First timer looking for clubs / contacts for Femdom

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Heya! I am coming to Japan for the fist time next year and would like to realize some fantasies : ) Mainly femdom (being on the recieving end of facesitting & golden shower)

I saw a travel program years ago where some European guys were showcasing a fetish club in Tokyo and all kinds of things you could partake in such a place. Now I realize they likely had some good local contacts to get inside such a place with cameras and all.
So, I'd like to know where should I start looking, if I will have limited amount of time in the country, not much language skills or local network to speak of, but willing to spend some $$ to travel within the country & pay for services? Either a fetish club or incall service from an escort. Been taking notes of all the other service providers from some of the threads here, but if any one has suggestions to my specific niche, I'm all ears!

If there are any seasoned expats / locals here who might be interested in taking me under their wing and help a dude out, that'd be highly appreciated! I am a fit white guy in my early 30s with a youthful look and a laid back personality. I am well travelled and I love learning about the cultural quirks, history, linguistic patterns etc of different countries, I can share anecdotes and observations for hours :) I can tell more about myself in DMs! Down to make new homies with similar hobbies (I'm straight though, just worth mentioning at this point :p)
 
I mean there is a whole BDSM review section here in the forum where you can find dozens of reviews that go into a similar direction. A lot of them written by guys who managed to realize their fantasies without speaking Japanese. Probably the easiest route is to contact an already reviewed provider and ask her.

Besides that there are countless shops on Cityheaven that offer all kinds of play for submissive guys. If you can communicate in Japanese that's also an option.
 
The BDSM board here has comparatively less reviews than the SL/DH/esute (and even NH) boards but pretty much everyone posting seems to have a fantastic experience in Japan, if Japanese style femdom is more your thing than European/Western BDSM (I'm also churning out some BDSM reviews, slowly getting to them...when I have time). The options span from Fukuoka all the way up to Hokkaido, though Tokyo and Osaka are best imo

As to why BDSM is great in Japan, if we're only talking about incall providers:
  • Basically no gaijin tax!
  • Many English speaking mistresses!
  • Mistresses and stores advertise online in English!
  • Email booking, no phone calls!
  • Some have taster videos available online!
  • Huge variety of play!
  • Less panel magic compared to regular stores! (imo)
  • More "extreme" play like golden showers are often factored into the base price! Whereas "normal" stores charge +3000~5000yen for such options, if available in the first place
Now, to set the scene:
  • There are certainly fetish clubs like you described but I think in Japan they're usually referred to as "SM bars"
  • The term "SM club" in Japan is just a fancy way to describe an incall service
  • Stuff you mentioned like facesitting and golden showers are actually quite common even in "regular" delivery health, if the store and girl offer these options
So, your options are:
  • independent mistresses: many have personal webpages and speak English. Browse the reviews section and click on some pages. The mistresses often link to their friends' pages too
  • SM clubs: I'd say around half of SM clubs (incall) don't advertise on the traditional avenues like Cityheaven or DTO and you need to find their sites directly. Just google in English and several should pop up. Use common sense and cross reference reviews to determine if a place is legit. But since this side of the hobby is so niche, most of what I've seen seems fine. The mistresses often remain in costume and rarely let you touch them actively, unless it's an added option
  • M性感 (sounds more in line with what you're looking for): basically soft M for indulgent/hedonistic subs. 50% regular delivery health 50% SM kind of vibe. They have the usual stuff like kissing and oral. Variety is huge and majority are listed on Cityheaven (filter by M性感 tag). A good number allow foreigners with almost zero Japanese ability but you gotta check the girl's profile to see if she accepts or not. Cityheaven booking and phone confirmation are common, though
  • SM bars / fetish clubs: i don't have much personal experience here, but i expect conversational Japanese is needed
  • Regular DH: all listed on Cityheaven. Your femdom play will need to be added as options on top of basic session. Gets expensive fast; girls here are in general less experienced in SM play so your mileage will vary
If anyone else on TAG has more experience in this side of the hobby, I'm also interested to hear your views. Still learning one experience at a time
 
SM bars / fetish clubs: i don't have much personal experience here, but i expect conversational Japanese is needed
Many of these (Titty Twister etc) are readily open to and welcoming of non Japanese speaking foreigners.
 
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So, your options are:
  • independent mistresses: many have personal webpages and speak English. Browse the reviews section and click on some pages. The mistresses often link to their friends' pages too
  • SM clubs: I'd say around half of SM clubs (incall) don't advertise on the traditional avenues like Cityheaven or DTO and you need to find their sites directly. Just google in English and several should pop up. Use common sense and cross reference reviews to determine if a place is legit. But since this side of the hobby is so niche, most of what I've seen seems fine. The mistresses often remain in costume and rarely let you touch them actively, unless it's an added option
  • M性感 (sounds more in line with what you're looking for): basically soft M for indulgent/hedonistic subs. 50% regular delivery health 50% SM kind of vibe. They have the usual stuff like kissing and oral. Variety is huge and majority are listed on Cityheaven (filter by M性感 tag). A good number allow foreigners with almost zero Japanese ability but you gotta check the girl's profile to see if she accepts or not. Cityheaven booking and phone confirmation are common, though
  • SM bars / fetish clubs: i don't have much personal experience here, but i expect conversational Japanese is needed
  • Regular DH: all listed on Cityheaven. Your femdom play will need to be added as options on top of basic session. Gets expensive fast; girls here are in general less experienced in SM play so your mileage will vary
If anyone else on TAG has more experience in this side of the hobby, I'm also interested to hear your views. Still learning one experience at a time
Great info there, thanks a million! Sorry about the late reply, been super busy with all kinds stuff IRL :)

So I take it that Cityheaven is the go to place for finding and contacting escorts? You gotta use VPN to set your location to Japan in order to browse their selection from abroad?
What's the general way of contacting service provides, is WhatsApp used in Japan or do I need to get a local / eSim and or some local messaging platform for my phone?
 
Yea cityheaven in general. The site blocks some regions, but VPN usually works
For full on SM, check out the stores' own websites, a lot aren't on CH

A voice-enabled jp mobile number is the best way to book with the store, if you speak Japanese. Still useful to have if the store has English-speaking staff but don't count on it.
If the store is on CH, there is CH Store Chat, but you'll need to register a CH account which needs a local number for SMS verification
Otherwise, LINE app (tip: don't register with a jp number)
If the girl allows direct bookings: Twitter/LINE.
Some stores take email bookings from foreigners
Each place and provider will state their own preferred contact methods
 
Many of these (Titty Twister etc) are readily open to and welcoming of non Japanese speaking foreigners.
Would you be able to get something like a golden shower in Titty Twister though?
I have never been, but I have been to sister shop Arcadia in the same building, and you won't see much action. I think the main thing is bondage and suspension and that can't be done full nude either.
 
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Would you be able to get something like a golden shower in Titty Twister though?
I have never been, but I have been to sister shop Arcadia in the same building, and you won't see much action. I think the main thing is bondage and suspension and that can't be done full nude either.
Correct.
 
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