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As previously stated, I can really recommend the Metropolis Classifieds. Much better than Craigslist. I was wondering also if there are any Japanese sites similar to CL, Metropolis, etc.
 
Hi, looking for married women or couples who want to engage with other swingers in HK.
 
maxscars said:
Hi everyone.
Could anyone provide a pointer about where one might look or place a personal ad to find a woman between say 30 to 50 who is also in a sexless marriage who would like to have a discreet foreign lover? I read somewhere that the stats for sexless marriages in Japan are about 30%.

Although I do realize that "money can buy you love"... 60 minutes or　１２0 minutes at a time.., in an ideal world just a regular woman who also needs to feel "that lovin feeling" would be best.

Thanks. Max
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How is your Japanese? There are Japanese message boards ("Keijiban") where you can find exactly this sort of thing (married women looking for extracurricular activity, both paid or free).

Tokyo Metropolis sounds like completely useless advice to me, unless you are specifically looking for some bored gaijin expat wife, which probably existist. However, that means you fishing for a very rare fish in a very small population. In contrast, the Japanese scene is practically infinite.
 
Zaphod222 said:
How is your Japanese? There are Japanese message boards ("Keijiban") where you can find exactly this sort of thing (married women looking for extracurricular activity, both paid or free).

Tokyo Metropolis sounds like completely useless advice to me, unless you are specifically looking for some bored gaijin expat wife, which probably existist. However, that means you fishing for a very rare fish in a very small population. In contrast, the Japanese scene is practically infinite.
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Since you brought this up, any tips for good japanese keijiban that don't require keitai /smartphone ID ? The jp phone my jp wife and I share is not a smartphone, and besides I'd rather keep the kinky stuff to myself.
I'm here for 3 months, live abroad most of the rest of the year but would love to meet slightly more kinky people without having to go the nanpa (no time, i'm maried) or escort way ( if it's work it doesn't turn me on, much rather an ugly but horny person than a sexy pro) . I can speak read and write the lingo.
thanks
 
fransupan said:
Since you brought this up, any tips for good japanese keijiban that don't require keitai /smartphone ID ? The jp phone my jp wife and I share is not a smartphone, and besides I'd rather keep the kinky stuff to myself.
I'm here for 3 months, live abroad most of the rest of the year but would love to meet slightly more kinky people without having to go the nanpa (no time, i'm maried) or escort way ( if it's work it doesn't turn me on, much rather an ugly but horny person than a sexy pro) . I can speak read and write the lingo.
thanks
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I referenced this one in another thread:
bakusai.com

If you speak the lingo, you´ll be fine there. I am sure there must be more, but that is the only one I currently know.
 
It is interesting on this board as it seems there are mongers and there are the morally righteous people here. I used to be apart of the World Sex Guide, and we were all mongers, just like another board I am on that talks about Angeles City in PI. I just thought Tokyo Adult Guide meant just that, an adult guide for us sex starved folks (men and women) in Tokyo. Maybe I am way off base, and sorry if I am. Not here to make waves.

50% is a good ratio. 90% is really good and just bragging I feel. If you are that much of a nampa machine, you need to post some non nude and nude pics here so we can see the carnage and hail your abilities. It is like guys who are bragging for picking up cute girls in Angeles City or Bangkok/Pattaya and saying they are the shit in mongering for picking up a girl for $30 USD's. Again, not here to make waves but being a monger does have responsibilities.

I don't know about you guys (women?), but doesn't the whole 自己紹介 get redundant with nampa? In response to kristov86, yeah it does get repetitive and tiring. I much rather drop 20K-25K JPY and just do my deed without all the bullshit. If you are going to do nampa then you are going to burn that and more in money and time spent. But then again, I am a married (morally wrong) guy? haha.

My idea is the lazy, but a bit expensive way. Find the 人妻 (means wife) sites, poke and prod around them for a while and get some #'s. Those "married" women would be a prize to have on your beck and call. More skilled than the nampa starfish and you can take the car out for a few test drives before choosing. The only drawback is you need to have some command of Japanese, but what better way to learn Japanese than learn all the sukebe words with a hot 人妻. Check these 2 sites as examples of what is possible:
http://www.okusama.jp/
http://www.hihihi.jp/

So you can see some of my previous hits around town, I am attaching a few pics of some past buddies here in Tokyo. If you know the Saya girl, please do not be a jerk and contact her. The other girl lives in Nagano and is amazing with blowjobs because she has a long neck...rare for Japanese. :)

Moderator Edit: Please do not post pictures with unobstructed face views unless you have explicit permission to do so.
 
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It is interesting on this board as it seems there are mongers and there are the morally righteous people here. I used to be apart of the World Sex Guide, and we were all mongers, just like another board I am on that talks about Angeles City in PI. I just thought Tokyo Adult Guide meant just that, an adult guide for us sex starved folks (men and women) in Tokyo. Maybe I am way off base, and sorry if I am. Not here to make waves.

50% is a good ratio. 90% is really good and just bragging I feel. If you are that much of a nampa machine, you need to post some non nude and nude pics here so we can see the carnage and hail your abilities. It is like guys who are bragging for picking up cute girls in Angeles City or Bangkok/Pattaya and saying they are the shit in mongering for picking up a girl for $30 USD's. Again, not here to make waves but being a monger does have responsibilities.

I don't know about you guys (women?), but doesn't the whole 自己紹介 get redundant with nampa? In response to kristov86, yeah it does get repetitive and tiring. I much rather drop 20K-25K JPY and just do my deed without all the bullshit. If you are going to do nampa then you are going to burn that and more in money and time spent. But then again, I am a married (morally wrong) guy? haha.

My idea is the lazy, but a bit expensive way. Find the 人妻 (means wife) sites, poke and prod around them for a while and get some #'s. Those "married" women would be a prize to have on your beck and call. More skilled than the nampa starfish and you can take the car out for a few test drives before choosing. The only drawback is you need to have some command of Japanese, but what better way to learn Japanese than learn all the sukebe words with a hot 人妻. Check these 2 sites as examples of what is possible:
http://www.okusama.jp/
http://www.hihihi.jp/

So you can see some of my previous hits around town, I am attaching a few pics of some past buddies here in Tokyo. If you know the Saya girl, please do not be a jerk and contact her. The other girl lives in Nagano and is amazing with blowjobs because she has a long neck...rare for Japanese. :)
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I'm intrigued by your post. This may need a separate thread. What is nampa? Is it basically just the Japanese version of day game?
 
Have those girls agreed to have their pics posted with such commentys about their Bj abilities???
 
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I'm intrigued by your post. This may need a separate thread. What is nampa? Is it basically just the Japanese version of day game?
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I don´t know what "day game" is (English is not my native language), but "nampa" means picking up girls spontaneously. Can be anywhere. Remember how Kitty had to ward off the nampa crowd standing somewhere on Dogenzaka?
 
I am still waiting for a nekkid picture of Shammykun. What is good for the goose is good for the ganter, no?
 
dreams said:
Have those girls agreed to have their pics posted with such commentys about their Bj abilities???
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Just for a follow-up, we deleted those attachments with face pictures of those women and put the post back where it was. (minus the pictures)

-Eliah
 
I agree and confirm about "Train Nampa". A significant percentage of women (single and married) that I met in Japan, were from train rides, on the platform, or coffee shop in or near the train station.

However, talking directly to married women is more of a specialty and requires a "softer touch", verbally and in e-mail. Married women are also way more concerned about who might see them in public, so you have to keep this in mind with how you interact with her and how you are reading her behavior.

You often have to make a good excuse to meet. Let's do language exchange, let's go to this wine tasting event, let's meet at the museum, etc... It has to seem less sexual, but if she meets you, then it can escalate to very sexual.

Among the best sex I ever had were with married women. They were "thirsty for it". Dripping wet and/or willing to try anything. However, I didn't like the feeling of maybe getting a call from a pissed husband. Though there are some married women in open-marriages. Also, I meet a lot of single women, so when it did/does come time to make a choice, then I would choose the single ones and cut off the married ones.
 
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"day game" is the term for basically cold-approaching women on the street, in train stations, in coffee shops during the day, etc, and getting their number or otherwise attempting to hook up with them. It's different than going to a bar or a nightclub, as people are in a different mindset during the day than they are at night when they at least theoretically are out to have fun and meet people.
 
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meiji said:
FYI-

"day game" is the term for basically cold-approaching women on the street, in train stations, in coffee shops during the day, etc, and getting their number or otherwise attempting to hook up with them. It's different than going to a bar or a nightclub, as people are in a different mindset during the day than they are at night when they at least theoretically are out to have fun and meet people.
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Well said.
 
shammykun said:
It is interesting on this board as it seems there are mongers and there are the morally righteous people here. I used to be apart of the World Sex Guide, and we were all mongers, just like another board I am on that talks about Angeles City in PI. I just thought Tokyo Adult Guide meant just that, an adult guide for us sex starved folks (men and women) in Tokyo. Maybe I am way off base, and sorry if I am. Not here to make waves.

50% is a good ratio. 90% is really good and just bragging I feel. If you are that much of a nampa machine, you need to post some non nude and nude pics here so we can see the carnage and hail your abilities. It is like guys who are bragging for picking up cute girls in Angeles City or Bangkok/Pattaya and saying they are the shit in mongering for picking up a girl for $30 USD's. Again, not here to make waves but being a monger does have responsibilities.

I don't know about you guys (women?), but doesn't the whole 自己紹介 get redundant with nampa? In response to kristov86, yeah it does get repetitive and tiring. I much rather drop 20K-25K JPY and just do my deed without all the bullshit. If you are going to do nampa then you are going to burn that and more in money and time spent....
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On this statement about nampa...

Nampa is more cost effective when spread out over multiple dates or per the hours you spend together on a single date (like all night and until early next morning)

For example, I tend not to take women to the house on the first date, to filter out psychos. So hotels, happening bars, their house, etc...

Hotel, clubbing, and dinner can get in the 20,000 plus range in Tokyo, BUT if ONLY you are paying and this tends towards 1st dates. HOWEVER, It can happen that you strike out 3x or so. Thus it's possible to pay 60,000 yen ($600 ) in Tokyo for dates with 3 different women or 1 woman that you struck out on 3x.

Striking out and paying the entire cost of the date is where it can be expensive. But usually a strike out doesn't make it to the hotel, just dinner and clubbing, so around 15,000 yen ($150). A guy can keep it way cheaper than that, but assuming he doesn't mind coming out the pocket a bit.

I date various age ranges, so I would pay all of the date when with like a 21 year old college student, but I would expect a 31 year old working women to pay 20% to 50% of the bill. If she is wearing all kinds of expensive jewlery and designer clothes, and confesses to having money during our drink and dinner conversation, then possibly more than 50%. So on a "strike-out" date, I can usually keep it under 10,000 (100 dollars), with the lady offsetting some of the cost. Let's put that at around 1/3 on average.

On subsequent dates, there is a tendency to go to her apartment or mine, instead of the hotel. This significantly REDUCES costs. Often to 7,500 (75 dollars) or LESS per dinner date. Her offsetting the cost a bit, 5,000 (50 dollars) or less.

If you have your own place, it can be very cheap, where the woman comes straight there. Thus it's minus some food and drink in the refrigerator (maybe 2,000 yen ).

And if the hotel, married women and college students tend to be fine with short stays (2 to 3 hours), which can be 4,000 (40 dollars) or less. For working women, they are often fine with short stays at the hotel on weekdays, if there is some reason not to go to your place or hers. So dinner and short hotel stay where ONLY the guy paid would be around 12,000 yen (120 dollars) or less (often less). Less than 10,000 yen (100 dollars) if she offsets the cost a bit.

Time wise, it's actually almost the same for searching on the Internet. Sending chain e-mails to various Internet dating sites is about the same as looking for attractive women on escort websites, once you have created a template message and/or setup a profile. Sometimes women message your profile...

Street nampa, once you have skill, isn't difficult once you lose the fear of rejection. You would talk to women on your way to and from work. So not really putting a burden on your time.

Even if you travel around looking for women, where it might cost you time, the money spent is none to little. So nampa is more about effort, than expense.

I do agree that P4P excels in avoiding the crap that many women dump on men. Games, manipulation, neediness, arguments, sneakiness/cheating, difficulty in establishing and breaking off the relationship.

But even this too is offset by regular "non-pay" relationships being "more real", emotionally fulfilling, or being able to do more things sexually with the woman (provided you pick the right ones). And if you are dating multiple women at the same time, a guy can dump the more annoying women and replace her with ones that are less so.

Overall, I think the ROI (Return On Investment) depends on the mindset and willingness to put in the effort by the guy. Both have pluses and minuses that can make either direction very comparable to each other overall.
 
Hello there. This is my first entry on this Website and in a forum. I have been a reading-unit so far :)

I would like to let you know about me and then add my question asking for advice:
I was married to a JP women, we lived together. She divorced, took our kid to Japan and I moved to Japan immediately, gave up my home and opened a small Business here (I didnt see my daugther anyway but I feel like I have to stay and learn Japanese at least to understand and know the culture my kid is growing into). There is a long story to it, but I keep it short because my point is something else.
Now a couple of years have passed and now I am really getting ready to want to date and go out again. But however I dont want to go to bars etc. but noone recommends Roppongi anyway.
I had called an outcall escort two weeks ago and actually she was very cute, but I was too nervous, I just invited her for coffee, paid the full rate and thats it. I dont want to do the Robot-sex Thing. that is clear to me now.
So when you write about talking with Girls on the street getting them for a date or in the train or public spaces, that feels right to me. But honestly I have no clue how to do that. Now I would like to become more outgoing, meet and date like 15 years ago. But really ... I was past that already, married, father, etc. and how do I learn again to talk to use the cold Approach on the street? i joined JapanCupid which was a recommendation somewhere in the Forum, I like it and I write to many attractive and cute Girls there but ... maybe my Messages dont make them want to date me? They dont reply. I always write polite Messages, not offensive or something.
So can you give me advice on the Messages for online dating? some tipps? or for the real life? What should I do? I like to Play the day game or online dating. Or a paid escort that feels like a gfe - but I dont know how that could work.
 
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