thinking if what I felt was real or was she just really good at her job and being a "good professional"? The difficult part is how to read her intentions correctly and because of all these the urge to repeat is very strong on my side but it will be mainly becase of the emotional attachment which is not how I usually approach things in p4p.
 
As a client, I've met many absolutely amazing ladies. I truly believed it was mutual that we thoroughly enjoyed ourselves during the set time that we spent together. Usual courtesy pleasantries of appreciation and thanks are exchanged after. Life goes back to normal for me, as how it should be.

However, there was this one time, I left a booking feeling very surreal, genuine real deep connection and for the first time ever I let emotional attachment got the better of me. That would be fine and typically the high goes off after a while.

The thing is admittedly, I don't repeat much, almost never. Even though almost every time mostly it was amazing, just feels like I need more variety. Sometimes the sex was mind blowing, and that was it for me. Yes even for GFE, I know that it's part of the job but you know most of the times it feels like hanging out with old time friends. Perhaps that was how I presented myself as a client.

For this particular time, I repeated more than a year later. I was surprised she remembered clear details of our last encounter. Rare given the number of clients full time workers meet let alone one who barely left an impression, that's what I think at least. But I repeated because I remembered how mind blowing the sex was and how open to kinks she was, really that was it. I knew clearly what I was going after. The end of my first meeting with her was fairly typical as well. Just usual courtesy exchanges of appreciation and thanks. Perfect for me.

This confusing feeling that I get was the first ever time for me. I didn't really think too much as I felt it must have been just me. I'll let it fade away. What didn't help was that in the usual exchange of appreciation and thanks that follows post-booking, I usually keep it short and simple, but the responses I received were a little out of the usual norm in such context. I honestly and still do believe that most ladies don't do that intentionally to have a client repeat, it just makes handling of repeat clients with emotional baggage more difficult.

I'll keep the details private but let's just say I never seen such words used by any escorts before. Words that are greying the boundaries, words that got me thinking if what I felt was real or was she just really good at her job and being a "good professional"? The difficult part is how to read her intentions correctly and because of all these the urge to repeat is very strong on my side but it will be mainly becase of the emotional attachment which is not how I usually approach things in p4p.

Well, book her again and again... only after many times you can confirm whether there’s “something”
 
@Frenchy, that's what I'm about to find out soon. I just want to go into it with the right frame of mind. Not to mention, it's going to be a 48 hours getaway kind of booking. It can be really awesome or go south really quickly.

@User#8628 nice to hear from a provider's point of view. Yes in essence that's how it is most of the time, with almost all the providers I see and it suits me perfectly fine. I understand that what happened in the time that we're together is part of the exprience. It's the post-booking interactions that threw me off and that it seemed to reinforce what I felt is correct.
 
My friend, who used to be a successful Manhattan madam, used to sigh: "My girls falling in love with a client are the main source of attrition." It happens all the time, and contrary to lore, it can work out. The friend, by the way, is a former madam, because she married a longtime client after his wife passed away. They are happy.
 
I've read/heard stories like this back in the 80's. Nothing ever changes.
 
Hmm back on the forum after a hiatus.

I might post about this in a separate thread, but I've dated 3 deriheru girls in Japan. One for only a short time but the other two were genuine and great fun.

So. Yes, it can work.
 
So OP, how did it turn out?
 
It’s great to find love in unexpected places...

That said, how unexpected is it that you would start to have feelings for such a beautiful and attentive companion... I would advise caution. A shrewd business person would anticipate their client’s needs. Maybe she takes notes and reviews them before meeting again?
 
Ime, just because there is an exchange in money, it doesn’t mean you cannot feel or have a genuine connection with the clients or escorts. Regardless of the agreement and understanding of the circumstances, it is only natural as human beings to potentially experience a deeper connection under such intimate interactions for both parties. A few ladies we’ve seen have shared with us that with certain clients, the connection is stronger and they also genuinely enjoy the physical closeness, intimacy and time spent together.

So to go back to the OP’s concerns, my advice would be to listen to your intuition. If it feels aligned, natural and comfortable, I wouldn’t overthink it. Surrender yourself to the experience/connection, treat her well, go with the flow, have fun and enjoy the ride until it ends. One of the best thing about life and being alive is when the universe gifts you with the opportunity to connect on a deeper level with another human being. The connection could be something you experience momentarily, something short term or long term but if it’s genuine, it’s totally worth taking a leap into the abyss imo.
 
Ime, just because there is an exchange in money, it doesn’t mean you cannot feel or have a genuine connection with the clients or escorts. Regardless of the agreement and understanding of the circumstances, it is only natural as human beings to potentially experience a deeper connection under such intimate interactions for both parties. A few ladies we’ve seen have shared with us that with certain clients, the connection is stronger and they also genuinely enjoy the physical closeness, intimacy and time spent together.

So to go back to the OP’s concerns, my advice would be to listen to your intuition. If it feels aligned, natural and comfortable, I wouldn’t overthink it. Surrender yourself to the experience/connection, treat her well, go with the flow, have fun and enjoy the ride until it ends. One of the best thing about life and being alive is when the universe gifts you with the opportunity to connect on a deeper level with another human being. The connection could be something you experience momentarily, something short term or long term but if it’s genuine, it’s totally worth taking a leap into the abyss imo.
Nice post Troilist. Yes nothing is permanent so we’d better enjoy whatever pleasure and happiness we can get before it’s too late.
I agree also that giving and receiving money is not necessarily incompatible with feelings. But the « hurdle » to feel it’s genuine is obviously higher if you need to pay.
 
I agree also that giving and receiving money is not necessarily incompatible with feelings. But the « hurdle » to feel it’s genuine is obviously higher if you need to pay.

I understand your point of view. But consider the context “hurdle” exists if your main focus is on the exchange of money for certain services versus viewing it as a meeting of mutual benefits. If you enter into the meeting with the context where both parties (client and escort) are there willingly, with equal rights and leverage rather than “I am paying you for service X,Y,Z” the space of creating a genuine connection is much more probable imo.
 
I understand your point of view. But consider the context “hurdle” exists if your main focus is on the exchange of money for certain services versus viewing it as a meeting of mutual benefits. If you enter into the meeting with the context where both parties (client and escort) are there willingly, with equal rights and leverage rather than “I am paying you for service X,Y,Z” the space of creating a genuine connection is much more probable imo.
True, but not easy. Always have this « you get played » voice in the back of my mind as soon as I think sthg is unfair. Tbh its not limited to P4P though. Was even worse with my spouse. Happens at work too. Life is not meant to be always fair, silly Frenchy! Should know that by now....
 
A certain regular has offered - repeatedly. That way lies madness.
But wait... why would you not get « emotional heartstrings » with a lady if you see her only at her shop? Heart wants what the heart wants :)
 
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But wait... why would you not get « emotional heartstrings » with a lady if you see her only at her shop? Heart wants what the heart wants :)

Everyone has their own limits and rules too. At least if you only meet at the shop it's going to be just for a limited time and you will also need to pay. Nothing is more expensive than free.

I've had several non-p4p girls to fall for me after having sex with them for a couple of months despite them first claiming they are just looking for sex. And if it happens to me it would be way worse for someone who is actually a decent person, like our Sudsy. :ROFLMAO: