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Title says it all. I have no problems getting Tinder dates, but never do they lead to anything.
Usually we meet, then we go drinking or dinner or both, maybe a walk through the park. Maybe a combination of these things. I feel we have a good conversation, I start getting a little more touchy, maybe putting my arm around her. And then that's it, I bring her to the station, she doesn't want to see me again.
Do I need to be more aggressive? I feel like I do, but I don't really know how. Japanese girls are so conscious about how they are perceived in public. What is a good location to go in for a kiss?
I think my problem is that I am not aggressive enough; some of my dates have actually made remarks about whether I am gay. One girl even straight out called me a pussy. I mean, not that she was wrong. I legitimately don't know what to do. I have a hard time knowing if a japanese girl is comfortable with me, because they are always so passive. I take it as a good sign if they laugh about my stupid japanese jokes and let me take the lead, but other than that, I am always afraid to make them uncomfortable with being too pushy. In hindsight, maybe that's just what they expect from me. Being the aggressive foreigner. I don't know. Can any of you guys give me a rundown for a successful Tinder date?
Like, where do you go, in what order, when do you go in for a kiss and then how to close. I am hopeless lol
Usually we meet, then we go drinking or dinner or both, maybe a walk through the park. Maybe a combination of these things. I feel we have a good conversation, I start getting a little more touchy, maybe putting my arm around her. And then that's it, I bring her to the station, she doesn't want to see me again.
Do I need to be more aggressive? I feel like I do, but I don't really know how. Japanese girls are so conscious about how they are perceived in public. What is a good location to go in for a kiss?
I think my problem is that I am not aggressive enough; some of my dates have actually made remarks about whether I am gay. One girl even straight out called me a pussy. I mean, not that she was wrong. I legitimately don't know what to do. I have a hard time knowing if a japanese girl is comfortable with me, because they are always so passive. I take it as a good sign if they laugh about my stupid japanese jokes and let me take the lead, but other than that, I am always afraid to make them uncomfortable with being too pushy. In hindsight, maybe that's just what they expect from me. Being the aggressive foreigner. I don't know. Can any of you guys give me a rundown for a successful Tinder date?
Like, where do you go, in what order, when do you go in for a kiss and then how to close. I am hopeless lol