fantasy vs. reality

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I start to realize that many of my fantasy are not so great IRL.
Most of coming from watching porn ... I guess it is sometimes better to watch things than doing it.
My last experience was a 3P (ffm - first time for me) not P4P. It starts well but then come the nightmare of changing condom when switching girls. One of them being a bit more passive and then finally ends up just kissing. Anyway I am glad I have tried of course. It was good but not that great.
In the same list from my past experience I will add:
Sex at the beach... sand is terrible
Outdoor in general ... uncomfortable. hitchy place ... insect.
In onsen (private onsen in resort hotel).... except with a lot of lube it is very difficult to do it in the water.
 
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Nice post. I think it's interesting to see how fantasy stacks up with reality. The condom change thing is terrible for spontaneous interaction but I guess I understand it.

For me, car sex was one fantasy that was disappointing when it happened in reality. The cramped quarters and worrying about getting caught made it much less enjoyable than I thought it would be.
 
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The mile-high club, sex underwater, at the beach. Yeah, it all sounded like a good idea.

But like most positions they do in AV it is planned to look good, not feel good.

Though I wouldn't give up on the 3P just yet, when you find the perfect girls for that it's going to be good.
 
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Lukes said:
For me, car sex was one fantasy that was disappointing when it happened in reality. The cramped quarters and worrying about getting caught made it much less enjoyable than I thought it would be.
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Plus it wrecks havoc on your suspension. ;)
 
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Hopefully with VR we will get all the good sensations without the icky ones. And enlarging the range of fantasies (fucking on Mars, with our favorite cartoon character etc)
 
In the Narimasu area, forgot the name of the park, I and a mature lady had a great time on a bench. Before this happened, we got to know each other a little. Then one day she decided to dress sexy and just go for it. I think she was equally turned on by someone watching and her kinky boots did the trick for me. Her juice was flowing quickly and very passionate kissing. A great night!
 
The problem is that people trying this just don't have enough fantasies, IMO. They're trying to do the same exact stuff you do at home in your own bed, but in the water, on the beach, in the car. They're trying to replicate exactly what they've seen in porn. Having sex in all those places can be fantastic if you don't limit yourself to a preconceived script.

Of course, a lot depends on the partner, but you have to learn to work within those limits. E.g. changing condoms doesn't really need to slow you down or break the mood if everyone is prepared and on the same page to start with.
 
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Lukes said:
Nice post. I think it's interesting to see how fantasy stacks up with reality. The condom change thing is terrible for spontaneous interaction but I guess I understand it.

For me, car sex was one fantasy that was disappointing when it happened in reality. The cramped quarters and worrying about getting caught made it much less enjoyable than I thought it would be.
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Car sex wasn't even a fantasy of mine, the opportunity presented itself and after 10 minutes we both agreed it sucked and just headed inside to her bed. It's too cramped, she hit her head twice, overall terrible experience.

Maybe if we had a van and put the seats down but then why not just go to a bed?
 
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User#8628 said:
Yes, sex in water just doesn't work out well. Its like the door gets closed off.
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It worked fine for me in a swimming pool. I guess salt water may be different.
 
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A van with a mattress in the back would be ideal, like on Bang Van, you can pick up slutty hitchhikers and make them fuck you as payment. :D

Too unrealistic? Lol
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Well in Japan much unrealistic Im afraid (never saw one single hitchiker , its apparently easier to spot girls in Shibuya :D)
 
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chaztagster said:
It worked fine for me in a swimming pool. I guess salt water may be different.
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Nah, even bathwater works bad for me. I guess it just depends on the person.

akasam said:
The problem is that people trying this just don't have enough fantasies, IMO. They're trying to do the same exact stuff you do at home in your own bed, but in the water, on the beach, in the car. They're trying to replicate exactly what they've seen in porn. Having sex in all those places can be fantastic if you don't limit yourself to a preconceived script.

Of course, a lot depends on the partner, but you have to learn to work within those limits. E.g. changing condoms doesn't really need to slow you down or break the mood if everyone is prepared and on the same page to start with.
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This is very true. In some situations you cant do certain things but can do others. And i didn't realize condom changes are that big of a deal. If guys want to cum on a specific place they also pull off the condom (doesn't always go smoothly) so i figure its not that different.


I didn't have problems with car sex when i was in my teens. But i cant speak for the guy i was with.
 
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mr roboto said:
My last experience was a 3P (ffm - first time for me) not P4P. It starts well but then come the nightmare of changing condom when switching girls.
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Good point. This is something I keep in mind while considering FMF.

(yes, I belong to the boring people category)
 
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Wwanderer said:
Has potential for role playing sex I'd say.

Speaking of which, is @Troilist still around?

-Ww
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Haha, I was typing up my response as you posted this question. I've been lurking but haven't been doing many posts lately. Same as yourself, life has taken me away from TAG. I come and go like the wind!!;)

Sex in the water whether in the pool, ocean, or shower is not my thing. As @User#8628 mentioned, things tend to close up for a girl, at least for me also. Sex in the car is just uncomfortable in terms of space and there are not a lot of options with changing positions. One of my husband's fantasy when we first dated was receiving a bj while driving which I obliged but do not recommend!! :ROFLMAO:

My fantasy on the other hand which is pretty tame but haven't tried yet, is picking up two girls at a bar and bringing them back home with us. Since we are not into picking up random strangers due to uncontrollable variables, it hasn't happened yet. But the next time we are in Japan, I wonder if @Anna Summer and @User#8628 would be up to play out my fantasy??? ;)
 
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chaztagster said:
It worked fine for me in a swimming pool. I guess salt water may be different.
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The women with whom I've had relevant experience seem to lose their natural lubrication in water (not salt water, never tried that). If you really wanna do it in water, some sort of lube might help a lot...but I've also never tried that.

-Ww
 
Troilist said:
Haha, I was typing up my response as you posted this question. I've been lurking but haven't been doing many posts lately. Same as yourself, life has taken me away from TAG.
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I understand all too painfully well how real life can get in the way of virtual life! :D Anyway, I am glad you are still around.

I come and go like the wind!!;)
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Something blowing can make me cum and iku too! (sorry, couldn't resist)

-Ww
 
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Wwanderer said:
Something blowing can make me cum and iku too! (sorry, couldn't resist)

-Ww
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Anywho, definitely heard enough stories to know that having sex on the beach or in the car isn't as exciting or pleasurable as it looks in porn. With your threesome situation, specifically issues when changing condoms, I don't quite understand the problem? I mean, there are plenty of things the 3 of you can do while the change is being done! But yeah, from what I've heard about MFF threesomes it can get VERY exhausting for the guy. Still something I'd like to try at least once but wouldn't want to be put into a situation where I disappoint 2 women instead of my usual 1.
 
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User#8628 said:
And i didn't realize condom changes are that big of a deal. If guys want to cum on a specific place they also pull off the condom (doesn't always go smoothly) so i figure its not that different.
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Because removal doesn't always go smoothly, because sometimes I go to roll it off and get my pubes caught in the condom roll or just its tighter than when I put it on, it can be awkward. Its not something that is always easy to do in the heat of the moment.

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I didn't have problems with car sex when i was in my teens. But i cant speak for the guy i was with.
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Lost my virginity in a car as a teen. I sure as hell didnt mind! Probably helped that we were both skinny as toothpicks.
 
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TheScientist said:
Its not something that is always easy to do in the heat of the moment.
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And condoms and fantasies really don't mix in the first place. Most guys fantasise about hot uninhibited sex and condoms don't belong there, more less changing them in the middle.

Even when I was watching porn I never watched any where they used condoms.
 
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Lukes said:
A van with a mattress in the back would be ideal, like on Bang Van, you can pick up slutty hitchhikers and make them fuck you as payment. :D

Too unrealistic? Lol
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Slutty hitchhikers? Hello, the Sixties, sadly enough, are merely a memory.

I remember when hitching was my primary means of long distance transportation. I've hitched across the USA and across parts of Europe, the Netherlands to Spain.

Those were the days...
 
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