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sorry in advance if I should have posted this in the NAMPA/PUA section, as I wasn't sure. I've been chatting with two girls from apps like bumble and tinder, got their LINE and managed to set a date for meeting. now as far as I know girls use those app mostly-only looking for sex, even though they might write "no hookups" or "just english lessons" that's probably to look less 'easy'. I'm not sure if that applies to Japan as well since I'm never used those apps here before.
these dates might completely fail since we never actually met before, just seen a few the pictures. for the sake of this discussion however I'm gonna pretend they won't fail because of that.
also, I've been in relationships before (in my country) but I still don't have much experience as far as dating goes, especially not here in Japan.
anyway, I won't be here for much longer (1 month and half) so while using these apps I was looking more for just some casual sex rather than an actual relationship, my question is: how should I push the first date into that direction without ruining everything in case she doesn't want to do any of that right off the bat? Is it "safer" to wait for the second date?
I've seen people suggesting to go to a karaoke and start from there (go for the make out?), never been to one though, i'm awful at singing - probably doesn't matter though - and I'm guessing you just go there, sing, drink and then try to escalate? Does that usually work (if she wants to escalate) or are there better options?
actually, 1 of those 2 girls I'm actually very interested into, so I wouldn't won't to ruin things right from the start. We've talked for a long time just today and apparently she's studying my native language (not English), so I'm fine if she wants to just hang around the city or whatever for the first dates.
regarding that, another thing: what are the most common (and obvious) signals that she wants to go or absolutely doesn't want to go for the same night sex without outright telling me?
the 2nd girl, she lives far away (1 hour by train), and she pretty much invited me to her town but I'm only seeing her in 2 weeks because apparently before then she has plans. (for the weekend, weekdays she works)
also, correct me if I'm wrong, but she mentioned that she lives in a 実家, which as far as i know means she's still living with her parents. if that's true, ending the date IN her house is clearly out of the question.
I'm also not that much into this girl, and I might just run out of time before I meet her 2 or 3 times since she has time only during the weekend apparently. should I just suggest a love hotel the first time I meet her and if she refuses just bail and sayonara.
~a dude
these dates might completely fail since we never actually met before, just seen a few the pictures. for the sake of this discussion however I'm gonna pretend they won't fail because of that.
also, I've been in relationships before (in my country) but I still don't have much experience as far as dating goes, especially not here in Japan.
anyway, I won't be here for much longer (1 month and half) so while using these apps I was looking more for just some casual sex rather than an actual relationship, my question is: how should I push the first date into that direction without ruining everything in case she doesn't want to do any of that right off the bat? Is it "safer" to wait for the second date?
I've seen people suggesting to go to a karaoke and start from there (go for the make out?), never been to one though, i'm awful at singing - probably doesn't matter though - and I'm guessing you just go there, sing, drink and then try to escalate? Does that usually work (if she wants to escalate) or are there better options?
actually, 1 of those 2 girls I'm actually very interested into, so I wouldn't won't to ruin things right from the start. We've talked for a long time just today and apparently she's studying my native language (not English), so I'm fine if she wants to just hang around the city or whatever for the first dates.
regarding that, another thing: what are the most common (and obvious) signals that she wants to go or absolutely doesn't want to go for the same night sex without outright telling me?
the 2nd girl, she lives far away (1 hour by train), and she pretty much invited me to her town but I'm only seeing her in 2 weeks because apparently before then she has plans. (for the weekend, weekdays she works)
also, correct me if I'm wrong, but she mentioned that she lives in a 実家, which as far as i know means she's still living with her parents. if that's true, ending the date IN her house is clearly out of the question.
I'm also not that much into this girl, and I might just run out of time before I meet her 2 or 3 times since she has time only during the weekend apparently. should I just suggest a love hotel the first time I meet her and if she refuses just bail and sayonara.
~a dude
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