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Getting married with an Ex sexual Worker.

its funny how when this kind of discussion happens it always degenerates into a binary thinking : they can’t be real lovers (which no sane hobbyist would expect much less want anyway) so they must be all cold greedy bitches... I felt into this trap a few times by the way.

Well I know by experience there can be a middle ground ... sex friends with financial benefits if you will. Without going into the whole L-word enchillada it can settle in a genuinely mutually beneficial story where there is respect, honesty, stimulating conversations , trips, and, well, great sex too. Rare but it can happen. So this is where the madonna/whore narrative is wrong.


Never said anything about cold greedy bitches..wth? You guys are a trip
 
Never said anything about cold greedy bitches..wth? You guys are a trip
I was’t thinking of you specifically, there are countless other discussions like that on TAG and elsewhere
 
I was’t thinking of you specifically, there are countless other discussions like that on TAG and elsewhere

Ah, I see.

In defense to the guys.. when there is a pay wall for said experiences. why wouldn't you expect for them to have binary thought.
 
Ah, I see.

In defense to the guys.. when there is a pay wall for said experiences. why wouldn't you expect for them to have binary thought.

its a hurdle , granted ... but is it better to pay anyway for a married life where you have 50% chances you won’t even get such experiences, after a while? Sometimes a very short while
 
its a hurdle , granted ... but is it better to pay anyway for a married life where you have 50% chances you won’t even get such experiences, after a while? Sometimes a very short while

I've notice with the multimillionaires I've been around. They have wives who are about a 5 in looks and bang hot escorts or SBs on the side. I blindly thought millionaires and billionaires all had smoking hot wives and that's far from the truth. Guess its a win-win situation.
 
I've notice with the multimillionaires I've been around. They have wives who are about a 5 in looks and bang hot escorts or SBs on the side. I blindly thought millionaires and billionaires all had smoking hot wives and that's far from the truth. Guess its a win-win situation.

maybe they got the millions from the wives....:ROFLMAO:
 
Yup, that’s not rational. How could you forget their names?? :cautious:
Naaah all those airhead sluts and their moronic bike-riding scum BFs should burn in the anonymous hell of my darkest soul , bwaaaah ah ah . Who’s the boss now? Huh? Yeah that shy guy with the good grades you made fun of back then, bitches! :)
( said with light and love of course)
 
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Naaah all those airhead sluts and their moronic bike-riding scum BFs should burn in the anonymous hell of my darkest soul , bwaaaah ah ah . Who’s the boss now? Huh? Yeah that shy guy with the good grades you made fun of back then, bitches! :)
( said with light and love of course)


You sound like tom leykis.
 
You sound like tom leykis.
Never heard of him so I just checked
« The show's best-known feature is "Leykis 101", in which he purports to teach men how to get sex while spending the least amount of time, money, and effort »
yeah, I wish I could do that... but my specialty is more the opposite: « how to get sex while spending way too much time, money, and efforts and still be a whiny frustrated moron » :ROFLMAO:
 
I hope you're able to work this out. As much as I enjoy the services of sex workers there is absolutely no way I could seriously date someone who does it. In America I dated a girl who used to be a popular sex worker and I just couldn't get over it.
 
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I hope you're able to work this out. As much as I enjoy the services of sex workers there is absolutely no way I could seriously date someone who does it. In America I dated a girl who used to be a popular sex worker and I just couldn't get over it.
That's a real shame though, it's just a job like everything else. So long as she does it safely, what's the real harm? Is it an ego thing, or just that she got paid to do it instead of just doing a 100 random guys from a bar?

(Disclaimer: TAG exists because one the first girls I ever dated in Japan, happen to be a sex worker. I eventually was fine with it, after I understood it a bit more. So, I can speak with authority on the subject, not just because of TAG.)
 
That's a real shame though, it's just a job like everything else. So long as she does it safely, what's the real harm? Is it an ego thing, or just that she got paid to do it instead of just doing a 100 random guys from a bar?

(Disclaimer: TAG exists because one the first girls I ever dated in Japan, happen to be a sex worker. I eventually was fine with it, after I understood it a bit more. So, I can speak with authority on the subject, not just because of TAG.)
I know that road very well. It's not for everyone lemme tell ya
 
That's a real shame though, it's just a job like everything else. So long as she does it safely, what's the real harm? Is it an ego thing, or just that she got paid to do it instead of just doing a 100 random guys from a bar?

(Disclaimer: TAG exists because one the first girls I ever dated in Japan, happen to be a sex worker. I eventually was fine with it, after I understood it a bit more. So, I can speak with authority on the subject, not just because of TAG.)

I personally don't understand why someone has to accept to date or marry someone who is a sex worker. I know sex workers who will not date me or marry me because of my race. However, this is often accepted. My color doesn't change who I am, but I accept that sex worker or women have their own values. Personally, I wouldn't marry a woman that slept with 100 guys randomly from bars. Typically, that personality arch type usually doesn't match what I am attracted to.

So am I a bad person now? I typically don't befriend men who fuck 100 random women from bars. LOL

If a girl had an onlyfan account or chaturbate I wouldn't date her or marry her. I don't think its a shame. Im a nobody and plenty of men will step-up to the plate. It just boggle my mind why men cannot have deal breakers for a partner? However, women have clearly admit they would never date or marry a client or fan..

The fact the OPs wife did it for a week.. meh. I would get over it.

but if its for years. If you hide a profession from me that's a big deal in my book.
That's a negative for me and in no way to shame sex workers.
 
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That's a real shame though, it's just a job like everything else. So long as she does it safely, what's the real harm? Is it an ego thing, or just that she got paid to do it instead of just doing a 100 random guys from a bar?

(Disclaimer: TAG exists because one the first girls I ever dated in Japan, happen to be a sex worker. I eventually was fine with it, after I understood it a bit more. So, I can speak with authority on the subject, not just because of TAG.)
We'll have to agree to disagree. has nothing to do with ego. It's not for everyone. I want to date someone who doesn't have sexual content plastered all over the internet of her naked body
 
I knew a guy, a subcontractor, who attempted to evade paying insurance for a person who lost an arm while working as a structural steel worker after a nearly fatal slip. This man (the subcontractor) was married. A couple of days later I found out about this incident, I’ve met his wife. The woman knew about it, didn’t care about another human’s life or well being and was acting all cheerful and bubbly around her husband..

Not comparing these two separate occasions but then we have people who can’t cope with the idea of being married to an ex sex worker. It can’t be that bad, I mean it’s not like we are committing insurance fraud and destroying lives, abandoning pets, abusing children or turning a blind eye on factory workers dying under the neglect of corporate monsters who profit off of their dead bodies. We just.. have sex with clients..?
Priorities....... priorities have always amazed me.
 
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I personally don't understand why someone has to accept to date or marry someone who is a sex worker. I know sex workers who will not date me or marry me because of my race. However, this is often accepted. My color doesn't change who I am, but I accept that sex worker or women have their own values. Personally, I wouldn't marry a woman that slept with 100 guys randomly from bars. Typically, that personality arch type usually doesn't match what I am attracted to.

So am I a bad person now? I typically don't befriend men who fuck 100 random women from bars. LOL

If a girl had an onlyfan account or chaturbate I wouldn't date her or marry her. I don't think its a shame. Im a nobody and plenty of men will step-up to the plate. It just boggle my mind why men cannot have deal breakers for a partner? However, women have clearly admit they would never date or marry a client or fan..

The fact the OPs wife did it for a week.. meh. I would get over it.

but if its for years. If you hide a profession from me that's a big deal in my book.
That's a negative for me and in no way to shame sex workers.

you’re right, nobody dispute the fact you are not « obliged » to marry a sex worker , and that both partners have the right to know about the other’s past if you consider such marriage. But thinking its bad for BS pseudo-moralistic reasons assigned indiscriminately to all of them is as bigotted as saying « I won’t marry a black because they’re all gangsters »
 
Thanks @Simonka for sharing your thoughts, as there are two sides of the coin.
The woman knew about it, didn’t care about another human’s life or well being and was acting all cheerful and bubbly around her husband..
This woman lives in her bubble of dependency, emotional -love, or rational -comfort. Roosevelt, referring to the dictator Somoza, supposedly said of him: "He may be a son of a bitch, but he is our son of a bitch." Good for understanding subcontractor’s wife and for how certain social stigmas are fostered and put into our minds.
 
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Yeah, I never said you're obligated... I just get tired of seeing the double-standard applied to women who work in the industry. I'm probably biased due to my close association with a lot of current and former workers, but a fair amount of them are great people with a good education (sometimes paid for by sex work) and they shouldn't be discounted or looked down upon.

There is another part of this that also bothers me - some guys will date sex workers to take advantage of their temporary high level of income. Once the money faucet stops, so does the relationship.

It's of course your choice, but I always wonder why men in particular get so hung up on, so this is why I want to hear these sorts of comments. But sorry, most of the men I run into that can't deal with it... mostly it comes from their ego and moral compass misdirection, especially from christian countries.

but if its for years. If you hide a profession from me that's a big deal in my book.
That's a negative for me and in no way to shame sex workers.
I agree that it shouldn't be hidden. Good relationships are built on honesty and trust. There are of course health risks to consider, but most of that risk can be mitigated with open communication and regular health screening.
 
you’re right, nobody dispute the fact you are not « obliged » to marry a sex worker , and that both partners have the right to know about the other’s past if you consider such marriage. But thinking its bad for BS pseudo-moralistic reasons assigned indiscriminately to all of them is as bigotted as saying « I won’t marry a black because they’re all gangsters »

if a persons moralistic decision or 'deal breakers' does not "hurt" anyone as said a "sex workers" does not hurt anyone. Where is the problem? Ironically, it seems the anti-morals are more interested in forcing rules on the individuals who have 'personal' guidelines.

Comparing an employees severed arm and the ethics of his boss to a mans wants or needs is like comparing a star to a solar system. So now sex workers are all righteous? When I travel there is a rule I follow. Where there is sex; there is crime.

So this may be just a projection of oneself maybe? Collective thinking? Blasey Ford?

I can name off tons of escorts that have robbed, stolen, lied, cheated, overdosed, committed self delete and had trauma from clients. Japan is just insanely more safe than other countries.

There are Idols that go into porn and complete lose their fan base. This is a country were many men will not marry a divorced woman and any salaryman that wants to climb the corporate ladder is most definitely not going to marry a sex worker. So talking about a subject as if sex or sexuality is not taboo is hilarious. Shintoism sex is not a sin, Christianity's No anal, no sex before marriage, and the feelings of how men views their partners sexually are 3 totally different spectrums.
 
if a persons moralistic decision or 'deal breakers' does not "hurt" anyone as said a "sex workers" does not hurt anyone. Where is the problem? Ironically, it seems the anti-morals are more interested in forcing rules on the individuals who have 'personal' guidelines.

Comparing an employees severed arm and the ethics of his boss to a mans wants or needs is like comparing a star to a solar system. So now sex workers are all righteous? When I travel there is a rule I follow. Where there is sex; there is crime.

So this may be just a projection of oneself maybe? Collective thinking? Blasey Ford?

I can name off tons of escorts that have robbed, stolen, lied, cheated, overdosed, committed self delete and had trauma from clients. Japan is just insanely more safe than other countries.

There are Idols that go into porn and complete lose their fan base. This is a country were many men will not marry a divorced woman and any salaryman that wants to climb the corporate ladder is most definitely not going to marry a sex worker. So talking about a subject as if sex or sexuality is not taboo is hilarious. Shintoism sex is not a sin, Christianity's No anal, no sex before marriage, and the feelings of how men views their partners sexually are 3 totally different spectrums.

not quite sure I understand your reasoning here but whatever... if your rule is really « where there is sex there is crime » maybe you waste your time on TAG :D
 
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Yeah, I never said you're obligated... I just get tired of seeing the double-standard applied to women who work in the industry. I'm probably biased due to my close association with a lot of current and former workers, but a fair amount of them are great people with a good education (sometimes paid for by sex work) and they shouldn't be discounted or looked down upon.

There is another part of this that also bothers me - some guys will date sex workers to take advantage of their temporary high level of income. Once the money faucet stops, so does the relationship.

It's of course your choice, but I always wonder why men in particular get so hung up on, so this is why I want to hear these sorts of comments. But sorry, most of the men I run into that can't deal with it... mostly it comes from their ego and moral compass misdirection, especially from christian countries.


I agree that it shouldn't be hidden. Good relationships are built on honesty and trust. There are of course health risks to consider, but most of that risk can be mitigated with open communication and regular health screening.


Thanks for your understanding.

I too know escorts that are highly intelligent, smart and would definitely kick my ass on an intellectual level.
Any escort here that feels offended by my statement, its understandable.. but the way men view sex and women view sex is different.

I know a plumber that makes 100k and a doctor that males 100k.Who ticks the book of marriage material for women. Guy makes rules.. he need mental help. WTH?

I do see a bias with some of the men here because they are close to escorts, but I TRY to be civil and not step on anyones toes at the same time.

In no way do I look down on escorts or sex workers. I know ones that runs a business and makes tons more money than me. I agree both men and women can exploit the sex industry. There are men who also are led to believe they have a relationship with sex workers.. but get drained mentally and fiscally by playing on mens weakness and emotions. I've also seen the guys who "sides": for sex workers typically be the most dangerous client to a sex worker and write the shittiest reviews LOL