Hi,
I have created account here just to give You that weird story.
First paragraph is for the people that want to udnerstand the whole situation fully (so for those that will want to respond). You can easly skip it and just have fun reading the rest of the story.
I am an European male in early 20s' that actually was never on a date, never went to club/bar, never was drunk etc and that is not interested in emotional connections, but... I am interested in sex, so You can already see the problem. Ah, and to top it off I am very direct and hate lying, so even after few years of using Tinder, OKcupid I met with 0 women. I was being invited more than few times to go to Disneyland, meet and walk around Tokyo etc, but I was not interested in that if there was no sex involved, and of course after plainly asking about it all women were saying they are not interested (but most of them still wanted to meet for normal things). Yes, I understand that if I met with all of them, probably it would end up with sex at least once, but that is not the point. It was just introduction. Probably everyone that read so far made already some assumptions, so to clarify them: yes, I am super introverted and even though I am direct and straightfoward, I am also actually very shy and that is why I need to know before the meeting what will actually happen. I am unable to "feel the mood" and "just go for it" etc. And to makes things weirder, I am an IT guy, but also actually quite accomplished sportsman, so I did a sport related job in Tokyo (it was summer break in my country).
One pretty important thing before reading about "date": Miracle happened and I actually found one person that agreed for sex before we even met. Later I found out that she agreed for it not because she was interested in sex, but was interested in me enough to agree for sex (because that would mean she could actually meet me). It means I had a fwb before that "date" and my objective was to just get the "dating" experience to see what I was "missing" all those year (spoiler: nothing) and not sex.
Why we went on a "date":
I am using apostrophe, because we (I hope that we and not only me) didn't consider it a date, just friends meeting to watch the movie that we were both interested in (yup, anime)
Before coming to Tokyo I talked for over a year with one girl(also in her early 20s') on Line. The reason we started was a language exchange. I will say as least as possible about her, to not give any personal info, but I can say that she had experience living abroad in english speaking country and even before she left Japan she was pretty open minded. I don't mean sex(we never talekd about it), but questioning rules etc.
Of course we planned everything what will happen on a date before meeting. cinema -> restaurant -> cinema. We only didn't have restaurant decided yet (did it in cinema before movie started). Actually she planned the hours of movies and her first plan was to go for the latest possible time when the movie was being showed. Subway was close, but I though she might miss the last train, so we changed it to the earlier hour (yup, I know the "missing the train" excuse)
Start of the date:
I waited underground on a station near the cinema we were supposed to go to. I was not sure if I can recognize her, because we sent only one or two pictures to each other one day before the meeting, but I saw someone almsot running to me and few moments later I realized someone is hugging me. I heard that it is not common in Japan, but since she spent a longer time abroad I guessed it was pretty normal (although I have hugged probably less than 3 times in my life before that). We went to cinema, ate popcorn together and watched movie. After that we walked to the restaurant (of course without holding hands).
In restaurant we ordered some normal drinks (nonalcocholic, we both don't drink alcohol normally). I don't know if it is normal, but we tried each others dishes and deserts. After eating went back to cinema.
Here 2nd thing happened that probably most of You might take as a hint from her to me, before the movie started she actually said she was sleepy (it was around 20:00 or something like that, I don't remember). to be honest even though I waited for that movie a long time I also was falling asleep in some moments (I guess going to cienma after restaurant is not a great idea).
We had no other plans after the movie, so we just started to walk back to the subway. On the way there she said that she has next day free and will just spend it with other girl watching movies in home (I think I had work next day, but don't really remember). When we reached the subway (going separate ways) we hugged again, but I think that this time I initiated it and it was really short. I just had no idea what should I do. Never was in that situation, but just saying "good night" seemed a little cold. So the difference between "welcome" hug and "good bye" hug was huge.
Funny part:
I seriously forgot omiyage from my country, so we met again other day on the train station (she was coming back from holiday in different city on that day). We just exchanged omiyage and went separate ways. No hugs this time, but I was after job (sport job and there was no shower) and she had huge bag, so the situation wasn't exactly hug-friendly.
After all we still keep in contact and made plans to meet again when I come to Tokyo...this time to watch movies in apartment.
so the main question is Can everyone say with 100% ceranity that she wanted more or maybe it was really just friendly meeting like I thought it was ?
