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How to have a successful Tinder date

Ddddd said:
I guess that you wanted to quote just the last part of my comment?
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You made some very good points but I disagree on one. Japanese girls are usually not in Tinder or other applications to get sex. So if you don't do anything they will be happy to go on platonic dinner dates with you until the world ends.
 
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To the OP

Two words

Eye Drops


Act like you have some thing in your eye and ask her to help administer eye drops.

Not only do you get a bit of physical contact, you allow her maternal instincts to take over.

Way better than what I originally thought.
 
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Rusty Trombone said:
To the OP

Two words

Eye Drops


Act like you have some thing in your eye and ask here to help administer eye drops.

Not only do you get a bit of physical contact, you allow her maternal instincts to take over.

Way better than what I originally thought.
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Yeah, 100% success guaranteed
Another option is to say your zipper is wide open and you need her to close it because you have terrible cramps in your fingers which prevent you to do so
 
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Rusty Trombone said:
Way better than what I originally thought.
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Also if for some strange reason that doesn't work you can mix the rest of the drops with your own drink and then you get to start from zero the next day.
 
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MikeH said:
You made some very good points but I disagree on one. Japanese girls are usually not in Tinder or other applications to get sex. So if you don't do anything they will be happy to go on platonic dinner dates with you until the world ends.
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I guess that all of them want something. But some of them want a husband and think that sex is something that can happen after some weeks/months of relationship. OP needs to weed out those ones the sooner the better...
 
MikeH said:
You made some very good points but I disagree on one. Japanese girls are usually not in Tinder or other applications to get sex. So if you don't do anything they will be happy to go on platonic dinner dates with you until the world ends.
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After the third date of those, I just toss them aside and move on. Usually after the 2nd it's almost automatic love hotel. About 50% have sex on the first date.
 
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warubuta said:
If you lack confidence/skill in closing, you should break your dates into two. First date should be cheap and planned such that there is no question of sex happening in that date. Daytime. Or meet with friends (hers or yours). Have a hard stop. You need to meet someone later or whatever. Second date should leave almost no question that sex will need to happen. Invite her to your place and make dinner. Or think up something that makes it very obvious that there will likely need to be sex. Dinner and then a midnight movie in Shinjuku is a good one. If she balks at the second date then cut your losses and dump her. The two part process takes a bit more time and maybe a bit more money, but it produces better results. In Japan, the percentage of girls who will fuck on the second date is much, much higher that the first. This is true in most cultures, but in Japan it is really much, much higher.
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In Japan, I have never had sex on the first date and over 90% of the time, sex happens on the 2nd date. I’m convinced there is some girl code that allows for this provision.

Your 2-step process is exactly what I do.
 
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In Japan, girls are not looking for hook ups on Tinder? I thought they would only write the "no ONS/hook up" stuff to safe face .
Maybe I am just going into my dates with completely from expectations. How can you not want to have sex 24/7. Oh boy, the world is complicated huh

I will just focus on getting to the 2nd date for now.

Anyway, if kissing and touching is uncommon in public and especially on the first date anyway, what could make my dates think that I am gay.
Also, should I be careful with being too touchy? Is it better to refrain from holding her on the first date? Do japanese customs allow for japanese girls to let me know if I am going too far on the first date (i.e. move away a bit, or maybe even just tell me) or will they just stay silent about it, suck it up and feel uncomfortable? I am really not used to all the ambiguity over here, these old fashioned gender stereotypes feel awkward to me
 
Frenchy said:
Another option is to say your zipper is wide open and you need her to close it because you have terrible cramps in your fingers which prevent you to do so
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I almost fell out of my seat, on my usual train, laughing after reading that comment!
 
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magiczebra said:
Anyway, if kissing and touching is uncommon in public and especially on the first date anyway, what could make my dates think that I am gay.
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If they wanted to be with a tame salaryman with no confidence and no guts to do the first step, they would be dating with Tanakasan, who joined the company two years ago.

If, for some reason they choose to date a 鬼畜外人, they will probably expect something different to what they are used to.
 
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I've been on 3 Tinder dates since starting this thread, all of them went great: we laughed a lot, there was touching from both sides and definitely attraction. Yet, none of the girls wanted to go on a second date with me. They just stopped responding to my texts. I clearly must be missing something, I just don't understand what it is. All 3 dates were short (2-3 hours) and to the point, only 1-2 locations each. What I noticed is that all the good byes felt really awkward - is it not common to hug each other for a good bye in Japan?
 
magiczebra said:
What I noticed is that all the good byes felt really awkward - is it not common to hug each other for a good bye in Japan?
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It seems you have no problems noticing things, it is the changing of your behaviour based on those findings that seems to be missing.
 
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magiczebra said:
I've been on 3 Tinder dates since starting this thread, all of them went great: we laughed a lot, there was touching from both sides and definitely attraction. Yet, none of the girls wanted to go on a second date with me. They just stopped responding to my texts. I clearly must be missing something, I just don't understand what it is. All 3 dates were short (2-3 hours) and to the point, only 1-2 locations each. What I noticed is that all the good byes felt really awkward - is it not common to hug each other for a good bye in Japan?
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You are definitely missing something or just in a fantasy world if the same thing continues to happen. You are clearly not seeing the same thing they are since it's continuing to be awkward.
 
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Yeah, 100% definitely I am missing something. I just don't understand what it is. I mean, that's why I started this thread. 2 times I went for the hug, 3rd time I didn't. what else do you do to say good bye? just wave your hand?
 
magiczebra said:
Yeah, 100% definitely I am missing something. I just don't understand what it is. I mean, that's why I started this thread. 2 times I went for the hug, 3rd time I didn't. what else do you do to say good bye? just wave your hand?
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Have you even tried to ask to go to a more private area?
 
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No! On the first date? Earlier in this thread, you guys suggested to have a "platonic" first date, so I didn't ask.
Was that dumb?
 
magiczebra said:
No! On the first date? Earlier in this thread, you guys suggested to have a "platonic" first date, so I didn't ask.
Was that dumb?
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Well, it hasn't been working at all so far and you've yet to get anything more than awkward goodbyes. If you're getting meetups that regular on tinder, they may be looking for something other than platonic.
 
Hey you're not alone, I am also laughing about myself. At the same time, I am crying inside because I really need to get laid but I am too fucking dumb

I have only tried the first date/second date thing three times so far; but yeah, before I never tried to push to a more private place. I cant take them to where I live, Karaoke is kinda specific, I think lots of people just genuinely don't enjoy it. So, depending on the girl, usually suggesting a love hotel is the only option. Feels fucking awkard to me, but Ill just see if it works next time

Durg50 I swear to god I am not a troll I am just really inexperienced, because back in middle/ high school I was always the ugly fat kid. I am not anymore, but I am still inexperienced.
 
magiczebra said:
Hey you're not alone, I am also laughing about myself. At the same time, I am crying inside because I really need to get laid but I am too fucking dumb

I have only tried the first date/second date thing three times so far; but yeah, before I never tried to push to a more private place. I cant take them to where I live, Karaoke is kinda specific, I think lots of people just genuinely don't enjoy it. So, depending on the girl, usually suggesting a love hotel is the only option. Feels fucking awkard to me, but Ill just see if it works next time

Durg50 I swear to god I am not a troll I am just really inexperienced, because back in middle/ high school I was always the ugly fat kid. I am not anymore, but I am still inexperienced.
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Ok, can i suggest you just pay someone to fuck you? (ie an escort) get it out if your system and then you will have more confidence and less neediness / desperation which your dates will pick up on and lead to second dates (and sex)
 
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