Escorts telling their "real" name

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I had two separate experiences : in one of them , the escort told me her proclaimed real name at the end of the first session - through which I think I treated her in a kind way - without me even asking . And in the other one , another escort asked me if I wanted to know her name after our second session and I told her I really don't want to , I did so cause I didn't want to compromise her safety if she was telling the true name and didn't want another stage name if it wasn't the true one . I didn't feel I would gain anything by knowing this info. She repeated this demand in the later dates and even gave hints about it .

Does the escort trying to tell her name have any meaning ? . How often it is true - rarely I guess - ?
 
It's hard to decipher the meaning..I think it's really a case by case basis. For example if she's American and has an incredibly generic name like "Emily" then it's probably not much of a danger for her to reveal that. Perhaps it makes her feel closer to you/more at ease while still knowing she's safe if anything goes south.

If they are giving you their full names then that's another story.
 
If they tell you their 'real name' after the first session, they'd probably be doing the same for others. Just like the girls who offer bbfs. The meaning? Possibly to make you feel special (and get repeats). How often it is true? Who knows. I'm guessing most pros don't want any stalkers though.
 
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I went to a soapland a few years ago and corresponded with the lady through her e-mail on her business card. Later on she e-mailed me from a private e-mail address and she gave me a "real" name and told me more about herself.

Now that I look back at it years later, I was pretty naive and I wonder how much of what she told me was true. It wasn't anything crazy but with the number of clients she must have had every day, I don't see how I was anyone special. I repeated with her once and she was fun and cool, but soon after some changes in my life dictated that I close that e-mail account. She doesn't work at the shop anymore so that's the last I'll ever see or hear of her. She was an interesting gal and I'd considered interviewing her to write some kind of tell-all in English, but maybe I'm overestimating the market for something like that.

My guess is that a "real" name is just another alias and that anyone who would work in the industry for more than a very short period of time would take more steps to protect their identity than a single pseudonym.
 
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The meaning? Possibly to make you feel special (and get repeats). How often it is true? Who knows.
Fairly accurate.

Until you see her insurance card or driver's license, passport, etc...she's giving you a fake name. Don't get caught up the novelty of someone sharing private information with you. (and in turn, you don't share your real info... PLEASE.)
 
In my experience some local Japanese guys with little overseas experience have been very pushy by trying to retrieve my personal information. The accumulation of all these experiences lead me to feel like crossing personal boundaries is the norm here. Or maybe it’s perceived as a big “no” by me, but for them it’s not taboo? Although I have respect for cultural norms, I have my own personal boundaries.

A plausible explanation could be that the ladies are so used to these personal questions that they don’t mind initiating the name exchange. (Which could very well be their “fake” real name, because who could be so naive?)

I myself only would like to meet gentlemen who have the emotional maturity to accept that even if I have to protect my identity and hide any revealing information, that doesn’t mean we cannot enjoy each other’s company. Fake “real” names, fake compliments.. not my style.
 
I have a few regulars (one in Korea and one in the USA) where I know their real names and personal situations (i.e. info about their day jobs, gender and ages of their kids, etc). In both cases this information was shared with me without my asking and only after I’d seen them multiple times. As they were the ones who shared the info I do inquire about their kids sometimes. I guess I feel that it adds a bit more of a human touch to our encounters.
 
Why would her safety be compromised by telling you her name unless you were going to do something bad with that info?

You caught me in the act , I'm a bad guy who wants to know escorts private info for ill intentions and to do that , he refuses to receive this very info .

Sherlock is proud of you , pal . What a great and smart comment .
 
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You caught me in the act , I'm a bad guy who wants to know escorts private info for ill intentions and to do that , he refuses to receive this very info .

Sherlock is proud of you , pal . What a great and smart comment .

Nah, you're not a bad guy. You just think too much. I'm saying the ball is totally in your court. Since you don't have any bad intentions, her telling you her name isn't really a problem.
I get that your original question was if it had any meaning, but again, no need to think too deeply about it. If she starts telling you more and more personal stuff, stop seeing her. If she starts asking you personal stuff, stop seeing her. If she tries to make your relationship more than escort/client, stop seeing her. If you start developing feelings yourself, stop seeing her.
Overthinking things just worsens the fun/stress ratio.
 
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Nah, you're not a bad guy. You just think too much. I'm saying the ball is totally in your court. Since you don't have any bad intentions, her telling you her name isn't really a problem.
I get that your original question was if it had any meaning, but again, no need to think too deeply about it. If she starts telling you more and more personal stuff, stop seeing her. If she starts asking you personal stuff, stop seeing her. If she tries to make your relationship more than escort/client, stop seeing her. If you start developing feelings yourself, stop seeing her.
Overthinking things just worsens the fun/stress ratio.

Because I didn't want to make her accustomed to telling her personal info to clients . Clients are a broad spectrum , and while I might not use these info in a bad way , others might . Also I didn't want it to get more personal to the extent of having to stop her . Good escorts are not many.
 
I had two separate experiences : in one of them , the escort told me her proclaimed real name at the end of the first session - through which I think I treated her in a kind way - without me even asking . And in the other one , another escort asked me if I wanted to know her name after our second session...
The “real name” given that early on, I would just assume it’s another pseudonym.
How often it is true - rarely I guess - ?
Probably true as often as you would get their real Line and not their work Line.
Happened to me only once too. Definitely felt more friendly afterwards. IMO, it felt sort of like being one level above the normal clientele. Lol.
In both cases this information was shared with me without my asking and only after I’d seen them multiple times.
Same here, her real name came only after seeing multiple times in my case too. And then it came with a Line exchange (via QR code from her personal phone) and then later her Line ID she gave in case anything happened to her phone/number so I could re-add her.
Overthinking things just worsens the fun/stress ratio.
So true, and so applicable even outside of p4p.