First Time Jitters -- I will be meeting an escort tomorrow --helpful suggestions are welcome

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Hi Everyone.

Tomorrow will be my first time to meet and have a date with an escort (if everything goes well. as of this writing some details still needs to be ironed out).

I am a nervous wreck and I can't focus on work right now (actually, since I contacted her).

1) I have already read this thread: https://tokyoadultguide.com/threads/standard-practices-for-meeting-ladies.4258/
And my escort's webpage

Are there any other things that I should be aware of?

2) I haven't been with a lot of women so my skills (bedroom wise) may not be up to snuff. I just want our date to be good for her also (I'm an old school gentleman, I believe in giving a girl a good time. And I'm really turned on if I know she is enjoying herself)
I have also read this thread: https://tokyoadultguide.com/threads/an-escorts-own-pleasure.15047/#post-110719

I plan to giver her a small gift and I want to spend 30mins at a cafe with her and talk about books (I read that she is a bookworm like me) over coffee (I would at least want to know her intellectual side first also maybe to calm myself down... drinking coffee may not be a good idea [shrug])

What else should I do?


Any helpful suggestions are welcome

Thanks
 
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Um, just be yourself?

If she's a successful escort, then she knows how to handle herself and can adapt to your needs to make you feel more comfortable.

Don't overthink it so much, just relax and be normal. Otherwise, you just make things weird for the both of you.
 
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We had a thread about things you shouldn't ask, doesn't come up in a quick search, but don't, in an attempt to make conversation, blurt out questions that you really shouldn't ask. I think some of them were
-how long have you done this?
-where do you live?

and there were several others. I'm sure that the women will be professional enough to handle dumb questions and deflect them, but better not to ask them, I think. Don't let your curiosity overrule your common sense.
 
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Dont have too high expectations, neither of her, nor of yourself, nor of the session itself. Tell her exactly what you want/need , (something I often dont dare to do myself), even if you think its dumb or shameful.
Remember that it’s not a competitive sport and having performance issues happen to everybody. Besides it’s first and foremost her job to please you, not the other way round (although it helps of course)
And as TAG Manager wrote, just be yourself and relax. Have fun! :)
 
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rob040188 said:
I want to spend 30mins at a cafe with her and talk about books (I read that she is a bookworm like me) over coffee (I would at least want to know her intellectual side first also maybe to calm myself down...
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Funny. I'm just the opposite. I immediately calm down in midsentence while standing in the shower because the little bookworm is busy reminding me of why I actually called this meeting.
 
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Thanks for the replies people...even though I'm paying for her services. I'd still like to show her a good time, though. That's just me, I guess.
 
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Thanks for the replies people...even though I'm paying for her services. I'd still like to show her a good time, though. That's just me, I guess.
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... and theres nothing wrong with that unless it stresses you and makes you feel kind of inferior/failing if you dont succeed. Be a bit selfish and think about yourself first, it’s probably whats best for the two of you. Remember that you already « give her a good time » with your donation and the extra gift...
 
Ah, I still remember. The first time was definitely the hardest and most nerve racking. Just think of it like a meeting with an old friend. This will also be a learning experience for you. A chance to form your own opinions about it. Ideally, both parties will walk away without regrets - but that doesn't always happen.

Also, if you'll be doing kissing after, tea might be a better option than coffee.
 
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My 2 cents.... It is a date, albeit a compensated date where you are paying for her time.... Treat it like a date... don't be nervous about how you will perform or not, just get to know her.. what books she likes and why she likes them, what kind of music she enjoys. What are her favorite foods, does she like to travel best trips she has taken. Have her tell you about why it was the best. Some consider this "normal" conversation... What is her sense of humor what she finds funny ie: movies, things she has experienced, etc... As for the sex... you don't need to perform like a porn star... I think many guys worry about this more than they should (Let me know Lady's if this is incorrect) I believe most women just want to have a enjoyable time with a polite, clean, and courteous man... Hold the door for her, don't talk rude to her, compliment her on her shoes, earrings, dress.. and the effort she made to get ready for the date. as one already stated, don't ask her why she is doing this work or how long, or how many dates because it doesn't matter to you. Escorts are human beings just like you - just have different jobs... so why do you care about how she earns money. If you are concerned about performance/skills - then just let her know that you don't have lots of experience, but you want to learn... I think most women would appreciate the honesty.. If you want to DATY but not sure about your skills, just ask her what she likes.... just remember you are not eating a steak... but rather licking an ice cream cone... :p Hope this helps... and please don't forget to submit a Report on your date... :D No matter how it goes... because people have given you some pointers... pay it forward by letting them know how it went.. Sound fair ? Enjoy, relax, and don't overthink it... If you are concerned about pre-mature ejaculation, and don't have any problem in erections, then you could rub one out before the date to help come your self down (remember a scene from the movie "Something About Mary") :rolleyes:
 
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Enjoy, relax, and don't overthink it... If you are concerned about pre-mature ejaculation, and don't have any problem in erections, then you could rub one out before the date to help come your self down (remember a scene from the movie "Something About Mary") :rolleyes:
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yup. :playful:
 
I'm like you, and get jitters too. Taking the time to talk before hand is good. But don't waste too much time, unless you can afford it. I think the experienced providers will know how to put you at ease. If you drink, a little alcohol can make you relax, not too much
 
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My first time, it was awesome, then the drugs came, ... jk.

I also met my first independent provider in a public place, but we just talked walking down the street for a couple of mins and found a love hotel. Just frame the date as meeting a long lost friend, and think that she loves you, trust me, it works like magic. Also, I know you read the other threads, but triple check your hygiene.
 
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think that she loves you, trust me,
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Yes, Exactly! It seriously helps your self esteem too. After all, she is going to suck your cock and let you fuck her for a few pieces of paper...If that's not love, then i don't know what is...:love::D


if you're not experienced, be gentle with her vjj. make sure your fingernails are smooth (tongue is probably safer than fingers). this is kinda obvious, but wash the places her mouth might come near (everywhere). she'll probably request a shower at the start anyway.
Afterwards, let us know how it went. Of course, no details are required. :)
 
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You could also just tell her you're new to this and she would probably take the lead a bit and take some stress off of you.
Once things get moving and you get in a good groove, something might awaken in you (or her ;)) and you can whip out your A game. Once things get going I think you'll stop worrying as much. Just need a kick-start.
 
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I’ll just mention the fingernail-trimming again. Especially if you’re planning to engage in groping/fingering/generally using your hands. Good test is to press your nail against the insdie of yor cheek. If it feels sharp, probably should trim or file it down.
 
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Again, thanks for the suggestions people. They were all helpful.
I just got confirmation regarding my date tomorrow. And we will definitely meet tomorrow.

Now, I can't sleep.
 
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I've recently met someone who had his first experience with me. He was a nerve wreck. :) This is what I've told him and what I would have told you too, don't think too much about it because the more you think about it the more disappointed you will be with yourself. And this is intimacy, it's a very complicated thing.. some people may keep scores but I don't and I wouldn't want you to either.

We also had dinner before and a little walk around the town. I believe in the soothing power of human touch so.. May be try snuggling before the actual GFE (Which usually happens later), and let her caress you a bit :)

And enjoy your date! I'm sure it will be amazing! And sleep. Because you'll get tired. And thirsty!
 
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Looking forward to the report.
 
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