FAQ For "Adult" Visitors To Japan (Read Me Before Posting)

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Below is a relatively short list of questions and answers that can give you a head start to possible fun in Japan regardless of your interest (P4P, street or bar pickups, swinging, etc).

Feel free to ask clarifying questions or provide suggestions/corrections/updates in this thread. New threads or posts that ask for information covered here or elsewhere on the board will likely get appended to this thread or removed from public view as redundant. Please send a private message to a moderator or just hit 'Report' on this thread if you have any issues. Thanks.

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The very short version is that Japan is not Thailand or Hong Kong or Singapore, which are very foreigner-friendly for P4P. Regardless of your interest, please be aware that there's three big hurdles in being involved in the adult community in Japan- language, "rules", and ethnicity, which all kind of fold into each other. If you speak no Japanese you are going to be limited in services you can get, and you'll more often than not pay more for it.

There's obviously room for disagreement on most of these questions, but this is a "light" version for people not steeped in Japanese culture.

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Question: "What's the best pink salon/soapland/strip club/independent escort/pickup bar/swinger's club/etc in Tokyo/Osaka/random city in Japan/etc?"

Tokyo Adult Guide has a list of verified providers and agencies:

Providers, Here: https://tokyoadultguide.com/threads/verified-escorts-independents.9350/
Agencies, Here: https://tokyoadultguide.com/threads/verified-escorts-agencies.9349/


We also have a stupendous number of reviews that have been graciously written up by members of our community. We suggest you read through them. You might not find exactly what you want, but at least you'll get a pretty good idea of what's available and for what price.

There's also quite a bit written regarding picking up girls in Japan in our Nampa/PUA section.

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Question: "How easy is it to pick up Japanese girls?" and alternately "Why won't <organization> send a girl to service me?"

There's two problems here: language and "rules" (ethnicity is discussed below). As in any country, if there's a language barrier you'll have a tough time. And Japanese society has many unspoken 'rules' that are ingrained from an early age. If you see people in Japan bowing while talking on their cell phone, this is one of the examples of people showing each other respect that foreigners might find bizarre.

The lack of foreign options for play are arguably tied more to these rules than anything else. Some say that it's because of fear that foreigners have big dicks, fear of disease, other general racism concerns, etc. But if you look at the 'system' (menu) of many 'delivery health' outcall websites, you'll see a dizzying array of courses, options, and of course, rules. If a foreigner doesn't speak Japanese -- or if they haven't lived in Japan their whole lives -- how are they going to obey these and all the other rules expected of them? The biggest rule in the hobby in Japan is that full service is against the law. Whether a girl actually provides it is up to her, and isn't subject to the same definitive customer service that many expect in the West.

Japanese language is along the same lines. If you can't communicate, how are is a tencho/papasan going to know that you understand the rules? Usually the more Japanese a foreigner speaks, the more of these rules they know and understand, and there's a pretty good correlation in the amount of service they can get -- although there's still cases of white folks who speak fluent Japanese and have lived in Japan for decades still getting refused from some places or by women who can't see past the non-Japaneseness.

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Question: "What do Japanese girls think of non-Japanese Asians/black guys/Arabs/Hispanics/members of the blue man group/etc?"

We're going to speak here in generalities because every person is different. But there's some generalities that can be made.

Non-Japanese Asian guys sometimes will have a harder time in Japanese society vs white guys. If a white guy starts chatting up a Japanese person in Japanese, it's a pleasant surprise for the Japanese person. A white person isn't supposed to speak Japanese, so they go from a potentially stressful or uncomfortable situation to being relieved even if the white guy's Japanese sucks. If a Japanese person assumes that an Asian guy is Japanese and then realizes that you don't speak Japanese, it's an unpleasant surprise. In a society governed by unspoken rules that are ingrained from an early age, suddenly realizing the person in front of you may not know those rules could be jarring indeed.

In terms of men that Japanese women prefer, again very generally, there's an ethnic hierarchy that goes:

1) Japanese guys
2) White guys and other East Asian guys
3) all other guys

This isn't to say that a Japanese girl looks for a Japanese guy first and will only settle for a black guy if she can't find someone "better". It means that many Japanese girls will only date Japanese guys. There's some Japanese girls that might only date white guys, or will only date black guys. Some Japanese women will date foreigners and Japanese guys interchangeably. But the further up the hierarchy a guy is, the better chance a random Japanese girl might be interested in dating him.

Japanese women, as with all women, generally appreciate men that dress well and are well groomed and are fit. If you go out for a night on the town in an old t-shirt and jeans you might have a great time, but you probably aren't going home with anyone.

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Question: What do Japanese women/soaplands/delivery health/maid cafes, etc think of tattoos/old guys/fat guys/long hair/beards/my pet parrot that never leaves my shoulder?

Remember that the number one thing that will make you stand out, for good or ill, is that you are a foreigner, either by appearance or by your language ability.

Smaller tattoos are okay. If you aren't Asian you are very likely fine. Most sex establishments (and onsen) frown on lots of tattoos because it's a symbol of organized crime.

You aren't going to be super-successful at attracting 20 year old Japanese girls if you are older or overweight, but that's pretty much the same the world over. Providers aren't going to care much about your age or size as long as you are clean, groomed well, gentle, and don't break any rules.

Providers generally aren't going to care much about long hair or beards as long as you are well groomed. Regular Japanese girls generally prefer guys with less hair. But again, that's a generalization. The Japanese generally are very focused on not being overweight, being groomed and dressing well, and being clean. Yes, there's plenty of sweaty salarymen stinking up the train on the way home that aren't really focused on this, but I'm doubting those reading this are trying to land a Japanese middle-aged man.
 
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my partner wants to go to soap land she is bi, where is the best place in tokyo.or osaka

I've never heard of a soapland that services couples but I may be wrong.

Many of the providers mentioned in the 'verified providers' linked to above have 3P services which may interest you. Do some research on those regards here and you'll find out if it's for you or not.

Enjoy your Tokyo time!
 
my partner wants to go to soap land she is bi, where is the best place in tokyo.or osaka

I think I only ever once read about one soap for women and I don't think that exists anymore.
To my knowledge soaplands generally don't offer 3Ps (meaning you plus two of their girls), so serving a couple seems highly unlikely, even if you were Japanese. Soap experience is relatively scripted and it's scripted for two.

Many LH have rooms that provide facilities for mat play, so you may want to look for some independent and set up something.
Agencies targeted on foreigners like AM, ND or maybe MIJ (if they still exist) may be more flexible and open in helping you arrange your fantasy.
 
To my knowledge soaplands generally don't offer 3Ps (meaning you plus two of their girls)

Actually they almost all do. And they don't stop at just two - I've heard of guys getting five and six girl courses.

Still, a soap that provides service to women is something I haven't heard of in recent memory.
 
Actually they almost all do. And they don't stop at just two - I've heard of guys getting five and six girl courses.

Still, a soap that provides service to women is something I haven't heard of in recent memory.

Funny, I actually wasn't sure and none of my regular places (all outside Tokyo area) has anything like that in their pricing system, but I will trust on @Sudsy 's orgy experiences :D
 
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my partner wants to go to soap land she is bi, where is the best place in tokyo.or osaka

Just like with 3P, many things not officially shown on the menu are possible depending upon the tencho.

Not in Tokyo or Osaka, but at least one place does this officially. From another post I made:

If you're in Fukuoka, though, there is a soap in Nakasu called "MORE" that has an official couple course. Now with the added possibility of kinbaku with a pro female kinbakushi! Only 40,000 for 90 minutes. Make sure to reserve in advance if you want the rope play.

http://www.soap-more.com/p_couplecourse.shtml

They also have a ladies course if your partner wants to go it alone.
 
This area in Fukuoka (Nakasu) is probably the most foreign friendly soap district in Japan, at least when you speak some Japanese. If you speak only English, that could limit your options significantly (due to their lack of English). But I could imagine a business being more relaxed towards girls.
Fukuoka is about 2.5h by train from Shin-osaka.
If that's an option for you, you may want to try to contact them before.
 
If i may ask, what passes for east-asian look? I'm Filipino, bit 2 shades darker in skin tone from typical japanese males. Many people tell me i look japanese, but i think that's due to my chinese heritage (1/8 chinese). I speak very minimal nihongo, fluent english.

What will the tokyo adult industry allow to offer me?
 
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Question: "How easy is it to pick up Japanese girls?" and alternately "Why won't <organization> send a girl to service me?"

One aspect that I think mongers should be aware of - as Japan is still a primarily mono-ethnic culture most Japanese girls have only been exposed to Japanese boys/men.

In the same way that I've known lots of American guys/girls from all races who are not interested in being intimate with people who are from other races I think it's normal for many (maybe even most) people who have little experience with other races to not feel comfortable being intimate with other races. This isn't really a racist issue - just an issue of a lack of familiarity.

Also, I can understand the position of the Tencho who doesn't want to have to interrupt some guy who doesn't get the message that she isn't offering what he wants. Sticking to Japanese clientele just makes it easy for the Tencho
 
Question: "How easy is it to pick up Japanese girls?" and alternately "Why won't <organization> send a girl to service me?"

One aspect that I think mongers should be aware of - as Japan is still a primarily mono-ethnic culture most Japanese girls have only been exposed to Japanese boys/men.

In the same way that I've known lots of American guys/girls from all races who are not interested in being intimate with people who are from other races I think it's normal for many (maybe even most) people who have little experience with other races to not feel comfortable being intimate with other races. This isn't really a racist issue - just an issue of a lack of familiarity.

Also, I can understand the position of the Tencho who doesn't want to have to interrupt some guy who doesn't get the message that she isn't offering what he wants. Sticking to Japanese clientele just makes it easy for the Tencho

I agree, not so much a racist issue but a question of familiarity and communication.
 
Girls have the right to say no to anyone they are uncomfortable with. Whether it's racism or not has little to do with it.

Obviously consent is vital, but that doesn't mean someone can't be called a racist if they don't want to fuck a certain race because they think members of that race are inferior or inherently more dangerous than other races. I do think that for the most part in Japan it's a language and cultural issue (lots of westerners particularly Americans take 'the customer is always right' literally), but banning all non-Japanese, regardless of their language ability or cultural sensitivity IS a (mildly) racist response to this.
 
Obviously consent is vital, but that doesn't mean someone can't be called a racist if they don't want to fuck a certain race because they think members of that race are inferior or inherently more dangerous than other races. I do think that for the most part in Japan it's a language and cultural issue (lots of westerners particularly Americans take 'the customer is always right' literally), but banning all non-Japanese, regardless of their language ability or cultural sensitivity IS a (mildly) racist response to this.
Banning all non Japanese is not racist because its not against one race. Even if you’d say it places Japanese as superior, Japanese are the Asian race and they don’t accept other Asians.

Let girls refuse guys they don’t want to deal with. Its a fact that guys from some countries have a biggest chance to be stronger, bigger build or have certain diseases and its fair if girls dont want to deal with that.
 
Its a fact that guys from some countries have a biggest chance to be stronger, bigger build or have certain diseases and its fair if girls dont want to deal with that.
You forgot "unenlightened" views about a woman's right to set limits.
 
Another aspect to this is the risk of doing a transaction with a party which is only in the country temporarily. Even outside the P4P industry some transactions will not be considered with parties which do not have a domestic entity. A provider and their shop has a bit more control when they constrain their clientele to the local market.
 
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Banning all non Japanese is not racist because its not against one race.

That is indeed a text book example of racism. "prejudice, discrimination, or antagonism directed against someone of a different race based on the belief that one's own race is superior".

That being said I think people are nowadays too afraid to be called racist. In many cases I found nothing wrong with being prejudiced against a group of people. After all that is many times based on previous bad experiences and thus totally valid.

Moreover I think service providers like barber shops, restaurants, massage therapist and escorts should be able to select their customers freely in whichever way they want. If someone wants to service only redheads with three pimples in their left cheek and one testicle they should be able to do that and nobody should have any say in it.
 
Moreover I think service providers like barber shops, restaurants, massage therapist and escorts should be able to select their customers freely in whichever way they want. If someone wants to service only redheads with three pimples in their left cheek and one testicle they should be able to do that and nobody should have any say in it.

That however is the problem. In the US before the 60s non whites were discriminated against to the point where they couldn't use the same toilet as a white person, you were often banned from restaurants because of your color. Allowing a "service provider" as listed above to discriminate against someone because of their race/beliefs is wrong, everyone should be able to go into X restaurant and get the same food service as anyone else. Get the same hair cut or massage as anyone else. No one should ever be able to deny you a common basic service based on how you look.

When it comes to sex workers in Japan while I don't agree with the banning of non-Japanese. I can cut them some slack. What they do is very personal, and if they feel uncomfortable performing X act on person of Y ethnicity then they should be able to say no.
 
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No one should ever be able to deny you a common basic service based on how you look.

I think we have a different definition about common basic services. Of course this is a complicated issue but if one restaurant wants to ban everyone except redhairs that opens up a business opportunity to other restaurants to serve the discriminated group.
 
I think we have a different definition about common basic services. Of course this is a complicated issue but if one restaurant wants to ban everyone except redhairs that opens up a business opportunity to other restaurants to serve the discriminated group.

I didn't live in the US back in this days nor in south Africa or other places were heavy discrimination was in place, but by your argument all of that would have been perfectly fine. In fact I'm sure there have been varbers, restaurants etc. catering to blacks only.
I agree that sex workers should be able to make their own choice, but this is the very rare exception.
It is still racist behaviour if a shop does that not based on the girls preferences, but on those of their other (racist) customers
 
but by your argument all of that would have been perfectly fine.

Are you sure that the problems the blacks had in South Africa were because they were not allowed to some restaurants? One might think they were actually caused because they were getting discriminated heavily by schools, universities, hospitals, work places and the areas they were allowed to live.

I agree that sex workers should be able to make their own choice, but this is the very rare exception.
It is still racist behaviour if a shop does that not based on the girls preferences, but on those of their other (racist) customers

Why do you think sex work needs to be the exception?

And even if the decision is based on the girl's preferences it is still racism. Even if you think it is OK (which I by the way think too) it doesn't make it less racist.