I’m curious, how did you ask her to end it?
I know I posted that my SR would end soon. I even renewed my premium SA membership and been looking for another POT. But its really hard to find a good SB in my City. So for now I will still see my current. She just disappoints me sometimes. Frenchy posted about why SBs take so long to respond to texts. This is happening again, even though I complained to her about it before. She made an effort for a few weeks, then back to the delayed responses again the last couple weeks. And I know she is on FB messenger because I can see the green dot. She will have some excuse like usual. Ugh, I dont get why she cant even fake it, it takes so little effort to make me happy.
It was something we talked about early on. I've had girls tell me that they have had much older men talk about the girl dropping out of school/having children/marrying them, even early on in the relationship.
When I start dating a much younger girl I always tell her I understand she's much much younger so I'm not thinking we will get married and have kids. I want us to stay together for as long as she is enjoying it and it makes sense for her life. That could be six months, it could be a year, who knows, it could be even longer. I told her "All I ask is, if you want our relationship to become friendship only and you want to date other guys or move away, tell me; don't ghost me. I will understand your feelings and I'm happy to be friends without any sexual component."
I think a lot of girls ghost or stop responding in a timely manner because they are afraid how the guy will react to rejection. Don't forget that women are stalked, beaten up, killed by guys who won't let go all the time so girls are justified in being worried about how a guy will handle rejection. By taking that off the table, I think she will be more honest with you about where she is in the relationship, what her goals for it are (just want to go on a few trips, just want someone to take care of her while in school, while she's just starting out with work, etc) and what her life plans are. From talking with my former girlfriend, I knew she was always planning to move away from Tokyo at some point and it made it easier for her to tell me when the time came, rather than just disappearing.
For your current situation, does she have read receipts turned on (blue check marks for Whatsapp, "read" for Line, not sure about Facebook messenger)? If yes, I would send her a text something like this:
Just wanted to check how you're feeling. It only makes sense for us to keep our current relationship if it's working for both of us. I'm happy and want to keep it going. If you are too - awesome. If you're not, do you want to be friends with no sexual component?
See what she says.
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