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Below is a relatively short list of questions and answers that can give you a head start to possible fun in Japan regardless of your interest (P4P, street or bar pickups, swinging, etc).
Feel free to ask clarifying questions or provide suggestions/corrections/updates in this thread. New threads or posts that ask for information covered here or elsewhere on the board will likely get appended to this thread or removed from public view as redundant. Please send a private message to a moderator or just hit 'Report' on this thread if you have any issues. Thanks.
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The very short version is that Japan is not Thailand or Hong Kong or Singapore, which are very foreigner-friendly for P4P. Regardless of your interest, please be aware that there's three big hurdles in being involved in the adult community in Japan- language, "rules", and ethnicity, which all kind of fold into each other. If you speak no Japanese you are going to be limited in services you can get, and you'll more often than not pay more for it.
There's obviously room for disagreement on most of these questions, but this is a "light" version for people not steeped in Japanese culture.
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Question: "What's the best pink salon/soapland/strip club/independent escort/pickup bar/swinger's club/etc in Tokyo/Osaka/random city in Japan/etc?"
Tokyo Adult Guide has a list of verified providers and agencies:
Providers, Here: https://tokyoadultguide.com/threads/verified-escorts-independents.9350/
Agencies, Here: https://tokyoadultguide.com/threads/verified-escorts-agencies.9349/
We also have a stupendous number of reviews that have been graciously written up by members of our community. We suggest you read through them. You might not find exactly what you want, but at least you'll get a pretty good idea of what's available and for what price.
There's also quite a bit written regarding picking up girls in Japan in our Nampa/PUA section.
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Question: "How easy is it to pick up Japanese girls?" and alternately "Why won't <organization> send a girl to service me?"
There's two problems here: language and "rules" (ethnicity is discussed below). As in any country, if there's a language barrier you'll have a tough time. And Japanese society has many unspoken 'rules' that are ingrained from an early age. If you see people in Japan bowing while talking on their cell phone, this is one of the examples of people showing each other respect that foreigners might find bizarre.
The lack of foreign options for play are arguably tied more to these rules than anything else. Some say that it's because of fear that foreigners have big dicks, fear of disease, other general racism concerns, etc. But if you look at the 'system' (menu) of many 'delivery health' outcall websites, you'll see a dizzying array of courses, options, and of course, rules. If a foreigner doesn't speak Japanese -- or if they haven't lived in Japan their whole lives -- how are they going to obey these and all the other rules expected of them? The biggest rule in the hobby in Japan is that full service is against the law. Whether a girl actually provides it is up to her, and isn't subject to the same definitive customer service that many expect in the West.
Japanese language is along the same lines. If you can't communicate, how are is a tencho/papasan going to know that you understand the rules? Usually the more Japanese a foreigner speaks, the more of these rules they know and understand, and there's a pretty good correlation in the amount of service they can get -- although there's still cases of white folks who speak fluent Japanese and have lived in Japan for decades still getting refused from some places or by women who can't see past the non-Japaneseness.
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Question: "What do Japanese girls think of non-Japanese Asians/black guys/Arabs/Hispanics/members of the blue man group/etc?"
We're going to speak here in generalities because every person is different. But there's some generalities that can be made.
Non-Japanese Asian guys sometimes will have a harder time in Japanese society vs white guys. If a white guy starts chatting up a Japanese person in Japanese, it's a pleasant surprise for the Japanese person. A white person isn't supposed to speak Japanese, so they go from a potentially stressful or uncomfortable situation to being relieved even if the white guy's Japanese sucks. If a Japanese person assumes that an Asian guy is Japanese and then realizes that you don't speak Japanese, it's an unpleasant surprise. In a society governed by unspoken rules that are ingrained from an early age, suddenly realizing the person in front of you may not know those rules could be jarring indeed.
In terms of men that Japanese women prefer, again very generally, there's an ethnic hierarchy that goes:
1) Japanese guys
2) White guys and other East Asian guys
3) all other guys
This isn't to say that a Japanese girl looks for a Japanese guy first and will only settle for a black guy if she can't find someone "better". It means that many Japanese girls will only date Japanese guys. There's some Japanese girls that might only date white guys, or will only date black guys. Some Japanese women will date foreigners and Japanese guys interchangeably. But the further up the hierarchy a guy is, the better chance a random Japanese girl might be interested in dating him.
Japanese women, as with all women, generally appreciate men that dress well and are well groomed and are fit. If you go out for a night on the town in an old t-shirt and jeans you might have a great time, but you probably aren't going home with anyone.
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Question: What do Japanese women/soaplands/delivery health/maid cafes, etc think of tattoos/old guys/fat guys/long hair/beards/my pet parrot that never leaves my shoulder?
Remember that the number one thing that will make you stand out, for good or ill, is that you are a foreigner, either by appearance or by your language ability.
Smaller tattoos are okay. If you aren't Asian you are very likely fine. Most sex establishments (and onsen) frown on lots of tattoos because it's a symbol of organized crime.
You aren't going to be super-successful at attracting 20 year old Japanese girls if you are older or overweight, but that's pretty much the same the world over. Providers aren't going to care much about your age or size as long as you are clean, groomed well, gentle, and don't break any rules.
Providers generally aren't going to care much about long hair or beards as long as you are well groomed. Regular Japanese girls generally prefer guys with less hair. But again, that's a generalization. The Japanese generally are very focused on not being overweight, being groomed and dressing well, and being clean. Yes, there's plenty of sweaty salarymen stinking up the train on the way home that aren't really focused on this, but I'm doubting those reading this are trying to land a Japanese middle-aged man.
Feel free to ask clarifying questions or provide suggestions/corrections/updates in this thread. New threads or posts that ask for information covered here or elsewhere on the board will likely get appended to this thread or removed from public view as redundant. Please send a private message to a moderator or just hit 'Report' on this thread if you have any issues. Thanks.
______
The very short version is that Japan is not Thailand or Hong Kong or Singapore, which are very foreigner-friendly for P4P. Regardless of your interest, please be aware that there's three big hurdles in being involved in the adult community in Japan- language, "rules", and ethnicity, which all kind of fold into each other. If you speak no Japanese you are going to be limited in services you can get, and you'll more often than not pay more for it.
There's obviously room for disagreement on most of these questions, but this is a "light" version for people not steeped in Japanese culture.
______
Question: "What's the best pink salon/soapland/strip club/independent escort/pickup bar/swinger's club/etc in Tokyo/Osaka/random city in Japan/etc?"
Tokyo Adult Guide has a list of verified providers and agencies:
Providers, Here: https://tokyoadultguide.com/threads/verified-escorts-independents.9350/
Agencies, Here: https://tokyoadultguide.com/threads/verified-escorts-agencies.9349/
We also have a stupendous number of reviews that have been graciously written up by members of our community. We suggest you read through them. You might not find exactly what you want, but at least you'll get a pretty good idea of what's available and for what price.
There's also quite a bit written regarding picking up girls in Japan in our Nampa/PUA section.
______
Question: "How easy is it to pick up Japanese girls?" and alternately "Why won't <organization> send a girl to service me?"
There's two problems here: language and "rules" (ethnicity is discussed below). As in any country, if there's a language barrier you'll have a tough time. And Japanese society has many unspoken 'rules' that are ingrained from an early age. If you see people in Japan bowing while talking on their cell phone, this is one of the examples of people showing each other respect that foreigners might find bizarre.
The lack of foreign options for play are arguably tied more to these rules than anything else. Some say that it's because of fear that foreigners have big dicks, fear of disease, other general racism concerns, etc. But if you look at the 'system' (menu) of many 'delivery health' outcall websites, you'll see a dizzying array of courses, options, and of course, rules. If a foreigner doesn't speak Japanese -- or if they haven't lived in Japan their whole lives -- how are they going to obey these and all the other rules expected of them? The biggest rule in the hobby in Japan is that full service is against the law. Whether a girl actually provides it is up to her, and isn't subject to the same definitive customer service that many expect in the West.
Japanese language is along the same lines. If you can't communicate, how are is a tencho/papasan going to know that you understand the rules? Usually the more Japanese a foreigner speaks, the more of these rules they know and understand, and there's a pretty good correlation in the amount of service they can get -- although there's still cases of white folks who speak fluent Japanese and have lived in Japan for decades still getting refused from some places or by women who can't see past the non-Japaneseness.
______
Question: "What do Japanese girls think of non-Japanese Asians/black guys/Arabs/Hispanics/members of the blue man group/etc?"
We're going to speak here in generalities because every person is different. But there's some generalities that can be made.
Non-Japanese Asian guys sometimes will have a harder time in Japanese society vs white guys. If a white guy starts chatting up a Japanese person in Japanese, it's a pleasant surprise for the Japanese person. A white person isn't supposed to speak Japanese, so they go from a potentially stressful or uncomfortable situation to being relieved even if the white guy's Japanese sucks. If a Japanese person assumes that an Asian guy is Japanese and then realizes that you don't speak Japanese, it's an unpleasant surprise. In a society governed by unspoken rules that are ingrained from an early age, suddenly realizing the person in front of you may not know those rules could be jarring indeed.
In terms of men that Japanese women prefer, again very generally, there's an ethnic hierarchy that goes:
1) Japanese guys
2) White guys and other East Asian guys
3) all other guys
This isn't to say that a Japanese girl looks for a Japanese guy first and will only settle for a black guy if she can't find someone "better". It means that many Japanese girls will only date Japanese guys. There's some Japanese girls that might only date white guys, or will only date black guys. Some Japanese women will date foreigners and Japanese guys interchangeably. But the further up the hierarchy a guy is, the better chance a random Japanese girl might be interested in dating him.
Japanese women, as with all women, generally appreciate men that dress well and are well groomed and are fit. If you go out for a night on the town in an old t-shirt and jeans you might have a great time, but you probably aren't going home with anyone.
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Question: What do Japanese women/soaplands/delivery health/maid cafes, etc think of tattoos/old guys/fat guys/long hair/beards/my pet parrot that never leaves my shoulder?
Remember that the number one thing that will make you stand out, for good or ill, is that you are a foreigner, either by appearance or by your language ability.
Smaller tattoos are okay. If you aren't Asian you are very likely fine. Most sex establishments (and onsen) frown on lots of tattoos because it's a symbol of organized crime.
You aren't going to be super-successful at attracting 20 year old Japanese girls if you are older or overweight, but that's pretty much the same the world over. Providers aren't going to care much about your age or size as long as you are clean, groomed well, gentle, and don't break any rules.
Providers generally aren't going to care much about long hair or beards as long as you are well groomed. Regular Japanese girls generally prefer guys with less hair. But again, that's a generalization. The Japanese generally are very focused on not being overweight, being groomed and dressing well, and being clean. Yes, there's plenty of sweaty salarymen stinking up the train on the way home that aren't really focused on this, but I'm doubting those reading this are trying to land a Japanese middle-aged man.
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