Getting married with an Ex sexual Worker.

[animal131]

I see why we cannot have a meaningful discussion about this. Your definition of a successful marriage is totally different than mine; I would define a marriage to be successful if both people are happy in it.

I'm sorry I didn't know that cheating was considered part of a successful marriage. I stand corrected and now understand the board more.

 

[animal131]

Surely sex is not a sin by default, right?
Young, single people, healthy and horny, end up having lots of sex. What's wrong with that?
And some of the good looking ones realize they can make (good) money out of it. If they're not in a committed relationship, then again, what's wrong with that?
This is compounded by the fact that job opportunities are limited for women in Japan. They're expected to marry and become housewives! So because of that, companies don't invest in women in the workforce because they expected them to marry and quit.
Anyways, that's probably for another discussion. I have a lot of thoughts on that topic

But to go back to the original question:
I do know of a former escort who got married to a guy few years ago (and he does know of her past). I don't know them directly, so I don't know for sure how well things are going, but they're still married, so there's that.

but do you have experience being in a long term relationship with a (non-escort) civilian who has over 100-300 sex partners

 

[Frenchy]

I'm sorry I didn't know that cheating was considered part of a successful marriage. I stand corrected and now understand the board more.

« Both people are happy in it « means they are faithful if it makes them happy , they have other partners if it makes them happy, heck they are sexless if it makes them happy... you know , it’s the « make them happy » part which is important. Problem is that very often its not the same thing that makes both of them happy.

 

[MikeH]

I'm sorry I didn't know that cheating was considered part of a successful marriage. I stand corrected and now understand the board more.

Hey, that was a pretty lame attempt on building a straw man. You can't fool us, we know you already; you can do much better.

 

[Yanchan]

but do you have experience being in a long term relationship with a (non-escort) civilian who has over 100-300 sex partners

No, sorry, I don't have this exact experience. I've been in 2 long term relationships, the first lasted 4 years, the second 15 years. Both partners have had 10-20 previous sex partners. I can't know for sure, but I feel a different count would've not made a difference for how long the relationships lasted. However I do have to say, during the 1st one, I did feel I wanted to explore more (I love the ladies what can I say, but of course that's how things ended), and it was important to get (some of) that out of my system before the 2nd. Too bad I didn't know about p2p back then, things may have been simpler.

EDIT: I guess what I'm trying to say is - it is my count that needed to go up for me to be able to have a longer (faithful) relationship. I hope that makes sense.

 

[Babaram]

To the OP: Your post reminds me of one of those 12 hour transcontinental flights, and the chat with my seat neighbor.

Me: “So, happy to go home?”

He: “Not really. Last time I came home ..”

Me: “Don’t say. You found your wife in bed with another guy?”

He: “Worse. I found her in bed with another woman. I’m getting a divorce.”

Me: “What’s wrong with you? That’s the dream of most guys. I would have taken off my clothes and joined.”

He: “I know. But I can’t deal with it. I’m getting a divorce.”


So, OP, what’s wrong with you? I assume you’ve paid for sex before, otherwise you wouldn’t be here. Did you disclose this to her before marriage? She would have just laughed. And how dare you think it is repugnant if someone made a little extra money giving handjobs? If you are having moral qualms, go home, and become a pastor. Even those are not above occasional suspicion.

Instead of getting worked up, you should count yourself lucky. With her experience, she most likely won’t slap you around if you bring up the idea of going to Bliss. She most probably would happily agree to invite a former colleague to a little 3some. She won’t blame you if she found out that you had a little handjob yourself.

I’m sorry to say that, but you are an idiot, just like the guy on the plane. She doesn’t have issues, you do.

 

[Acid Burn]

I'm sorry I didn't know that cheating was considered part of a successful marriage.

There are many views on what constitutes a successful marriage. Some views conservative and some views less so. Go google it. The reality is, marriage for romantic love is only a fairly recent phenomenon. Go google that one too. You use the word ’cheating’ which carries a negative connotation for extramarital sex. Why is it that you argue that the OP has the right to feel what he does, to think what he does, but anyone who goes against what you think or say is opposed as being in the wrong?

I stand corrected and now understand the board more.

A little high nose and snark, but I’ll bite. This is a board dedicated to p4p. Did you honestly think it would be filled with people who weren’t more open and differing from conservative in their views on sex, love, marriage, human relations, etc? It seems OP wanted these kinds of alternate views from what he’s been accustomed to which is why he asked here for various opinions on his ponderings.

 

[animal131]

Hey, that was a pretty lame attempt on building a straw man. You can't fool us, we know you already; you can do much better.

Negative sir. Ironically wasn't it you that strawman the statement? When did I define a successful marriage? I stated multiple time a MAN has the option to decide if he wants to marry a person who was an escort or had high multiple partners (you guys brought up 100-1000) when the AVERAGE man or woman typically is not fucking that many people, specially in Japan.

The narrative here is that the man HAS to accept or it is he that is the problem (or broken)
My argument is freedom of choice and the narrative here is he must accept and the OP suffers from some mental disorder and needs help or therapy. "It is actually totally healthy to be upset, its unhealthy if he cannot find a resolve."

Now I asked, who here has been in a LONG term relationship or married with a person who had 300 partners?
I specifically excluded 3 parties because some people exclusively are into cuckold in this forum. Kind of fucked up to be getting advice from someone when the advisor watches his partner fuck random men/women as a fetish. No?

It is you or others in essence, saying that a man DOES not have the option to say "No thanks" I don't agree (or align) with someone past. I find nothing wrong with people having their own morals, will, and values. Just as a WOMAN can decide who she wants to be with. BTW* no one said anything about finding virgins (even though 40 fucking percent of people in Japan are virgins)

So the rebuttal was morals are Western religious bullshit.. Than don't impose the morals in the relationship.

 

[Simonka]

I hope we can all go back to having lots of sex instead of partaking in heated discussions on Tag

 

[Simonka]

Btw Lebanese American ex pornstar Mia Khalifa got married (or engaged and still waiting to be married due to pandemic ?) to her Swedish boyfriend. So yeah, sex workers can get married to decent men who love and support them

Congrats sis : D Love this girl.

 

[mr roboto]

OP is surely in the wrong forum. Too many open mind here.
Ask your local church and you will get a nice unanimous answer that may please you.

My wife had many partner before I met her, probably close to 100. But I don't care about 99 of them. Just one annoying ex who keep contacting her for few years and she never told him to fuck off..
Number does not matter, quality does.

 

[Acid Burn]

I hope we can all go back to having lots of sex instead of partaking in heated discussions on Tag

And handjobs and blowjobs. Just saying.

 

[animal131]

There are many views on what constitutes a successful marriage. Some views conservative and some views less so. Go google it. The reality is, marriage for romantic love is only a fairly recent phenomenon. Go google that one too. You use the word ’cheating’ which carries a negative connotation for extramarital sex. Why is it that you argue that the OP has the right to feel what he does, to think what he does, but anyone who goes against what you think or say is opposed as being in the wrong?

A little high nose and snark, but I’ll bite. This is a board dedicated to p4p. Did you honestly think it would be filled with people who weren’t more open and differing from conservative in their views on sex, love, marriage, human relations, etc? It seems OP wanted these kinds of alternate views from what he’s been accustomed to which is why he asked here for various opinions on his ponderings.

Japan is one of the most conservatives, homogenous, and patriarchal countries. Having conservative views and being blind sided that maybe it is not so conservative as he may have though is not a surprise. This is a country that your housewife can determine if you move up in a company (not that I agree with this) That an Idol must sign a contract that she cannot be in a relationship. The idea that the average female is running around fucking 1000s of men in Japan and that its deem as 'ok' is far from the truth and many Japanese people look down on escorting even though they use it (as stated before Madonna complex).

OP came here and asked What goes on in a fashion club and is it common here? Open views on sex and imposing the OP (is defective) is two different things sir. People would say that individuals who are highly promiscuous may suffer a mood disorder so I guess It goes both ways?

Are you saying I am wrong for agreeing with the OP and not sucking down the coolaid? I didn't know I had to agree with your views on sex or my partner.

The OP was shamed on his views and like you said the P4P forum may be sided. OPs situation is 'whatever' as she worked for a week... but if you are an escort for years.. yeah you should tell your partner or at lease not have pictures just lying around. Specially a place like Japan where a co-work maybe like oh btw you wife worked at Jan-Jan. If its considered not morally wrong why hide it in the first place?

What is wrong with using the word cheating and it almost seems you are alluding that all sexual events should be accepted by the other party? I know a girl that fucks dogs and I know another girl who gets off eating shit. I have no interest in being partners with these people or marrying them. My morals and values do not align with them

You claim that the OP is looking for ALTERATIVE views when most countries and most people are against extramarital sex when married. So are you normalizing the alternative?


BTW..What exactly am I opposing? Please cut and paste where I said a person cannot not marry a sex worker or I said anything against sex workers. Does it really hurt that much when a man says no to a woman?



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[animal131]

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Btw Lebanese American ex pornstar Mia Khalifa got married (or engaged and still waiting to be married due to pandemic ?) to her Swedish boyfriend. So yeah, sex workers can get married to decent men who love and support them

Congrats sis : D Love this girl.

"If the couple carries through with the wedding, it would mark Khalifa's second marriage. She was reportedly married to her high school sweetheart in 2011, after which they got separated in 2014 and divorced in 2016."

Lets see how long it last and never said sex workers don't get married and excluded sex workers/pornstars nor did she hid it from the boyfriend. Thanks for contributing though!

 

[RandomTokyoGuy]

"If the couple carries through with the wedding, it would mark Khalifa's second marriage. She was reportedly married to her high school sweetheart in 2011, after which they got separated in 2014 and divorced in 2016."

Lets see how long it last and never said sex workers don't get married and excluded sex workers/pornstars nor did she hid it from the boyfriend. Thanks for contributing though!

You have a particular strong opinion that relations by women who had many sexual partners are doomed to fail, so you probably didn't consider that this kind of marry your first love relationships in general tend not to have the highest success rate

 

[Simonka]

nor did she hid it from the boyfriend. Thanks for contributing though!

I guess it’s hard to hide it from your boyfriend when you’re Mia Khalifa

 

[Babaram]

When you come to live in a foreign land, familiarize yourself with the local food and local morals

 

[Frenchy]

I guess it’s hard to hide it from your boyfriend when you’re Mia Khalifa

Lol! That really made me laugh, thanks Simonka.

 

[Simonka]

Lol! That really made me laugh, thanks Simonka.

Thanks for laughing at my stupid dad jokes : )

 

[Frenchy]

Thanks for laughing at my stupid dad jokes : )

Yes, very good dad joke. Will try it on my daughter

 

[Simonka]

Yes, very good dad joke. Will try it on my daughter

 

[Lars Lust]

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Btw Lebanese American ex pornstar Mia Khalifa got married (or engaged and still waiting to be married due to pandemic ?) to her Swedish boyfriend. So yeah, sex workers can get married to decent men who love and support them

Congrats sis : D Love this girl.

The only problem I have is with his tattoo. Is something wrong with me?

 

[animal131]

I guess it’s hard to hide it from your boyfriend when you’re Mia Khalifa

I've actual met her. She is a total ….. to everyone around her. I don't think her porn life means she is fucking random men in her personal life as portrayed. If I had to pick I rather her (escort/porn star) than a woman who fucks a random guy every week. IMO

Ironically, she will not date or marry an israeli and apologized for fucking an israeli guy (she didn't know) because of her morals and values. Is she wrong for exercising her values?

 

[TAG Manager]

Is she wrong for exercising her values?

Nope, your point?

 

[Simonka]

I've actual met her. She is a total ….. to everyone around her. I don't think her porn life means she is fucking random men in her personal life as portrayed. If I had to pick I rather her (escort/porn star) than a woman who fucks a random guy every week. IMO

Ironically, she will not date or marry an israeli and apologized for fucking an israeli guy (she didn't know) because of her morals and values. Is she wrong for exercising her values?

Not very surprising since there was a conflict between Israel and Lebanon. There have been casualties and the conflict has affected lots of Lebanese on a personal level.

But why would we debate on a military conflict between Lebanon and Israel on a Japanese adult forum