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How to keep trance mode / magic over several dates?

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Okay the pull isn't a problem for me, I have candidates.

My problem is I'm rubbish at planning dates.. we basically just end up somewhere like a restaurant or a park talking, Karaoke so normal so typical etc...

Once you have made the pull and gotten the date,

What are the tips/tricks for designing the date to make it feel like you have taken her to another magical world to want her to want to come back?

Do the movies just make this seem too easy?
 
I'm sorry, you're not going like my answer.

To be perfectly honest, my best 'magical' dates have been simple dates to a classic coffee shop, walking around at night, sitting in a family restaurant just chatting for hours and simple things like that. I've done fancier things, but the simple stuff is usually the most honest where we can sit enjoy our time together without alcohol or other noise bothering us.

We're having fun and she comes back to me, so it seems to work. :)
 
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Nature. Nothing beats Nature.

Love hotels beat nature any day.

Unless you were referring to doing it without a condom.
 
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Love hotels beat nature any day.

Unless you were referring to doing it without a condom.

Guys the OP was thinking about better places to have dates, not necessarily just about where they end up! Bunch of pervs! :D
 
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Depends on how much time you have and how much money you want to spend.

I've done things like ramen hopping at the ramen museum in Yokohama, VR arcades, visiting obscure cafes and weird restaurants, dining somewhere at Roppongi Hills followed by walking around and then get coffee. Those turned out to be nice dates, a bit different than the usual.

I'm also rubbish at planning dates because my idea of fun is limited mainly to food and fucking with alcohol and nicotine sprinkled in but I've learned over the years. Basically, think things like "what would a foodie do?" Or "what would a hipster do?" Lol.
 
What are the tips/tricks for designing the date to make it feel like you have taken her to another magical world to want her to want to come back?

I think this feeling is much less about places you take her and more about the way you interact with her and captivate her mind while you're with her. After all, anyone can take her... well, anywhere. But only you can be you with her.
 
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Great replies so far! In my opinion the simple things often work well, particularly when there’s a lot of chemistry to start and both people have similar expectations. However if you’ve pulled a girl who’s far out of your normal league doing something exciting and memorable goes a long way towards establishing a stronger connection. Active dates are great for this, theme parks, arcades, skydiving :D Bascially you’ve got to keep her interested and wanting more until you can get her in bed and give her a few orgasms. Then you’re golden ;)
 
I assume you are communicating with the one you "pulled" via LINE or some other method ? What are you chatting about ? Are you asking her what her hobbies are ? What she likes and dislikes ? What was her best date ever and why ? what was her worst date ever and why ? The nice thing about using an app to chat, is you can go back and re-read it. These are natural questions too, as a potential "girlfriend" and by asking you are showing her you are "truly interested" in her or at least to her it seems you are. If she gives you "IDK" answers on the date questions, then that's what the hobbies are for, if she doesn't have any then Likes and Dislikes. can guide you. Provided that you Listen, or Read her replies, then just use that information as your guide. The payback is:
A) You showed that you listened to her.. I think most women/girls appreciate this - tell me if I'm wrong Ladies....
B) You acted on the information you listened to - and that will get a "You are Soo Sweet" or similar response.
NOTE 1: This is usually called "normal communication" but what's normal anymore in this world ?
NOTE 2: Don't do all the items in one night... unless your goal is to Hit and Quit.. string them out a bit, and also throw in some of your likes and dislikes and tell her... this way she feels she is getting to know you and your world. An you are not ready to put a bullet in the brain from boredom of her needs - if that's the case.
Another Corny Way: "Treat Her Like A Princess" go to DONKI and get a cheap tiara... maybe a plastic wand... put it on her head and have her carry the wand... (it gets her hand used holding something round LOL)
Then Open the Door for her... Pull out the chair for her, you can go full CORN and say "After You Mi Lady" and have a small box of chocolates stashed somewhere (not in your pocket - they will melt dumbass) and for every thank you she says - give her a chocolate... She is now literally eating out of your hand...:D Think of how excited she will be to tell her friends about this wonderful date she had.

But you have to provide a TAG Report on how it went... and we want the details... If you use the above: I am held harmless and not accountable for bad dates ! ! !:rolleyes:
 
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I assume you are communicating with the one you "pulled" via LINE or some other method ? What are you chatting about ? Are you asking her what her hobbies are ? What she likes and dislikes ? What was her best date ever and why ? what was her worst date ever and why ? The nice thing about using an app to chat, is you can go back and re-read it. These are natural questions too, as a potential "girlfriend" and by asking you are showing her you are "truly interested" in her or at least to her it seems you are. If she gives you "IDK" answers on the date questions, then that's what the hobbies are for, if she doesn't have any then Likes and Dislikes. can guide you. Provided that you Listen, or Read her replies, then just use that information as your guide. The payback is:
A) You showed that you listened to her.. I think most women/girls appreciate this - tell me if I'm wrong Ladies....
B) You acted on the information you listened to - and that will get a "You are Soo Sweet" or similar response.
NOTE 1: This is usually called "normal communication" but what's normal anymore in this world ?
NOTE 2: Don't do all the items in one night... unless your goal is to Hit and Quit.. string them out a bit, and also throw in some of your likes and dislikes and tell her... this way she feels she is getting to know you and your world. An you are not ready to put a bullet in the brain from boredom of her needs - if that's the case.
Another Corny Way: "Treat Her Like A Princess" go to DONKI and get a cheap tiara... maybe a plastic wand... put it on her head and have her carry the wand... (it gets her hand used holding something round LOL)
Then Open the Door for her... Pull out the chair for her, you can go full CORN and say "After You Mi Lady" and have a small box of chocolates stashed somewhere (not in your pocket - they will melt dumbass) and for every thank you she says - give her a chocolate... She is now literally eating out of your hand...:D Think of how excited she will be to tell her friends about this wonderful date she had.

But you have to provide a TAG Report on how it went... and we want the details... If you use the above: I am held harmless and not accountable for bad dates ! ! !:rolleyes:

I totally vouch for that approach ... if a girl gives me a crown and scepter then chocolates I usually accept to have sex with her immediately , and for free! :)
 
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Am I missing something ? H word ? or "W" word ?:rolleyes:
The W word is forbidden too? (They both have same meaning by the way, you get it now? :))
Let me check: whore

Edit after check: so it seems it's only the H word
 
Back to topic : one place I found great for a kinky date was, believe it or not, the Arscimboldo exhibition in Ueno.
There was a Renaissance plate with a face not made of fruits or vegetables , as usual with this artist, but made of dicks. Which must have been very "avant-garde" at that time!
My SB couldnt resist of course to take a picture (giving thus a new meaning to "dick pic") and got scolded inmediately by the very unsexy and unfunny lady guardian of the room, which made the whole situation even more interesting ! :D
 
"Treat Her Like A Princess" go to DONKI and get a cheap tiara... maybe a plastic wand... put it on her head and have her carry the wand... (it gets her hand used holding something round LOL)
Then Open the Door for her... Pull out the chair for her, you can go full CORN and say "After You Mi Lady" and have a small box of chocolates stashed somewhere (not in your pocket - they will melt dumbass) and for every thank you she says - give her a chocolate... She is now literally eating out of your hand...:D Think of how excited she will be to tell her friends about this wonderful date she had.

But you have to provide a TAG Report on how it went... and we want the details... If you use the above: I am held harmless and not accountable for bad dates ! ! !:rolleyes:

I’m actually pretty tempted to do this just for fun. Have a couple of candidates in mind. One girl it would bug the living fuck out of to start which would be hilarious, but in the end she’d go along and really enjoy being the center of attention and having an unusual experience. The other girl is kinda like a puppy, doesn’t matter what I do she’s happy, but this experience might bit a bit too intense and cause permanent trauma. Pretty sure she’s a virgin.

Teasing is an incredibly effective seduction technique. It shows you aren’t very impressed by her charms and don’t take her seriously at all. I’ve mocked a girl until she begged me to kiss her :ROFLMAO: Gotta calibrate right though, the hotter and more experienced she is the harder you can go.
 
vargas.... would welcome the report on your trial with both... I doubt it would be too traumatizing... but I agree with you... it's an excellent way to step up the kino and close :D
 
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Great replies so far! In my opinion the simple things often work well, particularly when there’s a lot of chemistry to start and both people have similar expectations. However if you’ve pulled a girl who’s far out of your normal league doing something exciting and memorable goes a long way towards establishing a stronger connection. Active dates are great for this, theme parks, arcades, skydiving :D Bascially you’ve got to keep her interested and wanting more until you can get her in bed and give her a few orgasms. Then you’re golden ;)

Thanks for the tips, going to try and use a variant on BB0523 idea.

One thing: getting her into bed has been incredibly easy, my dilemma is I want to continue getting her into bed/relationship for as long as possible :whistle:

Eventually, people are right though, it is just going to click or not after about 5-10 dates.
 
OKAYSPOT, if you make her orgasm to the point of her eyes rolling up into her head... and you confirm that she is enjoying the sex... my guess, is she will be back for more even you take her to McD's....
I hope the variant works and Please Give Us a Report.. Attention span of people is getting less and less in this instant gratification world. that's why you have to keep her attention based on what she likes etc.
The only other words I would impart to you... Don't become her bitch at her every beck and call just for the pussy... It's hard not to cuz you dig the sex with her, but then she will start treating you like a puppy and the fact is you are not a puppy.. Ive seen friends fall into this more than once. Hell I've even done it too... it is not a good experience.
 
Don't become her bitch at her every beck and call just for the pussy...
Some guys can't help it.

IMHO, you have to enjoy doing other things too besides being naked in a bed together. Don't get me wrong, that part is and should be completely awesome... but if the chemistry sucks, not much you can do. If I'm with a girl that I can spend hours upon hours with outside of a hotel or a bedroom and not get bored of her, that's a huge plus.

I think it's a good idea to report on how things go, just not for this one but you other guys as well. It's a good gauge of what's done right and what's done wrong.

Booty calls aren't a bad thing, but most of us can't survive on just that part alone.
 
Some guys can't help it.

IMHO, you have to enjoy doing other things too besides being naked in a bed together. Don't get me wrong, that part is and should be completely awesome... but if the chemistry sucks, not much you can do. If I'm with a girl that I can spend hours upon hours with outside of a hotel or a bedroom and not get bored of her, that's a huge plus.

I think it's a good idea to report on how things go, just not for this one but you other guys as well. It's a good gauge of what's done right and what's done wrong.

Booty calls aren't a bad thing, but most of us can't survive on just that part alone.
Spending time together in a hotel can be fun as well though.
Booking a love hotel stay, ordering delivery, watching movies between the sheets or even doing love hotel karaoke, taking a bath together in the jacuzzi... sleeping together (but be careful with your personal belongings, lol!)
 
IMHO, you have to enjoy doing other things too besides being naked in a bed together.

If I'm with a girl that I can spend hours upon hours with outside of a hotel or a bedroom and not get bored of her, that's a huge plus.

Booty calls aren't a bad thing, but most of us can't survive on just that part alone.

Well reading that was a bit of a rollercoaster ride. I went from no, don't agree to ok, yeah and then to nope again.

Guess I am left with it depends. :p

There are some girls with whom I am almost only naked in bed, but then again if we were not I would still not be bored with them. Just that we normally don't have time for anything else.

So with some girls booty calls, both ways, alone can be extremely great and enough. But booty calls with boring girl would become boring pretty soon. :confused:
 
but be careful with your personal belongings, lol!
Slightly off-topic, and maybe silly question... but how do escorts (or clients) deal with this during overnighters?
We all have to sleep...
Does she sleep while clutching her handbag? Lock the bag and tie it to an arm?

But I guess there's always going to be an element of risk involved.